256. The Unfettered Urologist - Dr. Boone

Today we welcome Erika Davian – we are both certified at the Life coach school and someone connected us!  I had been saying that someone ought to coach the men! And then she showed up in my life! Today we are learning about surrogate partner therapy with her. We need to pay attention to the men too! And we are in this episode! She tells us how she got into this niche. She helps millennial men cultivate the confidence to create the life they want in and out of the bedroom. She helps them show up as themselves. A myth is that “straight men have it so easy” when in fact they have a lot of pressure to “be” a certain way as much if not more than other people. She  quickly saw that some clients-- particularly younger clients-- thought their sexual dysfunction was purely physiological, when really, the psychological component was playing as big or an even bigger role. What is a common limiting belief or scenarios that men have about sexuality? “Anxiety and erections are not good bedfellows” “there is one way to please a woman” is very pervasive. “things are problems because we think they are problems” She says - I’ve seen men encounter sexual dysfunction and shame, simply because their mind was sabotaging their body’s ability to perform. Tips for men to start talking to their partner about sex. Tips for premature ejaculation. You help men manage their mind – what are some common themes that you see? You can find her at www.sessionswitherika.com and erikadavian.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

19 Sep 202144min

Join me on a lecture I gave to some surgeons (some of my favorite people BTW). I discuss - sexual normative roles and how that affects our personal sex lives. We were taught “sex negative” education – don’t get pregnancy or infections, save it for marriage What happens when the novelty of sex wears off Is desire a circumstance, a feeling, a result? Where do we put it in a coaching model. Desire and sex for women. What do I mean by crappy sex? Sex, surgery and mindfulness Normalizing responsive desire Sleep and a happy sex life/drive What is responsive desire? How alcohol works with the brain to hurt/help our sex drive Why older people have great sex Why our thoughts about our spouse helps or hurts our sex life – and our thoughts are completely under our control. Do you desire what you already have? Why textbooks dedicate way more space to male sexual organs than female. Anatomy lesson Why PIV sex doesn’t work for female orgasms Are you “should-ing” all over your sex life? We finish this episode with some coaching on our sex life – we use the “model” from The Life Coach School. If you want a good sex life you can’t be passive about it. What does a sexually satisfied woman do well? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

15 Sep 202137min

Join me to answer listeners questions, hear their success stories, learn about hormones, vaginal estrogen, preventing UTI, preventative medicine versus treating disease, libido, pain with sex, birth control versus hormones in perimenopause, and how to find a menopause doctor, oh, also....vaginal estrogen shortage in Canada!  What!! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

12 Sep 202146min

Thank you to the whole world!  100 Episodes and 150,000 listens!  Here is to ONE MILLION in the future! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

8 Sep 20215min

I went live in the Galveston Diet private FB group and here is the audio - get to know me better My why – the patient that changed the course of my life How our society conditioned us to have crappy sex lives Good sex takes communication skills – with yourself and your partner My thoughts about “low desire” Our Narrow viewpoint about sex Transitioning to a body that can calm and open enough to have sex Anatomy lessons Books I recommend – She comes first, Becoming Clitorate, Come As You Are, Woman’s Anatomy of Arousal Estrogen cream and Genitourinary Syndrome of Menopause and tips for finding cheap prescriptions in your town. Desire mismatch is normal The two top reasons women stop having sex in menopause! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

5 Sep 202147min

Today I am so excited to interview Dr. Deborah Butzbach, a doctor who treats cancer with radiation (radiation oncologist) in New Jersey and coach who has her own podcast, “Best life After Cancer”. She is an expert in mindfulness and the power of our thoughts creating our circumstances. “In life we get to decide how we think about things” Today we are going to get her thoughts on sex after a cancer diagnosis. She believes the mental aspect of cancer treatment is everything How do you see people getting through cancer treatment with intimacy? Thoughts on body image What are people’s limiting beliefs when it comes to sex after cancer How does a cancer diagnosis and surgery etc change body image and hinder sex? https://www.bestlifeaftercancer.com/ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-life-after-cancer/id1511313907 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

29 Aug 202134min

Why aren’t we invested in the mom? Dr. Sonal Patel is a pediatrician, mom of 4 and an entrepreneur! She started the company NayaCare which was created to support moms and families entering life's new chapter. Tell me why you started NayaCare? Her postpartum journey What was your biggest surprise after giving birth? Your mom is a OB – tell me about your sex ed and upbringing and culture Why do we call it the 4th trimester? Talk about the role of a doula Sex and the 4th trimester We talk about how the morbidity of pregnancy with tears and C-section really complicates sexual desire and intimacy after you have a baby. Tips for how our partners can support us Tell me about your journey with IC – interstitial cystitis How about breastfeeding and intimacy – damn prolactin! https://www.instagram.com/nayacare https://www.facebook.com/nayacarecolorado https://nayacare.org/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

22 Aug 202137min

I did a successful lecture to the Physician Mom's Group conference and I wanted to pull the audio for you all!   Are you busy, are you a woman, are you a mom?  Are you two out of three?  Even if you are just one of those you may be experiencing shame and "should's" about your sex life. Learn why we "should", why a content sex life is part of a healthy body and relationship, and tips and tricks for what you can do instead! Enjoy!  And remember, you are not broken! Thanks for the Apple and Spotify reviews!  They are such an amazing "thank you" to my work and dedication to keep this podcast going!  We are being heard around the world!! Follow me on IG: www.instagram.com/kellycaspersonmd Sign up for my email to be notified about the future book and the monthly live podcast recordings: www.kellycaspersonmd.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

15 Aug 202128min