A New Face! Do We Really Want Celebrities To Be Transparent About Plastic Surgery?
Hey Lifers, Laura is joining us from Bali today (for work) and Keeshia is filling in for Britt but is in a bit of a funk after moving house over the weekend. They say that if you want to test your relationship, build an ikea flat pack together. Moving house seems to be the level up from that when it comes to testing your relationship. Have you faced the test and realised things about your partner that you’ve never thought before? Laura’s ‘for you’ page is the stuff of nightmares. We might be back tracking on saying that the algorithm only shows you what you spend time on after this 😂. But she’s found a solution for you if yours needs a refresh and an overhaul! There are some changes coming to NSW with how ADHD may be diagnosed and medicated. Most of the commentary online was encouraging of these changes but we speak about why we think it’s a little bit more complex than what it might appear on the surface and how it may add to the stigma that ADHD already has.You can listen to Cloud here Do you want to know if a celebrity has had plastic surgery… or does that just make things worse? Do we want transparency or does it normalise unrealistic beauty standards? Kris Jenner’s new face has infiltrated many group chats and we unpack whether being out and proud about surgery demystifies what it takes to obtain a particular aesthetic or whether it promotes and encourages unnecessary cosmetic procedures. We ask if it’s more damaging to pretend you haven’t had surgery—or to be transparent but promote it like it’s no big deal (when it might be expensive, painful, and risky). You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
27 Maj 57min
Ask Uncut - Did My Husband Get Another Woman Pregnant?
Hey Lifers!Britt has a laundering hack for you after a clumsy morning and an all white outfit.What happened at a wedding that had the potential to ruin the day?Vibes for the week: Britt - The Trial of Erin Patterson Podcast Keeshia - Cheat Unfinished Business on Netflix Laura - Cosmeceutical Serum Vitamin B3+ Then we jump into your questions! DON’T TRUST BF’S FEMALE FRIEND Been with my boyfriend for 1 year. I don’t trust one of his female friends as I find her actions off. The insecurities started after her engagement party when I got the spidy tingles. The next morning my boyfriend confirmed they had a situationship for two years - ended in 2022ish. I was friendly with my ex and spoke openly about this prior so was unsure why he didn’t tell me - he said he didn’t want me to feel uncomfortable. Since then I’ve noticed off actions. They say “love you” when ending a phone call, he limited their contact to once every few months and she called saying “why don’t you love me anymore?”, sent him a photo memory of them in his bed wearing his shirt with no context, and on their last call made an inside joke after inviting us to stay at her house saying he could sleep on the dog bed at hers, but I could get my own room at her parents house. I laughed out of awkwardness and she said “how’s the fake laugh?”. I told my boyfriend these things make me uncomfortable and we had a levelled respectful conversation. He said he hadn’t noticed these things as off but can see my perspective. I don’t think she has romantic feelings, but more like she is trying to big dog me. He said he will end the friendship, but I’m not sure that is fair. What do you think? How should we approach this? MIL HAS GIVEN ME THE ICK My mother in law has given me the ick, and my poker face is wearing thin. 1 year ago, my partner and I got matching tattoos of hearts. About 3 months ago, my MIL was at an event and messaged our group chat to let us know the event had a tattoo artist and she was getting one (her first tattoo). Next minute she sends a photo of the tattoo and it's a heart! I thought this was a joke, but when it was confirmed as real, I felt really angry. We visited my MIL a few days later and we asked how she landed on the heart. She said there were a few options such as a flower or butterfly, but something was drawing her to the heart. My partner is not bothered by this, but he isn’t bothered by much. I however, feel she has taken away the significance from our matching tattoo as we are now in a tattoo throuple! It's been 3 months, so is this something I should just get over? I used to absolutely adore my MIL, she is kind and well meaning, and wouldn't have done this maliciously, but now I struggle to engage with her and avoid visiting where I can. How do I come back from the ick ?! DID MY HUSBAND GET ANOTHER WOMAN PREGNANT? About two months ago I told my husband that I am separating from him due to years of coercive control. Things started to get worse since we had our first child in May last year. My 'almost' ex husband recently asked me to bring him his old mobile phone (I haven't allowed him back into the house) and I thought that was strange so I snooped. I found his google history showed he had been on eharmony and also searched elite singles within one month of me saying it's over. However he’s still asking to fix things and get back together because ‘that is what's best for our child’. I also searched his photos and hidden deep in a file I found a photo of a pregnant woman. This photo was not a photo you send to anyone or post online. It's a selfie of her in her underwear in the mirror showing her bump. I snooped some more and found another photo of this same woman with another bump photo. I'm already jumping to conclusions and of course I’m thinking he got this woman pregnant. He does work fifo and is away for about 4 weeks at a time. Is this crazy for me to think he's cheated on me and has a child with another woman somewhere? Is there another logical explanation why it would be normal for a married man to have a photo like this hidden on their phones? I haven't confronted him yet as he is the type of man with narcissistic personality traits and will lie. What should I do? GETTING OVER THE LOSS OF MY CAT VIA BREAKUPHi girls, love the pods (cloud included). I am currently going through a breakup but I’m really struggling with the loss of our pet cat we had together. We bought him together (he paid so he is his) and honestly I think I held out on breaking up for so long because of the cat. I just have this constant worry he won’t be treated as well as how I was treating the cat and is this silly of me to feel this way about a FREAKING PET?! I have asked to see him but my ex says it is not possible and wants to keep things seperate. How do I get over this and this guilt I have of leaving the cat with him (Btw my ex is a great cat dad but I treat my animals like babies and he sees them as pets and that’s what makes it hard). You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
25 Maj 44min
The best of the pick up
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. What's on the show: Producer Grace had a Facebook Marketplace disaster Should it be okay to pick the gender of your baby? Who did your kids call that they shouldn't have? TikTok sparks debate on 'chivalry for pregnant women' Marlie drew a nude of Laura at school You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
23 Maj 27min
PCOS - Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. Fertility, Weight and ‘Balancing Hormones.’ Uncut with Dr Izzy Smith
Polycystic ovarian syndrome or PCOS is a condition that affects 1 in 9 women. The symptoms include things like pimples, increased body hair, thinning of the hair on our head, missed periods (and the flow on effects that affect fertility and build up of the endometrium which is a risk factor for endometrial cancer), increased risk of developing metabolic syndrome (insulin resistance, diabetes and cardiovascular syndrome) and increased risk of mental health conditions. PCOS sucks! (You can probably tell who from the team is writing these episode notes). Keeshia was diagnosed with PCOS about 4 years ago so today Keeshia and Britt are joined by the wonderful Dr Izzy Smith! Dr Izzy Smith is an endocrinologist who has special training in women’s health (PCOS, amenorrhea, menopause transition) thyroid dysfunction, eating disorders and athlete health. In today’s chat we speak about: The large variety of symptoms & why it’s often misdiagnosed What’s going on with our hormones PCOS and fertility Lean PCOS v Overweight PCOS How insulin resistance develops Weight management Cortisol and stress Treatment options for PCOS What helps and what is marketing BS Endocrine disruptors Are weight loss medications an appropriate treatment for PCOS? Find more from Dr Isobel Smith at her website And her instagram We referenced an episode about weight loss medications with Johann Hari that you can watch here. Izzy also mentioned The Eco Well and the endocrine society website You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
22 Maj 48min
The 'Hot Assassin'. Pretty Privilege and the Robin Hood Effect
Hey Lifers! Laura has given herself an ick and Britt has a new friendship test that has crossed the line even for Keeshia. There are just some things that friends draw the line at and that point has been established.It was Britt’s hens party!! We had the best day and early night! We have a conversation about sober curiosity. Have you noticed a shift in alcohol in your friendship groups? How do you feel about your partner’s phone use before bedtime? Apparently it could be ruining your relationship. So is it a bit of a harmless decompression time or should we really be trying to be more present? Could ‘the Robin Hood’ effect excuse Luigi Mangione of murdering United Health CEO Brian Thompson? The trial is happening right now and there has been a documentary released called ‘Who Is Luigi Mangione?’ We unpack the rather strange public and celebrity response to this case and some studies that explain just how far attractiveness bias and the halo effect extends. We also speak about the ethical ambiguity at the heart of the Robin Hood effect: the belief that wrongdoing is excusable—or even noble—if the victim is morally corrupt. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
20 Maj 56min
Ask Uncut - An Ick From The Aisle, A Suspicious Training Camp and A Cheating Boss
Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning question. First up, what time period of empathy do you get from your partner/friend/family when you’re feeling unwell? Is it prolonged or does it have a steep decline? Vibes for the week:Britt - DOG Taste Boosters https://dogbydrlisa.com/products/dog-taste-boostersKeeshia - Careless People by Sarah Wynn-Williams Book Laura - Weleda Skin Food https://www.weleda.com.au/product/skin-food-75ml-g009398 Then we jump into your questions! FEELING ICKY ABOUT DAD WALKING ME DOWN THE AISLE I am getting married soon and feel a bit icky about my dad walking down the aisle with me. I’m not a fan of the tradition of being “given away” from one man to another. For context, I’m not super close with my dad but we don’t necessarily have a bad relationship. My parents are quite traditional, growing up my dad was the “provider” and mum a SAHM, so I really didn’t have much of an emotional connection with my dad. I know it will upset my parents if I tell them I want to walk down the aisle by myself, so I’m not sure if I should just suck it up to keep the peace. What should I do? BF WENT AWAY FOR WORK TRAINING AND IS VERY CLOSE WITH A WOMAN THERE My partner has just left for 5 months to be trained in his soon to be career. I was obviously very sad that he was going but proud of him. The week before he left I noticed that he was acting a little strange and constantly texting somebody. I’ve never had an issue with this before as my partner is very loyal and loving. When I was looking at something on his phone, a girl‘s name popped up. When I asked him about it he never said her name, just said it’s the “guys”. It was a message from her about said training, so I had a look and found messages back and forth about how excited they are to see each other down at the training. Something didn’t feel right, we had a conversation about how this made me feel and I was still left feeling weird about it all. The day before he left every time I looked at his phone he was talking to her and flicking his screen up so the messages went away. I asked him if he could not be so chatty with this girl and that I didn’t like it as they were about to be spending months together and having very limited communication with me. Should I bring this up again with him about how it makes me feel and that I would like for it to end??! I want him to make new friends and focus on his training but I can’t stop thinking about this situation. I don’t want to be constantly worried about this for 4-5 months. DO I TELL SOMEONE THEIR WIFE IS CHEATING? My boss—let’s call her Sally—confessed to me ten months ago that she had a fling with a married man during a business trip. She was convinced she was in love and even planned to move to America for him. That ended, but for the past eight months, she’s been secretly seeing another guy in a different state. The problem? Sally has two kids and a long-term partner, Fred, who thinks she’s traveling for work. In reality, she’s been maintaining a whole other relationship. Meanwhile, Fred is an amazing, supportive father who has no idea what’s going on. Sally has shared way too many details with me and swore me to secrecy. But I feel awful. I was cheated on by my ex-husband, and when I found out, it crushed me that so many people knew and stayed silent.Now, Sally and Fred are semi-separated but still living together. She plans to tell him this new relationship just started—but I know she’s been cheating for over a year, likely longer. Do I tell Fred? I don’t want to blow up his life, but I would have given anything for someone to have told me. What would you do? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
18 Maj 55min
The Best Of The Pick Up - Can You Smell The Rain??
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. What's on the show: We test Ben on classic Aussie Slang Tully Smyth joins the show to chat about being an ambassador for Dementia Australia The official list of things that SOUND romantic but really aren't Is Laura's unborn baby a victim of Third Child Syndrome? Laura is one of the 20% of people who can smell ants, and we've just realised that not everyone smells rain? Horrible Housemates Laura's neighbour MAY have stolen her cat You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
16 Maj 41min
We’re Taught To Not Talk About It. Miscarriage, Shame and Grief. Uncut with Dr Jessica Zucker
Shame and stigma are used to keep us in line and keep us quiet. Some of it is quite obvious, while other parts of the shame and stigma are more subtle and a little harder to recognise. From girlhood, we are taught that we should look and feel a certain way. The expectations of motherhood, our careers, our bodies, whether or not we should choose marriage are all laced with taboos. Today’s guest is Dr Jessica Zucker. Jessica is a clinical psychologist with a PhD who specialises in reproductive health and the author of the award-winning book I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement. Today we are going to unpack some of the concepts of her second book titled Normalize it: Upending the Silence, Stigma and Shame That Shape Women’s Lives. We speak about: Jessica’s own miscarriage and how women tend to blame themselves when they experience miscarriage Being told to keep pregnancy a secret until 2nd trimester & how it can leave women feeling unsupported The trifecta of silence, shame and stigma and how they all feed each other “At least” comments and how they try to ‘tidy up’ pain Objectification theory Navigating diet culture and health messaging with our kids The language we use when it comes to health and conditions like cancer of ‘beating it,’ ‘be strong’ and ‘fighting’ Perfectionism and it’s link to anxiety The narratives of what we ‘should’ want to be like married and mothers You can get a copy of Dr Jessica Zucker’s new book here: Amazon Find her on Instagram: @ihadamiscarriage And more from her website: drjessicazucker.com You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
15 Maj 46min
