To Forgive or Not to Forgive

To Forgive is part of everyone’s life. Either to forgive someone else or ourselves and in some cases both. The feeling of anger, disappointment, resentment and sadness can cause physical and emotional problems if you are unable to forgive.

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In my Gestalt Therapy praxis I have worked with many clients on forgiving and also not wanting to, or unable to forgive. Often enough the person that needs to be forgiven is not in the room or there is not an opportunity to talk to this person. When that happens we work with experiments which I have spoken about in previous episodes.

How is this important?

To clarify why it is important to forgive, I am giving a concrete example of Hugo, a client of mine who was cheated on by his girlfriend. Hugo decided to forget her and that would make her disappear. Eventually he started to get physical problems, because forgetting and forgiving are not the same.

What’s Gestalt in all of this?

Hugo recognized that the physical problems were related to the break up with his girlfriend. By recognizing and understanding he was able to do something about it. By talking to her in the experiments he became more at peace with the situation. Even though he did not forgive her, he was now ready to move on.

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