Dominant Submissive D/s Dynamics w/Sinclair Sexsmith - Ep 183

To some, the term "social justice" is a dirty word. But to others, it means "basic human decency" and should be everyone's default setting. When it comes to dating, relationships, sex, or navigating sexual sub-communities it's important. It can make or break your dating and sex life. But how and why do things like race, gender, ability, size, etc, affect getting laid? Sex is just sex, right? Not necessarily. This week's guest, Dirty Lola, explains why your dick (or whatever genitals you happen to have) should care about social justice. Guest bio Dirty Lola is a storyteller, edutainer, sex educator, sex toy peddler, and the creator and host of the live sex Q&A and variety show and podcast Sex Ed A Go-Go. During the last six years, she has shared her distinctive brand of kickass body and sex-positivity and her personal journey into the kink and polyamorous lifestyles with the masses on and off stage. Lola has taken Sex Ed A Go-Go across the country from New York City to Los Angeles and beyond. She has presented at various conferences and expos such as Catalyst Con, Woodhull, The Sex Expo, and AVN, and during sex week at Baruch College, Hofstra University and the University of New Mexico. When she's not hosting Sex Ed A Go-Go or teaching folks about pleasure, kink polyamory and sex positivity you can find her behind the counter at Shag, a sex shop in Brooklyn. Episode 6 topics Donald Trump talking about sex to Boy Scouts, our favorite sex toys, racial dating preferences, POC representation in the media, 13 Reasons Why on Netflix, cultural trauma, growing up black, pickup artists/PUA, mixed chick problems, BDSM & polyamory, racial ambiguity, body size acceptance, being the only black person in the room, sugar daddies, Splenda daddies, light skinned privilege, sex club rules & inclusivity, Kevin Patterson, being fetishized for your race, how to get dates on OKCupid, how NOT to get dates on OKCupid, how to become a sex educator, titty pics, negging, white privilege, South Carolina, Mollena Williams-Haas, internalized racism, having a woke partner Episode 6 links & info Dirty Lola Instagram Dirty Lola Twitter To book Lola for workshops, bachelorette parties or her infamously funny and educational Sex Ed A Go-Go send requests to Lola@SexEdAGoGo.com Episode 6 links Sponsor/Promotional information: American Sex Podcast iTunes Giveaway Win a Fun Factory Darling Devil Silicone Vibrator and Hybrid Battery Kit valued at $110! How? Review and/or subscribe to American Sex Podcast on iTunes during the month of September. Screenshot both and email it to americansexpodcast@gmail.com to be entered in the contest. Winners selected by random computerized drawing 10/2. Must be 18+ and live in the contiguous 48 states to win. More details on the giveaway page. Castle Megastore's 30th Anniversary Celebration Contest Week 2 Castle Megastore has been helping customers with romance and fun for 30 years! To celebrate they're running a contest for the whole month on September. Every Purchase you make in store or online will automatically enter you in the the contest. There will be 6 winners at each location for a total of 102 winners. The winners will receive a mystery gift from either We-Vibe, Fun Factory, Clandestine Devices, System JO, Jopen or Lelo. All prizes are valued over $100! The 30th Anniversary Celebration contest runs September 1, 2017 through September 30, 2017. Prize drawings will be held October 2, 2017. Entry with Every Purchase You'll automatically be entered into the contest with every purchase you make, NO MINIMUM! So if you make a $5 purchase or a $100 purchase you'll be entered. No form to fill out to enter online. In Stores: you'll need to give your email at checkout so that they can contact you if you win. If you have already provided your email from previous purchases, then you're already in their system and you'll be entered in the contest. One entry per purchase per visit, but if you make 5 purchases within the month of September, you be entered into the contest 5 times. Castle Megastore's 30th Anniversary Month Long Specials All Month Long: $30 for 30 days Toy Rack Online & in stores sale 10 for $30 Panties (in stores only) 8 for $30 Plus Size Panties (in stores only) 5 for $30 DVDs *3 for $20 Dvds and $9.99 titles only (in stores only) Weekly sale 9/8-9/14 30% off Mighty Wands & Champions Dual Density Silicone Dildos 30% off in-store purchases of Dreamgirl Packaged Lingerie 20% off Castle Megastore.com purchases every day of the year for our fans with code SUNNY (limited restrictions apply)

11 Sep 20171h 3min

In 2015 Mark Shrayber & his fiance Allen traveled to Morehead, KY to get married-- the same town where county clerk Kim Davis refused to issue marriage licenses to same sex couples citing religious beliefs. Davis was held in contempt of court and jailed for 6 days. Mark & Allen arrived in Morehead just in time for her release. As a journalist, Mark was chasing a story. As a couple, they were realizing a dream. Then they found themselves in the middle of a terrifying family values rally facing both violent discrimination and unconditional acceptance. Intense, happy, scary, exciting, suspenseful, joyful, hilarious, and starkly sobering, Mark's story is a 'must listen'! Guest Bio Mark is a freelance writer whose work has appeared in Cosmopolitan, Jezebel, Vice, The Daily Dot, and The Awl (among others). Most recently, he was the deputy editor of the LIFE vertical at UPROXX. Mark is also a psychology lecturer at San Francisco State University. Episode 5 Topics Do you get more head in Morehead Kentucky?, marriage equality, media martyrdom, all denim all the time, fucking a pizza, Kentucky is for lovers, Carter County, KY, The Wizard of Oz, Mike Huckabee, Moldova, fake news, hate the sin love the sinner, anti-Semitism, grappling with privilege, internalized homophobia, RuPaul's Drag Race, wedding night sex, the personal is political, San Francisco, Liza Minelli, weekend white supremacy, traditional family values, gay wedding destinations, activism for non-activists, Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, fighting the alt-right, Chesterton Indiana, growing up LGBTQ in rural America Episode 5 Links & Info Mark's Jezebel piece on his experience in Morehead, KY Mark Shrayber twitter: @MShrayber Mark Shrayber email: m.shrayber@gmail.com Video of Mark & Allen's Morehead, KY wedding experience Mark really did write about having sex with pizza in Cosmo, BTW Episode 5 Sponsor/Promotional Information American Sex Podcast iTunes Giveaway: Win a Fun Factory Darling Devil Silicone Vibrator and a Hybrid Battery Kit valued at $110! How? Review and/or subscribe to American Sex Podcast on iTunes during the month of September. Screenshot both and email it to americansexpodcast@gmail.com to be entered in the contest. Winners selected by random computerized drawing 10/2. Must be 18+ and live in the contiguous 48 states to win. More details on the giveaway page. Castle Megastore's 30th Anniversary Celebration Contest: Castle Megastore has been helping customers with romance and fun for 30 years! To celebrate they're running a contest for the whole month on September. Every Purchase you make in store or online will automatically enter you in the contest. There will be 6 winners at each location for a total of 102 winners. The winners will receive a mystery gift from either We-Vibe, Fun Factory, Clandestine Devices, System JO, Jopen or Lelo. All prizes are valued over $100! The 30th Anniversary Celebration contest runs September 1, 2017 through September 30, 2017. Prize drawings will be held October 2, 2017. You'll automatically be entered into the contest with every purchase you make, NO MINIMUM! So if you make a $5 purchase or a $100 purchase you'll be entered. No form to fill out to enter online. In Stores: you'll need to give your email at checkout so that they can contact you if you win. If you have already provided your email from previous purchases, then you're already in their system and you'll be entered in the contest. One entry per purchase per visit, but if you make 5 purchases within the month of September, you be entered into the contest 5 times. Castle Megastore's 30th Anniversary Month Long Specials: All Month Long: $30 for 30 days Toy Rack Online & in stores sale 10 for $30 Panties (in stores only) 8 for $30 Plus Size Panties (in stores only) 5 for $30 DVDs *3 for $20 Dvds and $9.99 titles only (in stores only) Weekly sale 9/1-9/7 30% off Leg Avenue Hosiery (in stores only) 30% off Spank Provocateur Bed Coupler Restraint System 20% off CastleMegastore.com purchases every day of the year for our fans with code SUNNY (limited restrictions apply)

4 Sep 201752min

Dick Wound is a 36-year-old BDSM enthusiast. He's a sadomasochist specializing in knife play as a top, CBT (cock & ball torture) as a bottom, and is an armpit fetishist. At 30 Dick suffered a heart attack and now depends on an internal defibrillator to stay alive. This experience prompted him to fantasize and role play about his own death to conquer his fears and depression. Dick recently became entrenched in the world of robosexual/ASFR fetish. He's also the creator, engineer, and co-host of Off the Cuffs: a Kink & BDSM Podcast Recap: Ken & Sunny explore Dick Wound's earliest childhood inspirations and theorize why characters like Batman, James Bond, and comic book superheroes had such an influence on his sexuality. They discuss how Dick's death fetish kicked into high gear after his near death experience and how he used it therapeutically to conquer his fear of dying. They also dive into Dick's newest fetish, gynoids, and explore why female robots would be ideal dominant sex partners. Episode 4 topics: Batman & Catwoman's uber hot 'I love you, now die' relationship, black widow fetish, wives with knives, executrix, Marvel superheroes, no one likes IronFist, custom porn clips, extreme fantasy role play, depression, therapeutic kink, heart failure, dollification, iDollator, gynoids, sex dolls, disability and BDSM, knife play, serial killers, mindfucks, SSC vs RACK Episode 4 links & info: Off the Cuffs Podcast Twitter Off the Cuffs Podcast Facebook Off the Cuffs Podcast Fetlife Dick Wound Facebook Dick Wound Fetlife "Off the Cuffs: a Kink and BDSM podcast" can be found on iTunes, Podcast Addict, and most other podcast streaming apps.

28 Aug 20171h

About our guests: Casey Calvert is an adult performer, sex educator, and custom porn video mogul. Her husband, Bryn Pryor, has been in the porn industry since before Casey was born, doing every job around except performing. Together, they have a family full of dogs, cats, and comic-book collectibles, and have recently finished their first mainstream feature film, Diminuendo. Recap: Ken & Sunny go from the personal parts of Casey & Bryn's lives to professional (and professionally bizarre). A few of our topics: The surprisingly average home lives of porn stars; their mainstream movie starring the late Richard Hatch; why the porn industry is dead, how it happened & what's its future; how to properly pick your porn name; and unique custom clip requests. Episode 3 topics: Ron Popeil, porn & marriage, sick & twisted movie plots, jealousy and compersion for psychopaths, using tears as lube, the real people behind porn personas, stamp collections, insiders look at the porn industry, AVN porn awards, Manwin & Mindgeek, Gremlins & Phoebe Cates, The Butterfly Effect Podcast with Jon Ronson, findom, Richard Hatch from Battlestar Galactica, Castle Megastore, custom made porn clips. Episode 3 Links: www.caseycalvert.com @caseycalvertxxx twitter @BrynPryor twitter @DiminuendMovie twitter

21 Aug 20171h

American Sex, Episode 2: Relationships & Cock-ups Recap: Ken &  Sunny revisit the love languages, duke it out & make a bet. Ken reveals the secret to penile multiple orgasms. The pair discuss monogamy vs. open relationships & creative uses for 55-gallon drums of lube. A spider makes an unexpected guest appearance.  Episode 2 Topics: Compersion, ethical non-monogamy, polyamorous elitism, swinging, types of open relationships, codependency, toxic monogamy, comets, criticisms of the 5 love languages, mind reading in a relationship, San-Diego Comic Con, Richard Hatch, Battlestar Galactica, emotional literacy, asexuality, edging, male multiple orgasms, kegel exercises, dry orgasms, pelvic floor exercises, moving your ears, lube slip and slide, oops poops, killer spiders

15 Aug 201756min

Oh, you lucky duckies! We launched this podcast with almost no fanfare, didn't we? One day the American Sex podcast didn't exist and the next day it's like someone quietly slipped it under your pillow. Like a surprise gift . . . from a secret admirer . . . or the NSFW tooth fairy! Don't worry though, we won't steal your teeth. Ken and I have been working on American Sex for a while. A few episodes are already recorded and in various states of editing and we're pounding more out behind the scenes as quickly as we can (oh yeah we are, *wink*). But we're the types that can't hold on to presents. You know when it's the day before someone's birthday and you got them the greatest present ever? And you're so excited to give it to them that you're going to explode? So then you just start bugging them, "hey, you want your present? You want it early? I won't mind! You know you do! You want it early don't you?! Can I give it to you? PLUEEESSSEE!!?!?" That's us. It's your birthday tomorrow. AND WE WANT TO GIVE YOU YOUR PRESENT NOW! So here's Episode 1 of American Sex. Think of like how they release a pilot to a new show and then they make you wait a bit for the rest of the episodes. But with us it's not even that bad-- here's the deal: We'll be back in two weeks with regular weekly episodes from that point on. So I suppose this is our soft launch and you're one of the select few that found it before everyone else! Enjoy! We'll be back in two weeks with more episodes . . . American Sex, Episode 1: INTRO TO KEN & SUNNY Recap: This is our introductory episode. This hour is all about getting to know us, getting to know all about us-- sexuality educators, Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg. We discuss the concept of American Sex, what it means to us, and what we want you to get out of our show. We dive into our personal and professional backgrounds, how we were socialized to perceive sex, our open kinky marriage, phubbing, love languages, and a whole lot more. Episode 1 Topics: Phubbing, ghosting, the bonding power of cellphones (phoneteraction?), bluetooth sex toys, Dr. Gary Chapman 5 love languages, bickering as a 6th love language, emotional literacy, Sunny's fake husband Ted Wivernbork, Dungeons & Dragons, fear in BDSM, watermelon is the new pussy, how Disney and John Hughes 80s movies robbed a generation of their sexual agency, midlife revelations, thriving after an abusive relationship, woo-woo vs. science, accidental incontinence

9 Aug 20171h 3min