Daniela Torp 1. Why trauma makes intimacy so difficult and how to deal with it. What intimacy and trauma is and why working on both will make you happier. Episode 47

Today's episode is in English because Daniela comes from Czech Republic. In this episode we talk about Danielas story and how she ended up working as an Intimacy Coach. Intimacy is not just about sex. It is about establishing an intimate relationship with ourselves, with people close to us. Intimacy, that pleasant feeling of trust, union and understanding without words, stands on six pillars. It starts with ourselves.

In this episode we talk about what it is that hinders us from being comfortable being intimate. This tends to be our past trauma. Trauma are episodes experienced throughout life which have impacted us - our nervous system, reactions, triggers, moods, preferences, fears and behavior.

We talk through different types of trauma and how to deal with it and why it is important to deal with it. I share my own trauma and my path through discomfort and triggers. How going into the discomfort has helped me understand myself and people around me better. BEAR WITH ME! Because talking about these incidents was scary and super vulnerable. I have been holding them close to my chest for many many years.

I want to share my biggest trauma exactly because I haven't shared the stories with anyone for 15 years. I felt weak, dirty, unattractive, ashamed, guilty, like a burden and of less value to my partners, friends, family and employers because of something someone else did to me against my will. I was afraid that If they knew they would judge me and see me as a victim and a person who could not take care of herself. This was such a big contrast to how I wanted people to view me, so it was easier to keep quiet. Little did I know that keeping quiet and pretending it never impacted me actually would become my biggest enemy. It created triggers and over time I became more and more of a control freak. Before getting this knowledge I could not understand why I suddenly changed my way of being so intensely in such a short period of time. Makes total sense now that I see the links after having worked through my trauma this fall and winter.

Daniela is the founder of the Czech Association of the Sexological Bodywork, Tantra Center Pilsen and I am also the owner of the Freya Centrum.

“Can you imagine trying to grow plums in a paradise of coconut palms? We often treat ourselves the same way. We force ourselves to do things that are contrary to what our inner Self wants and is capable of. And then we are surprised that we are not being as successful as the others. I have tried to “plant” myself in many islands before I have finally found my own. The key to success is LOVE – self-love.”

If you want coaching by Daniela or to attend one of her workshops you find more information here:

https://www.danielatorp.com/

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