Ep. 72 - My Heart Breaks

Why do churches fail to lean into difficult topics like sexual brokenness? It affects us all yet we pretend that we are above it all and our churches are above it all. In this episode Vern explores some of the reasons for our "failure to lean"I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

26 Jan 202116min

There is an entire movement under the banner of "Sex Positive" which has pushed against the Christian sex ethic as being harmful and repressive. In this episode Vern pushes back on some of the teaching by discussing how "Sex Postive" is far from "sex positive".I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

8 Jan 202127min

Dr Laura Nelson is a pastor who works with couples who are struggling with sexual brokenness. In this episode she describes some of the things she has learned along with way.I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

9 Dec 202028min

One of the biggest questions in dealing with sexually broken people is how do we discern between true and false repentance? In this episode we discuss that difficult topic.I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://www.bandofbrothers.care

16 Nov 202025min

Repentance is a word you hear alot about in the church. What is it and how do we approach this topic when we are struggling (despite our best efforts) to quit looking at porn?I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

9 Nov 202020min

In the last podcast we introduced the idea of being a conflicted pastor when it comes to being used by God. Today we turn to the other side - what is it like to be a non-conflicted pastor?I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

2 Nov 202031min

In this first part of a two part series Vern explores the idea of being conflicted vs. being non-conflicted in our ministry as a pastor.In this episode he interviews Darrel Brazzell about his own conflicted journey with sexual brokenness and how God has both changed his life and used him to help other men.I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.  If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

30 Okt 202027min

I (Vern) have been immensely helped by having a recovery coach. In this episode Vern interviews one of his mentors, Michael Leahy, as to the role that coaching can play in your recovery.I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

28 Sep 202041min