E.49 - Powerfully Ending Relationships with Jen Schwartz
In this episode I interview Dr. Jen Schwartz, an awesome polyam therapist based out of Utah. She's been practicing polyamory for 20+ years, including having lived several years as part of a quad with as many as 12 children around at any given time! We get to explore how they navigated children and polyamory, how the children were affected by their parents' polyamory, and how Jen navigated powerfully ending a relationship with one member of the quad while marrying another. This was such a great conversation with a lot of funny stories, wonderful insights, and lessons we can all take away to improve our relationships even when they end. Learn more at www.thirdeyefamilysolutions.com and follow Dr. Jen @thirdeyefamilysolutions
18 Maj 202137min
E.48 - Compersion and Relationship Expectations with Open Relating's Roy Graff
In this episode I am joined by Roy Graff from Open Relating, based out of the UK. We dive headfirst into talking about compersion and jealousy, and as the conversation goes on we get deep into what i means to truly connect your authentic self with your partner's authentic self. This was an amazing conversation full of nuggets of wisdom, tips, and strategies to becoming more self aware so that we can love our partners better. Roy offers coaching and a 5-week course for polyam folx. Learn more at www.openrelating.love and follow Roy everywhere @openrelating!
17 Maj 202136min
E.47 - Intersection of Autism and Sex/Relationships with B Lourenco
In this episode I learned A LOT from therapist B Lourenco about how Autism Spectrum Disorder (or Autism Spectrum Condition hopefully soon!) shows up in adults and how it affects their relationships. Whether you are neuro-typical or neuro-diverse, there is a lot of great information packed into this 30-minute show! We discuss how ASD shows up in adults and how to bridge the gap in communication with neuro-mixed type relationships. Be sure to stay to the end to hear how dating someone who is neuro-diverse can really make your heart soar! Learn more about B at www.blourencotherapy.com!
12 Maj 202134min
E.46 - Stop Seeing Metamours as Competition with Psychedelic Therapist Valerie Beltrán
In this episode with Valerie Beltrán, we discuss metamour relationships. She explains how in her own journey, her views shifted from seeing her metamours as a threat to her relationship, to seeing them as friends, confidants, and part of her community. Tune in to hear how she communicated her jealousy to her partner and how she overcame the tendency to compare herself to her metas. If you are interested in using psychedelics in your therapy journey, stay to the end where we get into some good discussion over what's around the corner in this exciting field of medicine. Learn more about Valerie at www.therapywithvalerie.com and www.psychsems.com, and follow her on IG: _damsel_in_destress_
11 Maj 202133min
E.45 - How to be Truly Autonomous with Marie D'Elephant
What does it mean to be truly autonomous? Like really, TRULY autonomous? Amongst other things, it means to break free of all of the myriad constraints that we’re held back by…constraints held by society, held by family, held by our own expectations of ourselves based on what we’ve seen growing up, in the media, and that have been ingrained in us throughout our lives. In this episode, I’m joined by the incomparable Marie D’Elephant and we have aa fantastic conversation around breaking free of those constraints and taking ownership of our own lives. Tune in to learn more, and find out more about Marie at www.mariedelephant.com and follow her everywhere @mariedelephant
10 Maj 202138min
E.44 - #endthestigma with Emelie A. Blank, MA, LPC
Therapists are human, too, and in this episode Emelie and I talk about what we can do to #endthestigma around everyone (including therapists) getting counseling and therapy. We dive into ADHD and I learn about the two types (inattentive and hyperactive), and Emelie tells me about how ADHD shows up in adulthood. Getting even deeper, we talk about what the term "neuro-typical" might mean, and the places where it intersects with polyamory. Tune in for a great conversation and learn more about Emelie at www.sprouttherapypdx.com and follow them on IG & TikTok: @sprouttherapypdx
5 Maj 202131min
E.43 - Finding Fulfillment by Giving Back with Amariah Love
On today's episode we have therapist Amariah Love and her partner, Patrick, who talk to us about how they met and how Amariah's work as a therapist transcends into her polyamorous relationships. They talk about the benefits and challenges of having kink- and poly-friendly therapists, including protocol in case you see one another at kinky events! Stick around to the end to hear how stigmas around bisexual men shows up in polyam, and how Patrick has dealt with some of these issues. This is definitely a conversation that needs to continue! Learn more about Amariah at www.AmariahLove.com and follow her on FB: @AmariahLoveCounseling.
4 Maj 202139min
E.42 - Handling Grief & the Power of Community with Taylor Mefford
Grief and identity are such interesting subjects and in this episode, therapist Taylor Mefford and I talk about where those two important subjects intersect. I gotta tell you all, I was really loving the way Taylor explained what it's like to come to terms with changes in our identities, especially recovering from religious upbringings and practicing ways to love that are contradictory to religious and societal teachings. Tune in for some fantastic analogies and a deep dive into how different types of grief affect our lives! For more from Taylor, go to www.MyTherapyNYC.com and follow @mytherapynyc!
3 Maj 202135min
