The Skillful Podcast16 Okt 2019

#15: Check the Facts

In Episode 15 of The Skillful Podcast, Marielle and Ed discuss checking the facts. When you have a painful emotion that you want to change, using the DBT skill called Check the Facts can be very helpful. Sometimes strong, painful emotions aren't a reaction to what has actually happened but are based on beliefs, interpretations, and assumptions about what has happened. Use this skill to help you change emotions YOU want to change - not emotions other people in your life want you to change.

Show Highlights:

Emotions might not be based on facts
Sometimes just checking the facts can bring down a painful emotion quickly
Start by naming the specific emotion that you want to change
What event brought on the emotion?
Be non-judgmental when describing what prompted the emotion
Name your interpretations, judgments, assumptions, and thoughts about the prompting event
Identify the stories your mind is telling you
Ask yourself what you're scared of
Imagine the worst-case scenario and think about how you would cope
Often painful emotions are based on assuming a threat and minimizing our ability to cope
Assess whether the intensity of your emotion fits the facts
Assess whether how long your emotion is lasting fits the facts
Remind yourself that you have the capacity to get through very painful things
Sometimes the emotion fits the facts but acting on it isn't effective

Links & Resources

To learn more about DBT and therapy in general, read our blog

DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition

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