Gaslighting, Red Flags & Manipulation - Cultivating H.E.R Space Podcast Preview

On ep 78 we speak with Zoe Ligon of the SuperDeluxe web series, Sex Stuff, and owner of Spectrum Boutique. She tells us about the larger forces in her life that affect her relationships, identity, and sexuality--namely, healing from childhood trauma after the death of her father. Some of what we touch on: emotional incest, covert sexual assault, PTSD, loving someone that hurts you, identifying and recovering from subtle recurring abuse, rehabilitating vs. excommunicating abusers, shedding the performative parts of ourselves, consent & abuse, reconciling feminism and BDSM, therapeutic kink + more. Zoe also tells us a hilarious bonus story over on Patreon about an awkward discovery in an unexpected place that can't be blamed on the cat! 😹 ___________________________________ Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you'll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999 Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 78 Links Zoe Ligon Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thongria/ Zoe Ligon Twitter https://twitter.com/thongria Spectrum Boutique spectrumboutique.com Contact Zoe by email zoe@spectrumboutique.com Sex Stuff episode with Midori https://youtu.be/E1iFNXkJhuA Silently Seduced book By Kenneth Adams https://www.amazon.com/Silently-Seduced-Parents-Children-Partners/dp/0757315879/ Chemistry Eases The Pain Indiegogo https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/chemistry-eases-the-pain-by-shine-louise-houston Kink Academy Humiliation courses http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation Sunny Megatron Instagram (please help us get to 10k to unlock more business features!) http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast new subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast Episode 78 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info Get 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken's classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyearlytobed

25 Feb 20191h 11min

Queer porn producer, writer & director, Shine Louise Houston, is our guest on episode 77 of American Sex Podcast. We talk about pay inequities in porn and her progressive pay structure for talent, what it means to be queer, her upcoming movie "Chemistry Eases the Pain" which is a "straight curious" adventure-- that leads to a discussion of identity policing in the queer community and the all too common problem of being ridiculed for doing something or someone that isn't "queer enough." We also discuss the challenges of being a queer woman of color in the industry, crowdfunding adult films, why it's important to pay for your porn, and more. We also celebrate Shine's birthday! ___________________________________ Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you'll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999 Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 77 Links Chemistry Eases The Pain Indiegogo https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/chemistry-eases-the-pain-by-shine-louise-houston Pink Label TV https://www.pinklabel.tv Crash Pad https://crashpadseries.com/ Shine Louise Houston Twitter http://twitter.com/shinelouise & http://twitter.com/pinkandwhite (also http://twitter.com/crashpadseries & http://twitter.com/pinklabeltv Shine Louise Houston Instagram http://instagram.com/shinelouise & http://instagram.com/PinkAndWhiteProductions (also http://instagram.com/CrashPadSeries & http://instagram.com/PinkLabelTV) Shine Louise Huston Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ShineLouise/ & https://www.facebook.com/pinkwhiteproductions/ (also https://www.facebook.com/crashpadseries/ & https://www.facebook.com/PinkLabelTV/ ) Kink Academy Humiliation courses http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation Porn Star Karaoke Las Vegas https://www.facebook.com/karaokeXvegas/ Sunny Megatron Instagram (please help us get to 10k to unlock more business features!) http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast new subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast Episode 77 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info Get 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken's classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY

18 Feb 201957min

Get ready for a memorable blast from the past. We revisit an early American Sex podcast guest conversation with Davecat. Davecat's wife, Sidore, is a doll– meaning, she's not just a sweetie, she's actually synthetic! Happily coupled for 17 years, they also live with their mistress Elena and her partner Miss Winter. Davecat considers himself an iDollator because all three women in his life are dolls. You may have seen him on My Strange Addiction, the BBC Documentary Guys and Dolls, or other shows. Davecat sat down with us to give us a peek into his very unusual but seemingly average polyamorous life. We find out the real reason behind Davecat's preference for Synthetik partners, what day to day life is like in their household, how his family and friends feel about his lifestyle, his beautiful plans for his dolls after his death, and more. ___________________________________ Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you'll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999 Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 76 Links Shouting to Hear the Echoes, Davecat's blog http://www.kuroneko-chan.com/ echoes/ Synthetik week-end http://synthetikweekend. tumblr.com/ Davecat Twitter @Davecat Sidore Twitter @leahtype Elena Twitter @ElenaVostrikova Miss Winter Twitter @snowblind1980 Love and Sex with Robots, by David Levy http://a.co/668NO1z The Sex Doll: A History, by Anthony Ferguson http://a.co/eFzzTjI FastCompany Digisexual article https://www.fastcompany.com/90303947/digisexuality-is-stepping-out-of-the-closet-keep-an-open-mind Sunny Megatron Instagram (please help us get to 10k to unlock more business features!) http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast new subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast Episode 76 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info Get 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more)http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken's classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY

11 Feb 20191h 7min

On episode 75 Sunny & Lola's reflection on the Surviving R. Kelly docuseries prompts an impromptu conversation about America's long history of sexualizing teens. We're all shocked by the R. Kelly story but remember back in high school when it was "cool" to date a college-aged person? Remember when adults in your life didn't bat an eye at you dating a legal adult when you were underage? We break this complicated situation down by reflecting on our own experiences. Some of what we touched on: hitting puberty early, the over-sexualization of girls of color, how being sexually objectified as a teen shapes one's sexuality, Mary Kay Letourneau, the negative impacts of marrying young, the cultural normalization of teens dating adults, equating sex with love, why people stay in abusive situations & more. ___________________________________ Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you'll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999 Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 75 Links Dirty Lola Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dirtylola/ Dirty Lola Twitter https://twitter.com/dirtylola?lang=en To book Lola for workshops, bachelorette parties or her infamously funny and educational Sex Ed A Go-Go send requests to Lola@SexEdAGoGo.com Mary Kay Letourneau 20/20 episode https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D_ek0kBJSho Article about Paul Walker & Jared Fogle https://therooster.com/blog/jared-fogle-and-paul-walker-have-lot-common Facebook post & article about being preyed upon when underage https://www.facebook.com/SunnyMegatron/posts/2173056569406839?__tn__=-R Sunny Megatron Instagram (please help us get to 10k to unlock more business features!) http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast new subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast Episode 75 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info Get 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken's classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyearlytobed

4 Feb 20191h 9min

This episode might just change your life-- especially if you've ever wondered if your sexual fantasies are too "weird." Dr. Justin Lehmiller surveyed over 4,000 Americans about their fantasies and what he discovered is absolutely fascinating and reassuring. It turns out all of our sexual fantasies fall into seven major categories. Dr. Lehmiller tells us which are the most popular and why, if people of different genders fantasize differently, why suppressing our sexual fantasies can be damaging, why group sex is so appealing, why Republicans tend to have more taboo sexual fantasies, and how to use the information he uncovered to make your own sex life better. He even tells us a few things from his study that didn't make it into his latest book, Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. ___________________________________ Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you'll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999 Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 74 Links Dr. Justin Lehmiller Sex and Psychology Blog https://www.lehmiller.com/ Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life https://amzn.to/2STirXD Dr. Justin Lehmiller Twitter https://twitter.com/JustinLehmiller Dr. Justin Lehmiller Facebook https://www.facebook.com/psychologyofsex Dr. Justin Lehmiller Reddit https://www.reddit.com/r/psychologyofsex Dr. Justin Lehmiller Instagram https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/ Dr. Justin Lehmiller YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm8JQt7it3re8SypKf-mT2Q Sunny Megatron Instagram (please help us get to 10k to unlock more business features!) http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast new subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast Episode 74 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info Get 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken's classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyearlytobed

28 Jan 201958min

American Sex Podcast is back after holiday hiatus! Ken & Sunny speak with sex therapist Dr. Hernando Chaves about what affects the health of our sex lives. He discusses the heavy impact stress has in the bedroom and tells us how we can use mindfulness techniques to combat it, how to find common ground with a partner when your sexual interests don't seem compatible, the current political climate & its effects on gender power dynamics in relationships, and support for men in the age of #MeToo. We also talk sex-positive parenting and raising children that are questioning their gender and sexual orientation. As a bonus, Dr. Chavez gives us prostate play tips and tells us about the best new toy for p-spot play. ___________________________________ Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you'll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999 Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 73 Links Dr. Hernando Chaves Twitter https://twitter.com/Hernando_Chaves Dr. Hernando Chaves https://www.instagram.com/Hernando_Chaves Dr. Hernando Chaves website http://www.drhernandochaves.com/ Calm app https://www.calm.com/ Headspace app https://www.headspace.com/ Sunny Megatron Instagram (please help us get to 10k to unlock more business features!) http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast new subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast Episode 73 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info Get 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken's classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyearlytobed

21 Jan 20191h

Great sex and mind-blowing kink must include clear communication and thorough negotiation. Sometimes, however, the process can seem impersonal and not very sexy. In this episode, Midori teaches us surefire techniques for laying groundwork before a sexy scene that doesn't feel like negotiation at all. She explains her signature engaged collaborative consent model, gives specific steps for flirtatious negotiation, and offers tips for cultivating "Queen of the Starfish" moments. She also busts myths about what aftercare should entail, explains the brain chemistry behind sub drop and top drop, introduces us to BYOA, and details how to get the aftercare you want whether you're submissive or dominant. Yes, Doms need aftercare too! This is a must listen for everyone no matter where you are on the kinky spectrum. Sunny & Ken also prepare for their holiday hiatus and a life-changing adventure. ___________________________________ Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you'll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999 Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 72 Links Midori Twitter https://twitter.com/PlanetMidori Midori Instagram https://www.instagram.com/planetmidori/ Midori Newsletter https://www.fhp-inc.com/newsletter Midori class/event calendar http://www.FHP-Inc.com/classes Midori website http://www.FHP-Inc.com Midori's intensives www.ForteFemme.com www.RopeDojo.com Sunny Megatron Instagram (please help us get to 10k to unlock more business features!) http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast new subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast Episode 72 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info LOLA - This episode contains a special American Sex Podcast discount code for 40% your subscription for period & sex supplies delivered to your door from http://mylola.com. "Unlike other major brands, LOLA products are 100% natural and easy to feel good about. No BS, mystery fibers, or doubts about what's going in your body. Plus, LOLA products come in a simple, customizable subscription. LOLA will deliver exactly what you need, exactly when you need it" Enter to win a We-Vibe Discover Gift Box & other goodies valued at $350 from babeland.com by filling out our Pleasure Podcasts listener survey. Winner will be randomly drawn the last week of December. Good luck! http://bit.ly/americansexsurvey Get 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken's classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyearlytobed

17 Dec 20181h 5min

On Episode 71 Miss Quin opens up about all things clown fetish! What's the appeal? How do you find partners that don't think it's weird? What's behind the sudden popularity in clown porn? We also talk about her latest venture, Cam Girl Camp. The turnover in the cam world is high-- most performers quit within the first 2 weeks. Miss Quinn tells us the reasons why & what she's doing to change that. Lastly, online censorship is at a critical point. SESTA/FOSTA were intended to curb sex trafficking but have spectacularly backfired endangering sex workers across the country. The effects are now trickling down resulting in the censorship of anything having to do with sexuality on sites like Tumblr and Facebook. Sunny talks about how this unintended consequence affects all of us and what might be coming next. ___________________________________ Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you'll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!) Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter or texting MEGATRON to 444999 Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 71 Links Miss Quin Twitter https://twitter.com/ThatMissQuin Miss Quin Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thatmissquin/ Miss Quin YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/thatmissquin NSFW links: http://missquincam.cammodels.com clips4sale.com/studio/56029 http://thatmissquin.manyvids.com https://iwantclips.com/store/114817/ThatMissQuin New facebook TOS Sexual Solicitation section https://www.facebook.com/communitystandards/sexual_solicitation/?hc_location=ufi The Internet War on Sex is Here, Engadget https://www.engadget.com/2018/12/07/the-internet-war-on-sex-is-here/?fbclid=IwAR1N4OgfbD0mz6GFlr1pEsQdRBzQ8vX_p_NwDQdrqoN_r2poLvSA1_-CJvE New Facebook Policy Sparks fears of Sex Talk Crackdown, PC Magazine https://www.pcmag.com/news/365330/new-facebook-policy-sparks-fears-of-sex-talk-crackdown?fbclid=IwAR2iwHKlKjKgbegSl-_5qFt43-9AqXdEcQ1hRPhjqLlzR1ceX1GjsZI8aXY Episode 37 SESTA FOSTA w/ Kitty Stryker http://sunnymegatron.com/kitty-stryker-sesta-fosta-consent-juggalos/ Survivors Against SESTA website https://survivorsagainstsesta.org/ Sunny Megatron newsletter http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter (or text MEGATRON to 444999) Sunny Megatron Instagram (please help us get to 10k to unlock more business features!) http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast new subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast Heaving Bosoms Podcast https://heavingbosomspodcast.com/ Episode 71 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info Enter to win a We-Vibe Discover Gift Box & other goodies valued at $350 from babeland.com by filling out our Pleasure Podcasts listener survey. Winner will be randomly drawn the last week of December. Good luck! http://bit.ly/americansexsurvey Get 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more)http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts Sunny & Ken's classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyearlytobed

10 Dec 20181h 6min