Nima Rahmany. Break free from trauma bonds. Codependency, narcissism, attachment styles, victimhood, people pleasing. Episode 73

Nima Rahmany. Break free from trauma bonds. Codependency, narcissism, attachment styles, victimhood, people pleasing. Episode 73

What a liberating conversation on patterns of co-dependency and narcissism. What it is, what it isn't and how to break free from trauma bonds and victimhood.

What is named bad behaviour is really learned mechanisms to keep oneself safe. Attempt to palliate anxiety. When you understand the mechanism behind peoples behaviour, you get out of the pattern of feeling like a victim to it.

In any relationship we so easily point our fingers at everyone else. They are at blame, not us. They are bad people and we haven't done anything wrong. Or?

It turns out that codependency and narcissism isn't so far apart. That codependency in fact is a covert narcissism, people pleasing in order to be liked by everyone. Calling themselves empathetic, when in fact they claim they know what people think, feel and need, instead of asking. Often trying to fix peoples feeling, instead of letting them feel whatever they are feeling.

Empathy on the other hand is asking questions and allowing people to feel and be in whatever they are in. A codependent cannot stand anyone feeling bad and feel responsible of fixing them. Taking on their feelings as their own, because they are not in contact with their own feelings.

Codependency and narcissism are two reactions to the same wounding. Also a codependent person will be the narcissist in every other relationship, meaning, the codependent is also the narcissist and opposite.

Codependents are people pleasers, giving up who they are to be accepted, liked and loved. They unconsciously expect others to do the same and expect love, appraisal and acceptance in return for their behaviour. They often feel taken for granted when they do not get what they seek from their surroundings.

Narcissists have a more grandiose behaviour. It seems they are high on themselves, when in fact their self esteem is just as poor as the codependents. They brag about themselves to get approval and attention, while really they are very judgemental of themselves.

Both are results of the same childhood wounding of not being see. Two different strategies to get attention.

Relationships between codependents and narcissists activate two core triggers; the wounding of fear of abandonment and fear of consumption or feeling overwhelmed.

In order to create secure relationships, we need to rapture and repair and get into healthy feminine and masculine where dominance/ leadership and submission comes from a place of meeting oneself and the other person.

Nima shares his knowledge of how to use somatic work and polyvagal theory to break free from trauma bonds.

You can read more about Nima here:

https://drnima.com/

This episode is edited by Simon Lynau.

You can read more about me here:

https://magefolelsen.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/

Make yourself a good day.

Avsnitt(119)

Step into your POWER. Stop complaining and create your life. Empowerment dynamics vs Drama Triangle. Episode 95

Step into your POWER. Stop complaining and create your life. Empowerment dynamics vs Drama Triangle. Episode 95

Are you ready to step into your power?  To stop complaining, blaming, saying it's not possible...  It is, but you gotta put your energy towards it, prioritize it.    This is what the podcast will be about going forward.  Let's start creating.    About me and the podcast:  https://magefolelsen.com/hjem    About me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D):  https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/    Youtube:  https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese  https://youtu.be/EVJQssR6zTw?si=XJxMAku5vQQQegy0    Make yourself a glorious day ya all.        #dramatriangle #empowermentdynamics #power #empowered #stepintoyourpower #create #entrepreneurship

7 Feb 202532min

Let go of shame and fear to find pride in and love for every version you have ever been. Episode 94

Let go of shame and fear to find pride in and love for every version you have ever been. Episode 94

How does shame from the past keep you back in life?  What about fears around re-doing something which was shameful?  Singing.  Dancing.  Standing on a stage.  Sexual expression.  Playing.  Creating something.  Writing.  Drawing.  Painting.  Innovation..  What if whatever you did doesn't really matter?  What if it wasn't that bad?  Can you forgive yourself?  Can you look at it with another lense?  Can you challenge your shames and fears?  What if people would find it funny and not irresponsible, out of control, stupid..  What if they would and you actually don't.  Can you let it go?  Move forward?  Find freedom?    Breathe.......    This is Magefølelsen Podcast, The Gutfeeling in English.  I am Therese Fallentin.  I am a previous People Pleaser, with a master of management science who has taken a deep journey into my right brain after becoming a grown up stuck in left brain control, fear and rigid plans. Now I am finding my way back into balance between mindfulness, flow, creativity, play, trust, hope, faith and creation, logic and making things happen.  I am a hard core Burner. I live and breathe the burn principles, not just at burns around the globe, but also in regular life.  https://burningman.org/about/10-principles/    Believing that the right and left go hand in hand and complement each other perfectly. When in balance and used with mindfulness and not force.    You find me on YouTube, Instagram and LinkedIn here: https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese  https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/  https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/    Make yourself a good day, ya all.

29 Nov 202420min

Selflove. Fuck shame related to liking and loving ourselves. The only person who needs to love you, is you. Episode 93

Selflove. Fuck shame related to liking and loving ourselves. The only person who needs to love you, is you. Episode 93

Really, fuck janteloven and any other norm telling us that its not ok to like ourselves.  The only person who needs to like us, is us.  It's the most important relationship we have and at the core of any other relationship.  When we do not like parts of ourselves we will also push away people who does like these parts. Partners who like sides of ourselves we are ashamed of showing the world.  What we don't like about ourselves will stand in the way of our happiness.  So, please!  Dare to like yourself, even though others might not agree.  Even though others don't find you beautiful, smart, funny, you can still.   This is Magefølelsen Podcast, The Gutfeeling in English.  I am Therese Fallentin.  I am a previous People Pleaser, with a master of management science who has taken a deep journey into my right brain after becoming a grown up stuck in left brain control, fear and rigid plans. Now I am finding my way back into balance between mindfulness, flow, creativity, play, trust, hope, faith and creation, logic and making things happen.  I am a hard core Burner. I live and breathe the burn principles, not just at burns around the globe, but also in regular life.  https://burningman.org/about/10-principles/    Believing that the right and left go hand in hand and complement each other perfectly. When in balance and used with mindfulness and not force.    You find me on YouTube, Instagram and LinkedIn here: https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese  https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/  https://www.linkedin.com/in/therese-fallentin/    Make yourself a good day, ya all.

28 Nov 202414min

Sofia Su part 2. Creating good sex through intimacy and vulnerability. Getting comfortable with both sides of rejection. Episode 92

Sofia Su part 2. Creating good sex through intimacy and vulnerability. Getting comfortable with both sides of rejection. Episode 92

What creates good sex?  Co- creation. Most women have some kind of sexual trauma! Feeling safe to be with whatever happens.  Ok to say no! No pressure to have sex even though there is sexual energy and he gets a boner.  Confidence work,  Holding a rejection, Accepting a sexual rejection, Being with the inner child who cannot handle sexual rejection. Being with discomfort of a no. Rejection sucks, can we handle a no?  Vulnerable and scary initiating. Meeting all vulnerability with love and compassion, also sexual interest, instead off fear. Dealing with rejection.  Daring to reject and handling their reaction.   Don’t want to do something with someone who don’t want to do it with us. Communication and being clear about what we ask for. Stop assuming and start asking questions, specify, be curios, what do you want? Nothing or could you want something.  Exploring how to be me with you.  Dare asking questions, being vulnerable and sharing impact.  Being ok with other people’s feelings. Your feelings aren’t my responsibility.  Community - a place where you can explore being more of you and evolve.  People we trust and who are there for us. Feeling safe.  Support system outside our partnerships and families.  How to find the community for you?  Practice and show instead of explaining theories.   Sofia Su: https://www.instagram.com/___sofiasu___/  Magefølelsen & Therese Fallentin https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/

22 Nov 202440min

Sofia Su. Sexuality, spirituality, energy, witching, sexual safety, trust issues, boundaries, consent, tantra, intuition and so much more. Episode 91

Sofia Su. Sexuality, spirituality, energy, witching, sexual safety, trust issues, boundaries, consent, tantra, intuition and so much more. Episode 91

Spirits or stuck energies? Spirituality. Understanding energy, what is it? Meditation. Finding time to get contact with our intuition. Closed off or connected in surrendering? Spirituality meeting business. Trusting instincts without facts and understanding. Magic happening from following intuition and Instinkts. Believing in the flow of life. Is Sofia a witch and what does that mean? How to be a modern witch? Power over our own lives. Healing powers. Co-regulation. Connection to nature and darkness. What feels right to me? Finding our own truths. What’s the worst thing that could happen by leaning into our own paths? Allowing dislikes as a part of life. Endemetriose - emotional causes? Placebo or not, does it matter if it it works? Helping people feel loved and worthy. Manifestation. Trauma triggers - not knowing what we want. Trauma creating new trauma. Tantric Tempels. Sexual healing. Being around sexual energy without engaging in it. Feeling safe around and in sexual energy. Learning to set boundaries and feeling the sadness, anger and fear from all off those times I didn’t say no. Opening up to our boundaries in all aspects of life. The world is scary when we don’t dare setting boundaries. Having our own backs. No it’s ok, I had worse. Being scared off sexual energy from men. Trust issues towards men. Allowing others to do things with us that we don’t want. Holding space for and supporting the feminine, instead of controlling and pushing to much on the feminine. Healing trust issues with men. Somatic therapy. Ancestral trauma. Creating our own fears. Crossing our own boundaries and letting people step on my boundaries. How to create safety for intimacy. Trust created by asking questions. Asking for consent for every step is sexy when you are confident and can handle a no. Healing our trust issues. It’s ok to go slow and for a man to prove that he is trustworthy. The more you like someone the slower you need to move. Having sex too early leads to bad sex because we aren’t ready to be vulnerable.   Sofia Su: https://www.instagram.com/___sofiasu___/    Magefølelsen Podkast: https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/

22 Nov 202455min

Performance anxiety and how to break free

Performance anxiety and how to break free

Performance anxiety. How does it show up and how to break free.  How does performance anxiety stand in your way from being you and living the life you want to live?  Relationship between performance anxiety, trauma, ADHD, fawn and freeze.

4 Nov 202426min

Let’s jump into it. Fear and excitement, a deal package. Stand through the discomfort of the unknown. Episode 89

Let’s jump into it. Fear and excitement, a deal package. Stand through the discomfort of the unknown. Episode 89

Just do it.   I can bet you that you won’t regret the times you tried something new, something a bit outside the comfort zone.  The times you stood in fear and discomfort because you were super excited to get somewhere.

18 Okt 20247min

Fear of vulnerability. Sharing dreams, interests and passions. Showing who we are and letting people in. Episode 88

Fear of vulnerability. Sharing dreams, interests and passions. Showing who we are and letting people in. Episode 88

Sharing passions and dreams, and everything else close to our hearts, can bring enormous discomfort and resistance.  It’s where we are most afraid of rejection, judgement and criticism. So oftentimes we keep it for ourselves. Well hidden from the outside world.  Sometimes even more from our closest, because we couldn’t bear hearing that they don’t like or accept this side of us.  So we hold back.  Keep our babies safe.  We hide our softness and love.  What if we can find love for ourselves in every moment. Who I we are here and now.  And bring the heart into our conversations.  Start pulling people in, instead of pushing them away. Seeing cooperation instead of competition.  Seeing invitations, warmth, curiosity, love and connection by assuming the best about other people. Assuming that people can handle us and like us. And that we can handle when they don’t. Because let’s be honest. Everyone dislikes and judges something about us. No one likes it all and wants to be with us 24/7 for the rest of their lives..  Even though they love us, likes us and wants to be our friends, partners and colleagues.  And still when they dislike us, they still want to have us in their lives. And if they can’t handle our inner truths, who we are underneath all of the walls and protection mechanisms, well, then maybe it’s not people we wanna have in our lives.

17 Okt 202430min

Populärt inom Utbildning

rss-bara-en-till-om-missbruk-medberoende-2
historiepodden-se
det-skaver
alska-oss
harrisons-dramatiska-historia
nu-blir-det-historia
johannes-hansen-podcast
rss-sjalsligt-avkladd
not-fanny-anymore
sektledare
allt-du-velat-veta
sa-in-i-sjalen
i-vantan-pa-katastrofen
rss-max-tant-med-max-villman
handen-pa-hjartat
rikatillsammans-om-privatekonomi-rikedom-i-livet
polisutbildningspodden
sektpodden
rss-om-vi-ska-vara-arliga
roda-vita-rosen