97. New Tools for When Communication Breaks Down (Part 2)
In the previous episode I talked about the negative communication cycles that every couple get stuck in. I shared with you the formula to communicate effectively to create understanding and connection between you and your spouse. But what if you run into roadblocks and that communication doesn't work when you try it? This episode is all about how to address the three most common blocks (and tools to fix it) where communication breaks down despite your best efforts. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
15 Juni 202324min
96. Breaking Negative Communication Cycles and Preventing Arguments (Part 1)
Every couple gets caught in negative communication cycles. When there is anger, defensiveness, shutting down and avoidance, it makes it impossible for a couples to find connection and resolution to the problems they are facing. In this episode I share with you the most common negative cycle and the specific formula detailing how you can escape the pattern to create a file of connection and understanding between you and your spouse. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
9 Juni 202329min
95. 3 Strategies to Build Your Self Esteem
Pornography addiction has a huge impact on the self-esteem of the husband who struggles as well as his wife who has been devastated by his addiction. In this episode, I share with you three specific strategies that you can use immediately to begin to rebuild your self-esteem, increase your confidence and feelings of worth, and feel more hopeful and optimistic about the future. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
1 Juni 202324min
94. How to Deal With Urges For Pornography Without Needing Willpower
Get ready for an eye-opening episode where we tackle the challenge of overcoming the urge to watch pornography. Join us as we delve into a new way to deal with the triggers and nagging thoughts that constantly tempt men towards pornography. In this episode, I share a unique approach that throws traditional willpower and discipline out the window and help you discover a new approach that is sustainable and more comfortable to help you overcome an urge without needing to work harder. This episode is all about revolutionizing the way we deal with addiction and offering you a fresh perspective for lasting change. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
25 Maj 202323min
93. Self Compassion: A Research-Based Tool to Reduce Slips and Heal Trauma
Do you ever feel trapped in the same addiction cycle, struggling for years without making any progress? You're not alone. But there's one secret that can help you break free and heal for good: self-compassion. Many people believe that being hard on themselves will make them do better, but research shows that self-compassion is the key to overcoming addiction. In this episode, we'll share the story of a client who felt trapped in a vicious cycle of shame and self-loathing, and how we helped him see that self-compassion was the answer. We'll discuss the power of treating yourself with kindness and understanding, even when you slip or relapse. Don't give up hope - you can break free from addiction. Start with self-compassion, and we'll be here to support you every step of the way. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
18 Maj 202320min
92. Tools For A Marriage When There’s No Emotional Safety
Today we're going to talk about pornography addiction and how it can affect a marriage. It's a problem that undermines safety, destroys trust, and creates a feeling of betrayal for the spouse. But the good news is that there are three things you can do to address this problem and save your marriage from being stuck in a cycle of mistrust and pain. When a relationship lacks safety, it can be hard for the other spouse to let their guard down and be vulnerable. The husband's addiction becomes a wedge between the couple, and it takes a toll on the relationship. But it's important to understand that the husband is not the problem. The addiction is the problem, and the goal is to help the husband break out of the addiction and create a sense of safety and connection in the marriage. Fear is what's driving the mistrust and pain in the relationship, and it's important to address the reasons behind the lack of trust and safety. Whether it's low self-worth, feelings of rejection, or ingrained habits, it's important to deal with the addiction directly and get the tools needed to overcome it. Without directly addressing the addiction, the spouse will never feel safe, and the cycle of mistrust and pain will continue. So, if you or someone you know is struggling with pornography addiction in a marriage, listen to this episode for practical tips on how to create safety, rebuild trust, and have the kind of relationship you desire. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
11 Maj 202325min
91. When the Fear of Another Relapse Is In the Back of Your Mind
Struggling with pornography addiction can be a difficult road to travel, especially when trying to rebuild trust in a relationship. Even when progress is made, there's often a fear of slipping back into old habits, which can leave both partners feeling discouraged and defeated. In this episode, we'll explore how to approach this issue differently, so that you can feel peace and confidence as you make progress towards a healthier, happier life. We'll discuss how slips and relapses don't come out of nowhere, but are the result of underlying reasons that can be identified and addressed. join us as we help you navigate this challenging issue and find hope for a brighter future. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
4 Maj 202321min
90. 3 Critical Conversations to Have to Heal Your Marraige
Podbean info: After pornography addiction damage is a marriage, there are three critical conversations to have in order to heal and find closure. So often couples will rehash the past, feel completely overwhelmed or avoid having a difficult conversations for fear of them leading to a fight. In this episode I share with you not only with those three conversations are but how to have them in a productive way. For therapy with Sam: Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
1 Maj 202321min
