Ep. 47 - Are Pastors Creating a Porn Culture?

Self Care is a huge part of recovery and many Pastors think this is something less than spiritual. In this episode I challenge all those in ministry to actually practice a yearly holiday as part of a self care regimen. (I don't mean a week here or there!)I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

28 Juli 202323min

Have you had the experience of having a family member go through a marriage breakup? In this painful episode, Vern discusses the ripples that spread out when someone you love go through a painful breakup and ask "Is there any lessons we can learn?"I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

7 Juli 202323min

Have you ever been shoehorned into a particular definition of being spiritual that doesn't work for your wiring. In this episode Vern talks about how we need to find our own rhythm of being spiritual - even if it means not journalling!I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

5 Juni 202316min

In this recording from a Sunday morning message Vern asks the question - are you up to the task? Using the text of 2 Timothy 1:7 Vern talks about how God's spirit wants to move us from a posture of fear and timidity to one of power, love, and self discipline.I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

17 Apr 202336min

Looking back on 30 years of pastoral ministry - there are three elements that led me to experience the best version of my pastoral self - three things, that when I strayed from, caused me to fray around the edges. I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

2 Mars 202320min

What if God wanted us use our story, to leverage it for His glory - even the broken shameful parts. In this episode Vern shares how, rather than hiding our brokenness, God wants to use it in surprising ways.I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

6 Feb 202321min

How does the idea of becoming fully alive relate to our recovery? From a Sunday morning message, Vern takes us on a journey through Narnia, Wild at Heart and the rock group Evanescense as he explores how the God's promise of "bringing us to life" is at the core of what we all long for.I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

3 Feb 202339min

In this episode Vern interviews pastor and author Mark Denison who shares about his loss of ministry and how God has turned this loss into a kingdom gain. Mark is the author of "Broken Vessels - Restoring Broken Pastors.To contact Mark you can reach him athttps://thereisstillhope.orgIf you need a safe place to talk - you can also reach out to me (Vern) atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

11 Jan 202329min