Are you speaking my Love Language

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions!We had to record this episode a few days early because we didn’t know if Laura would be on a plane to South Africa to be reunited with Matt after I’m a Celebrity, Get Me Out Of Here!By this time, you’ll well and truly know the outcome of whether he made it to the final and whether Laura survived the 30 hours of flying with two kids!Vibes for the week:Britt - Netflix Apple Cider Vinegar Keeshia - Mid Amanda Keller and Anita McGregor Know How Lucky They Are Laura - Case-Mate Stick It! Then we jump into your questions!CAN I DATE MY LATE HUSBAND’S FRIEND?My husband passed aways in an accident nearly 3 years ago, he was 29 and we had been together since we were 16. After years of heartache (which will live with me forever) I’m finally feeling open to the idea of dating again. I’ve recently reconnected with an old friend who was a friend of my husbands too. He has the most grounded, secure, kind energy and I have found myself having feelings for him. I have no idea where he stands on this situation and whether or not he just sees me as a friend. I want to ask him/ tell him how I’m feeling but I don’t want to get it wrong and potentially uplift our friendship. Help THEY NAMED US GODPARENTS WITHOUT ASKING US FIRSTA couple of weeks ago, my husband and I attended my cousin's baby's dedication at church. All was going well until they announced in front of all our friends and family that my husband and I were the Godparents to their child....We were shocked. There was no previous conversation surrounding this topic, and my husband and I agreed that if they asked us, we would politely decline as it's a serious role to take on as we already have 3 kids of our own (and wanted to try for another). We stood there awkwardly smiling and didn't know how to react. We were never "asked" to be their child's Godparents and were announced with the title in front of everyone with no prior discussion. Is it rude of me to have a conversation with them and explain that we thought it was unfair of them to announce that in front of our family when we were never even asked if we would take on the role, or should I say nothing and pretend like we aren't bothered by it?SHOULD I HAVE MY PARTNERS PHONE PASSCODE?I have a lot of trust issues… I’ve had a rough time with relationships and trust. I always go through my husband's phone (once a day I would say) not necessarily finding anything just “making sure”. About a month ago I asked him to change his password so I couldn’t go through his phone anymore. What do you ladies think about this; not having your partner's phone password? Do you think it will help my trust as I have to keep reminding myself he is a good guy and my past is still haunting me or do you think it’s unhealthy? I did counselling for a long time after my previous relationships but now it’s too expensive with two children. COULD MY PARTNER BE GETTING A FREE RIDE?I have been with my partner for 5 years and we are expecting our first child. I already owned a house before meeting him and have since sold it so we can buy something for our growing family. The issue is, I am the only one contributing to the deposit and it is a large sum of money from the sale. He is older and has no assets of his own. How do I navigate this so I don’t resent him for ‘getting a free ride’ to a house which I’ve worked so hard to have for myself? I can’t help but resent him for not getting his shit together earlier. For context, we had similar upbringings and occupations so there isn’t much of a salary difference between us. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

16 Feb 50min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. What's on the show Britt's wardrobe malfunction at the Bridget Jones premiere (or did she?) Do twins ACTUALLY use being twins to get out of trouble? Britt's Dancing With The Stars partner Craig Monley Chrissy Tiegen is in hot water (literally) with her bathing habits (again) Britt chats about media rewriting the 'cougar' narrative Tara Pavlovic on normalising couples counselling The Pick Up has a Ghost Baby haunting the studio? Your worst date stories You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

14 Feb 47min

When it comes to topics like pleasure and sex, we all have different biases and shame that we carry and it’s difficult to distance ourselves from the conditioning and societal values that we’ve grown up with. But this episode is definitely going to make you evaluate your thoughts on sex, shame and empowerment. Joining the podcast today is sexologist and academic Dr Hilary Caldwell. Hilary was a sex worker in secret for 20 years and kept her double life from her friends and family. She didn’t have any of the stereotypes that seem to surround women for their reasons of getting into the sex industry and she certainly didn’t need to be saved from it.Hilary has used her experiences in the industry alongside her research to unpack why we feel so much internal shame when it comes to sex. Dr Hilary Caldwell is an academic with a Masters in Health Science and Applied Science. Her doctorate, ‘Women Who Buy Sex in Australia’ was the first study in the world to explore women buying sexual services and was informed by her professional career in the field of sexology. We chat: Hilary’s reasons for entering the sex work industry and whether they’re the same as everyone who enters the industry Hilary’s experiences entering the industry that oppose preconceived ideas and the things she regrets Why Hilary continued nursing at the same time Why she kept her other work a secret from friends and family What made Hilary want to enter academia and infiltrate the system The different experiences that women have around sex in comparison to men Emotions like jealousy and how poly relationships navigate jealousy Some of the things that sex workers collectively keep secret Why sex workers are fighting for decriminalisation rather than legalisation of their industry You can find more from Hilary at her website And instagram You can find Hilary’s book “Slutdom: Reclaiming shame-free sexuality” You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

13 Feb 48min

Hey Lifers, First up, please vote to save Matt in the jungle here!Laura is slightly concerned about Lola's 'spontaneity' if they end up being sent to South Africa to be there for the final of I'm a celeb. She's developed a new way to release her rage 🌙. Britt has asked one of us to be a very important person involved in her wedding, but it's not Laura... Laura knows exactly why she wasn't asked. If you had the option of seeing your friend's wedding dress before their wedding day without their permission, would you take a sneak peak? Be honest!It's valentine's day this week. We're here to celebrate all of the Valentines, the galentines, the palentines and the ... dogentines. Would you rather a 'traditional' valentines gift like flowers, chocolates etc, or something more 'practical'?Do you think it's okay to vent to your friends about your partner? We unpack what Jake said to Ashleigh on MAFS about 'breaking the trust' after she went to speak with one of the other contestants about some of the horrible things he said about other women during the photo ranking challenge. We speak about what makes it okay to vent and what makes it a bit of a betrayal to your partner. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

11 Feb 1h 2min

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deepest, darkest dilemmas.Did you have a good 'theme' for your hens? We might all be going as the different versions of Britt. There are a few to choose from!We have spoken about Laura's revelation about how chickens reproduce for the past few weeks but today we list the ridiculous things that you didn't learn until far too late. Vibes and unsubscribes for the week:Britt - unsubscribing from fake real estate photosKeeshia - Prof G Markets PodcastLaura - The brand - Kinga Csilla Then we get into your questions! DO I GIVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE BECAUSE SHE IS?One of my closest friends has a toxic relationship with her toddler's father. He abandoned her around the time of the birth, and for the first year of the child's life. He has a drinking problem, has cheated, has said some really vile things and even got her pregnant again while having another girlfriend on the side. As you can imagine, I've been there for all of this, and stepped in during his absence a lot. I obvs hate his guts. After being away from him for some time and getting her life back together, he has come crawling back, and now they are back on and LIVING together. I physically cannot bring myself to support this, and I feel awful because I have distanced myself entirely for months. Am I being selfish, and should I give him another chance because she is? I haven't told her how I feel but my silence and absence I think would speak volumes - and hers does too. How to handle this? DO I TELL MY HUSBAND MY PAST DATING LIFE INCLUDED WOMEN?My husband and I are happily married with kids. We’ve been together for about 8 years. He’s a pretty open guy generally speaking but we are from a conservative city so I do sometimes hear comments from him and his family to suggest otherwise. I listened to your episode yesterday about talking about your past relationships. My husband has never wanted to hear about my past relationships, nor share much about him. So here’s the thing… My past few years of relationships before we got together were with women (one of which I lived with). I have no issue with my sexuality but the years of not sharing these details with him have made this into a bigger deal in my head and I feel like if he found out now, it would be a bit of a shock to him. So my question is, should I tell my husband I like pussy or leave it? COUSIN’S HUSBAND SAYS HE HAS FEELINGS FOR MEMy cousin “Shelly” and her husband “Dean” have been together for 14 years and have 3 kids. Recently, they’ve joked about separation and divorce. My husband and I also have kids and often catch up with them. Over the past few weeks, Dean started messaging me, saying Shelly didn’t want him to talk to me but he needed to tell me something in person. I ignored him at first, thinking it was strange, but he kept insisting. I assumed he’d found out something about my husband as our relationship has also been very rocky. Today, when we caught up, Dean told me he and Shelly were essentially separated but staying together for the kids. He said he’d been unhappy for years but felt happy and comfortable around me, repeatedly complimenting me and saying he likes being around me. It was clear he has feelings for me, so I tried to shut it down, reminding him that he and Shelly have been through a lot and we are family. Should I tell Shelly what happened? I don’t want her to think I’m betraying her or have ill intentions. I feel blindsided and thrown into their drama. Our family can be intense, and if this gets out, it’ll likely cause a huge mess. I don’t want to hurt my cousin. MY FRIEND’S BOYFRIEND FOLLOWS PROBLEMATIC ACCOUNTSMy really good friend has this boyfriend who I have been a bit wary about because of some of his political views. He follows some far right, almost conspiracy level accounts that are hectically pro trump, and other dangerous men like Ben Shapiro etc. He also follows a LOT of onlyfans girl’s accounts. Here's where it also gets a little complex- my friend is Asian and has joked about perhaps her (white) boyfriend being with her only because she is Asian and wondering if he has "yellow fever" (a derogatory term for men who like to date Asian women because of the kink of submissive behaviour). All of the women were Asian creators on his follow list. My friend doesn't have instagram so she won’t check to see who he is following. Should I tell her about his instagram account or just stay out of it? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

9 Feb 45min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. Every week we are live across the country on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials. What's on the show Can you judge someone by the bread of their dog Cyber farting a criminal case MAFS expert John Aiken Ben exposed himself on TV Angie Kent and her IVF journey You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

9 Feb 47min

We’ve said it a hundred times; communication is everything. But we aren’t really ever taught how to actually communicate. What makes someone a good communicator? And why is it so important? People aren’t just born good communicators and it’s something that we can all improve our skills on. Joining the podcast today is Pulitzer prize winning reporter and author Charles Duhigg. Charles’ most recent book titled ‘supercommunicators’ investigated the simple and tested methods for communicating and connecting with anyone. Charles went deep on what exactly makes someone THE person that everyone wants to have conversations with; whether it be in your romantic relationship, at work, with friends and even with strangers. We speak about: How having ‘different types’ conversations with partners is likely why you feel misunderstood or not listened to Becoming ‘neurally entrained’ and using the ‘matching principle’ to be a good communicator How to ask the right questions The communication of conflict and how to avoid it - ‘when you’re feeling furious, get curious.’ Can you ‘learn’ to use communication in a manipulative way EQ, unlike EQ is learned, not born with The difference between true vulnerability and fake vulnerability You can find more from Charles at his website You can follow Charles’ InstagramHis book “supercommunicators - How to unlock the secret language of connection’ is available in hardcopy and audiobook on audible and spotify. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

6 Feb 54min

Hey Lifers! Lola turned 4 and Matt would apparently prefer a mango than... intimate time with Laura. Mangoes are particularly juicy at this time of the year though.Britt has been very busy for the last few weeks working on a secret project that she can finally reveal! We speak about how Ben felt when he first found out, why the show has such a spicy reputation overseas and how she's been going with her partner! Are celebrities 'renting' wombs?Surrogacy is nothing new to the celebrity world but the response to Lily Collin's baby arrival was quite unusual. Comments like: "Surrogacy becoming a trend between celebrities is one of the finest expressions of capitalism," and "You are so rich that you think you can use a woman as an incubator and you can purchase a baby." We unpack whether we feel differently about surrogacy if a surrogate is commissioned for non medical reasons. In a world where women are told they can 'have it all and be it all,' do we have a problem when a woman outsources her pregnancy? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

4 Feb 48min