Ep. 75 - The Best Things about my Recovery

A three legged stool is a metaphor often used to descirbe a stable thing - such as a stable ministry. There are actually 3 components to be an effecitve pastor - and our problematic sexual behaviors impede and impair our ability to do them effectively. In this episode Vern explores this in relation to our ability to be "with" people.I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

12 Mars 201915min

There is a line in an old DC Talk song "what if I stumble, whati if I fail". It is a sobering fear that most sexual strugglers in ministry face. In this episode we talk about that lingering fear.I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

20 Feb 201917min

One of the most mis-applied words in Christian-ese - is the word "Accountability". In this episode we talk about how this word is misused and a proper application of the word.I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

17 Jan 201916min

Why do some people stay mired in their addiction while others find the traction needed to gain momentum in their recovery journey? Episode 6 is all about finding traction in your journeyIf you want to connect with Vern directly - there is now a new email that will take you directly to himemail: bandofbrothers.care@gmail.comIf you want to check out more about him or the finding traction course go to the website:https://www.bandofbrothers.care

6 Dec 201827min

What if our brokenness - and in particular our struggle with it - was actually a "gift" to us in terms of potentially being used by God? In this episode we explore that thought.I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

12 Okt 201819min

One of the most common questions I get asked (by both Pastors and non-pastors) is this one"should Pastors who struggle with Porn leave the ministry?" In this episode we explore that question.I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

14 Sep 201815min

Are there unique reasons as to why Pastors struggle with porn (in the first place) and why they remain in these destructive behaviors. This episode explores those reasons.I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

14 Sep 201817min

I have been a pastor for 30 years. In this story I describe how my life of embedded porn intersected with God's call on my life to live a life of fruitfulness. We all have a story and it gives us a platform to speak into the lifes of others who have struggled in similar ways. Welcome to my story.I love to talk to Pastors - especially those who are looking to deal with their unmanageable sexual behaviors.If you need a safe place to talk - you can reach out to me atbandofbrothers.care@gmail.comYou can also see some more resources on my website https://bandofbrothers.care

6 Sep 201816min