#419: Why Making Friends as an Adult is so HARD... and How to Cultivate a Community

Anger can destroy a relationship, but it can also be the doorway to deeper connections and the emotional intimacy you want and deserve.  In this episode of 'Love, Happiness, and Success,' we’re not just talking about managing anger in relationships—we’re transforming it into a tool for deepening emotional intimacy and strengthening your connection. Join me, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, as we explore the roots of anger, its impact, and practical strategies to use it constructively. Learn how to manage anger, communicate effectively, build emotional intelligence, and turn conflict into meaningful connection. Plus, I’ve got some incredible free resources for you! 00:00 Introduction  01:58 Roots of Anger  08:36 Communication Strategies  18:23 Problem Solving & Emotional Intelligence  28:34 Free Resources & Final Thoughts   Ready to transform your relationship? Tune in now! 💬❤️ #LoveHappinessSuccess #EmotionalIntimacy #RelationshipGoals #TransformYourLove Xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby   PS: Grab that FREE two part “Communication That Connects”  training right here!  P.P.S. I’m going LIVE this Thursday to answer your relationship questions. Want to submit your question in advance and/or get a recap of this video? Here’s the link: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa Otherwise, set a reminder and I’ll see you soon!

12 Aug 202435min

Feeling trapped in a high-paying job you hate? 😔💸 Welcome to the golden handcuffs dilemma, where financial success comes at the expense of your happiness and mental well-being.  In today's episode, we dive deep into the emotional and practical challenges of breaking free from a lucrative but unfulfilling career. You'll learn how to reclaim your freedom, reignite your passion, and find true fulfillment without sacrificing financial security. 🚀✨  Specifically, we’re discussing:  00:00 Breaking the Chains: Intro to Escaping Golden Handcuffs 00:20 The Golden Cage: Understanding Why High Pay Can Trap You 05:08 Real Stories, Real Struggles: Listener Questions and Insights 08:02 The Silent Suffering: Emotional and Psychological Costs 14:26 Conquering Fears: How to Tackle Anxiety and Doubt 32:06 Roadmap to Freedom: Practical Steps for a Career Transition 46:36 Your Next Chapter: Actionable Takeaways and Final Thoughts  It's time to escape the golden cage and design a life that truly makes you happy! Don't miss this transformative journey—hit play now! 🎥🔓 #GoldenHandcuffs #CareerChange #FindYourPassion #WorkLifeBalance   Xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com    P.S. Want MORE expert career advice to help you move forward with clarity and confidence? I have so much for you! Sign up to get access to my ENTIRE “Career Clarity” content collection, full of articles and a curated podcast playlist featuring the best advice from the world-class career counselors of Growing Self. Totally free, all for you! Get it here...

5 Aug 202445min

7 WEIRD Things That Will Improve Your Relationship Are you wondering, "How can I improve my relationship?" 🤔 You're in the right place! In this episode of "Love, Happiness, and Success," I’m sharing the most surprising and counterintuitive tips to dramatically enhance your relationship. From giving each other more space to embracing healthy anxiety, these strategies are strange - but they are based on research… and they are game-changers! 🌟 What we’re discussing:  00:00 Introduction: Improving Your Relationship  02:00 Counterintuitive Tip #1: Give Each Other Space  04:07 Counterintuitive Tip #2: Embrace Healthy Anxiety  05:53 Counterintuitive Tip #3: Embrace the Daily Grind  07:45 Counterintuitive Tip #4: Focus on Yourself  11:58 Counterintuitive Tip #5: Prioritize Sexuality  14:30 Additional Tips: Shared Mission and Empathy  17:20 Be an Activist for Your Relationship  21:18 Conclusion and Free Resources 🔗 But wait, there’s more! Join my community and start transforming your relationship today! 👉 FREE Communication Skills Training: Master the art of healthy communication and avoid common pitfalls with my 100% free two-part communication skills training, which Includes a 30-page workbook packed with exercises to help you and your partner connect on a deeper level. Sign up for FREE right now at https://www.growingself.com/communication. 👉 Book a Free Consultation: Ready for personalized help? Schedule a free consultation with one of our expert relationship coaches. We’re here to support you every step of the way. Visit growingself.com to book your first meeting, to discuss your hopes and goals for your relationship and how we can help. 📅 Live Stream: Have questions or need advice? Just want to say hi? I’m here! Join me for a live stream this Thursday (and every Thursday) at 12 p.m. Mountain, 2 p.m. Eastern. Submit your questions in advance at https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa and get personalized tips to improve your relationship. Let's create love, happiness, and success together! 💖✨ #HowToImproveYourRelationship #RelationshipAdvice #LoveHappinessSuccess #DrLisaMarieBobby #GrowingSelf #CouplesCounseling #RelationshipTips #HealthyRelationships #FreeCommunicationTraining #RelationshipCoaching After you tune in and learn about these WEIRD strategie to improve your relationship, be sure to let me know in the comments which strategy you'll try first! (Or which one you’ll NEVER do - it’s all good! I’d also love to hear how this goes for you. Stay in tuch with me!  Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe! 💬💞 Xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com

29 Juli 202431min

Was your marriage a MISTAKE? Today we’re diving into a question I hear a lot: "Did I marry the wrong person?" If your relationship feels hard and you're starting to wonder if you made the right choice, you’re in the right place. We’ll tackle four essential areas to help you gain clarity: compatibility, communication, alignment, and growth opportunities. By the end of this episode, you’ll have some fresh ideas, free resources, and a clear plan to create positive change, whether with your partner or on your own. Specifically, we’re discussing: 0:00 Introduction: Are You Married to the Wrong Person? 00:39 Understanding Relationship Challenges 06:46 The Importance of Compatibility 14:02 Communication: The Key to Connection 17:46 Emotional Connection and Alignment 22:27 Steps to Clarity and Growth 29:03 Discernment Counseling: Finding the Right Path 33:21 Free Resources and Final Thoughts Thanks for tuning in!  Until next week, take care — and keep growing. Xo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S.To take advantage of that free two-part communication skills training I mentioned in this episode, head over to growingself.com/communication. P.P.S. And don’t forget, if you’re listening to this the week it’s released, join me this Thursday at 12 PM Mountain, 2 PM Eastern on Instagram and YouTube for a live stream where I’ll be answering your questions about whether you married the wrong person. Submit your questions in advance at growingself.com/dear-lisa.

22 Juli 202441min

🔥 STOP PLAYING SMALL! 🔥 Discover the secrets to growing more confident and comfortable with putting yourself out there. 🌟 Are you constantly minimizing yourself, feeling guilty for setting boundaries, or believing that good things are meant for others but not for you? If so, it's time to break free from these limiting beliefs and start living unapologetically! In this powerful episode, we dive deep into why we play small and how to overcome it, empowering you to step into your greatness. Today I'm sharing actionable strategies and inspiring insights to help you become your own hero. Whether it's in your relationships, career, or personal growth, it's crucial to stop playing small and start believing in your worth. Today's episode will help you do that! 💪✨ Xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com PS: Is this an issue for you? Want to talk about it?? Join me on this week’s livestream to share your story and get advice for how to STOP feeling guilty about being your awesome self. Jump in at 12 pm MT on 7/18, or submit your question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa #StopPlayingSmall #SelfEmpowerment #Confidence #SelfLove #PersonalGrowth #GrowingSelf     Timestamps / Chapters 02:15 – Signs You’re Playing Small 10:45 – Overcoming Limiting Beliefs 20:30 – Strategies for Self-Empowerment 30:00 – Free Resources and Next Steps

15 Juli 202439min

One of my listeners wrote in saying, "Dear Lisa,  https://www.growingself.com/feeling-unheard-in-relationship right now. I try to talk about how I feel, but I'm just not getting through. It seems like my partner is either not hearing me or not understanding me, and I feel so lonely. How do I change this situation?" Honestly: This is one of the most common issues I hear about as a marriage counselor. In today’s podcast, I’m diving into why you might feel unheard in your relationship and sharing practical strategies to change that dynamic. If this resonates with you, stick around because here’s what you’ll learn today: The common reasons behind feeling unheard. The impact of emotionally invalidating communication. How to engage in communication that fosters emotional intimacy. Practical tips and strategies to improve listening and being heard. For even more insights, read the full article here. 💬 Also, Join the Conversation! Let's talk about YOU! 💬 I’m hosting a live Q&A session every Thursday at 12 PM Mountain (2 PM Eastern) where I'll answer your questions about feeling heard in your relationship. Join me live on YouTube, Facebook, or Instagram. You can submit your questions in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa 📘 Free Resource Alert! 📘 As I discussed in this episode, to help you even more, I’ve created a free two-part training series called “Communication that Connects.” This series includes: Two 45-minute training sessions A 30-page workbook filled with exercises and activities Sign up for FREE at growingself.com/communication I made this for you! Thank you so much for tuning in today. If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe. I look forward to helping you create more love, happiness, and success in your life! xo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

8 Juli 202435min

Is your relationship emotionally enmeshed? If it is... you probably don't realize it! So how can you know? And what can you do about it? Tune into this one to find out! On this episode, we're talking about what emotional enmeshment is, and how you can untangle your heart strings and create a better relationship in the process.  When couples are struggling with communication or conflict, emotional enmeshment is often the root issue. Once you address the enmeshment, your entire relationship can feel lighter and more enjoyable. But first you have to recognize enmeshment for what it is, and this episode will show you the way! Tune in to learn:  What an emotionally enmeshed relationship looks like (the answer may surprise you!) The difference between emotional enmeshment and emotional intimacy Why emotional enmeshment is a big problem in relationships How to fix an enmeshed relationship and build a healthier connection. And more!  If you're wondering about enmeshment in your relationship, you can take my free "How Healthy Is Your Relationship Quiz" and learn more: https://www.growingself.com/relationship-quiz/  I hope you'll join me! xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. There is NO Thursday live stream on this topic this week. But I'll be back LIVE on Thursday 7/11 to address your questions about next week's podcast topic: What to do if you're feeling unheard in your relationship. Have questions already? Let me know and we'll discuss IRL on 7/11!

1 Juli 202444min

Traveling with your partner can be so fun, but it can also be stressful and lead to conflict. Whether you're wondering why vacations sometimes lead to arguments or how to navigate different travel styles, this episode is packed with insights and practical strategies to help you have a great time adventuring with your partner — or apart! Main Takeaways: Understand the common conflicts that arise on trips and how to address them constructively. Learn how to appreciate and respect your partner's travel preferences. Discover how to plan trips that satisfy both you and your partner. Explore the benefits of solo travel for a healthy relationship. Gain tools to turn travel challenges into opportunities for growth and connection. Tune in, learn, and let's make your next trip the best one yet. xo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com PS: After listening, I invite you to join the conversation live this Thursday at 12 PM Mountain Time (2 PM Eastern) on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook. Bring your questions about travel and relationships, and let's dive deeper into creating harmony and fun in your journeys together. Submit your questions in advance at growingself.com/dear-lisa and get reminders about the live stream so you won't miss a thing. If you can't make it, you can check out the recap at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2y1LGVrpRfY&t=687s

24 Juni 202440min