#105 - When Anal Sex Scenes Get Cut: You Fall into Stand-Up Comedy w/ Kate Kennedy

It may have taken me 56 episodes + 18 bonus episodes BUT I've finally sourced an erotic masseuse fit for the show! Thanks to a fellow listener and fan (thanks Dan!), I bring Canadian erotic masseuse, Lexie Caldera, onto the show to speak about her experience working in adult spas. What actually goes on behind closed doors? How do you give a happy ending? Are extras include? How does the whole thing work!? Lexie explains it ALL to us in major detail so you'll want to be listening closely. She also invites us in deeper into her personal life about she how she started sex work as a teen advertising on Craigslist, how she navigated through coming out to her conservative family, hitchhiking and train hopping all throughout Canada and more. I could have literally talked to her forever about this stuff (so interesting!) but Lexie also gives us the down low on how to effectively brand yourself as a sex worker and how freakin' important it is to save money, plan for the future and create an exit plan, and not just blow it all away in one go. It's a super insightful episode and I'm ashamed that it took me so damn long to find a suitable guest for this topic but I assure you that it is well worth the wait! @lexie.caldera www.lexiecaldera.ca twitter.com/lexiecalderaxo facebook.com/lexiecalderaxo Don't forget to LIKE, RATE, SHARE, REVIEW and SUBSCRIBE! @strippedbysia @siasteph www.stephsia.com twitter.com/strippedbysia https://www.patreon.com/Strippedbysia

24 Jan 20211h 27min

I'm baaaaaaaack! It's 2021 and although I had released a bonus episode last week, I am really kicking things into high gear with this week's guest, Lynx Chase, who is officially ringing in 2021 on the pod! Lynx is a Metis, French and Lithuanian stripper, burlesque artist and kinkster who I have been dying to speak with FOREVER. They are a wealth of knowledge when it comes to BDSM and kink positivity and which they happily shed light on. A bulk of the episode goes into speaking about their Indigenous ancestry and what that means for them. Identifying in one of the most marginalized minority groups, I ask Lynx on their experiences of being of mixed ancestry. We learn a bit about Indigenous history in Canada (also applicable to the USA) and how this painful colonization has played in their Indigeneity, sexuality, and performanceship. We also go into their dancing with the Indigenous burlesque troupe, Virago Nation, their stances on responsible dominance in the kink community and how Aladdin played a part in their sexual awakening as a kid. All this and more on this week's episode - tune in! @aylaylay_ Burlesque West: Showgirls, Sex, and Sin in Post-War Vancouver by Becki L. Ross The Indian Act Indigenous Canada presented by U of Alberta Don't forget to LIKE, RATE, SHARE, REVIEW and SUBSCRIBE! @strippedbysia @siasteph www.stephsia.com twitter.com/strippedbysia https://www.patreon.com/Strippedbysia

9 Jan 20211h 12min

Welcome back, everyone and happy 2021!!! I hope you've all had a restful and enjoyable holiday! I'm taking a little break this week so enjoy this bonus episode featuring...me, Steph Sia aka Kim Chi, guest lecturing at Florida State University this past November! I speak about my podcast, how I got started in sex work, pole dancing and my thoughts on it as a sport, differences and parallels between government legislation surrounding sex work globally, and more. A big thank you, once again, to Alicia for inviting me to speak to your Human Sexuality class. I am ecstatic and honoured to have been asked to return to speak to your bright class of future therapists, counsellors and sex educators. Don't forget to LIKE, RATE, SHARE, REVIEW and SUBSCRIBE! @strippedbysia @siasteph www.stephsia.com twitter.com/strippedbysia https://www.patreon.com/Strippedbysia

3 Jan 20211h 14min

The last episode of the year and we are going out with a BAAAAAAANG! I invite Madame Nova Caine onto the show to speak about...pretty much everything. 53 episodes in and it's important to review and educate all you listeners out there where the term "exotic" in exotic dancer came from. We dive deep into the history of sex work, acknowledging its colonial roots as brown and black bodies being a muse for the white man and how this colonizing perspective is found even in today's world. The competing views of sex workers and the pole community continue to be on edge as we discuss the Pleasers controversy that happened earlier this month and what Nova Caine believes how erotic movement classes should be taught in studios. We also get cozy with Nova Caine as she shares with us intimate details of her military discharge and the role it played in her family, her sex work and the chronic pain it left her at age 21 and how stripping serves as physical therapy for her. We get into some heated topics on this episode but the overarching theme is the same: giving credit where credit is due. Thank you again to all of the loyal listeners. There will be more episodes going straight through 2021 - stay tuned! @novacainedances_llc Don't forget LIKE, RATE, SHARE, REVIEW and SUBSCRIBE! @strippedbysia @siasteph www.stephsia.com twitter.com/strippedbysia https://www.patreon.com/Strippedbysia

27 Dec 20201h 29min

I bring on the fabulous LA-based stripper, Jordan Kensley, onto the show this week! If you don't know Jordan, she is an internationally recognized and award-winning pole dancer who tours the globe frequently and fellow injustice activist. Oh, and not to mention she is one HELL OF A TALKER (which is precisely why I brought her onto the show)! We discuss in detail Instagram's tireless plight to censor sex workers, shadowbanning in all forms in both past and present, and the overall erasure of women's bodies on their platform. We speak about the #notastripper athletic pole dancers and the divide between pole dancing and sex workers. We also discuss the current political climate in America, SOSTA/FESTA, the laws that are being enacted in LA clubs and continue the conversation regarding independent contracting and being an employee of strip clubs and the parameters surrounding each side. Jordan shares with us a plethora of information both helpful to sex workers and civilians alike and if you liked the episode, don't forget to Venmo her! Sex worker resources: Sex Worker Advocacy Network (SWAN) Soldiers of Pole Connect with Jordan: @jordankensley https://twitter.com/jordankensley Alanatis Bohlen Management $JordanKensley Don't forget to LIKE, RATE, SHARE, REVIEW and SUBSCRIBE! Connect with me on social: @strippedbysia @siasteph www.stephsia.com twitter.com/strippedbysia https://www.patreon.com/Strippedbysia

20 Dec 20201h 30min

***TRIGGER WARNING*** This week I will be discussing sex work and disability. If this triggers you, you may want to skip this episode. I invite disabled sex worker, Rafael Hotrod, onto the show today to speak about his sexuality, how he expresses that in his disabled state, the stigma that comes with a physical disability, finding carecaregivers and more. He has recently forayed into sex work during the pandemic after years of pondering and has finally taken the plunge. What made him do it? Is there a market out there for disabled bodies? How does he shoot his content? From having years of experience with gay male escorts, Rafael has finally started to produce his own content. He shares with us a fetish that I had no idea about: disability fetish. He explains the different subgroups of disability, devotee community, admirers, pretenders and more. I know what some of you may be thinking: this isn't moral, this is unethical but hear this one out. Rafael gives us an in-depth and thought-out answer to this niche community and fetish that will have you second-guessing your own judgment. https://www.twitter.com/rafaelhotrod https://www.pornhub.com/model/rafael-hotrod https://onlyfans.com/rafaelhotrod Don't forget to LIKE, RATE, SHARE, REVIEW and SUBSCRIBE! https://www.instagram.com/strippedbysia https://www.instagram.com/siasteph https://www.facebook.com/strippedbysia https://www.stephsia.com twitter.com/strippedbysia https://www.patreon.com/Strippedbysia

13 Dec 20201h 23min

This week, we're flying over to POLAND to speak with sex worker and activist, Sonia Nowak. Sonia started in sex work when she was in Poland and later took those skills to London when she was going to school. There, she noticed the injustices that were occurring when it came to sex work, specifically, in regards to stripping. Are we considered as independent contractors or employees? The parameters given by the strip club she was employed at dictated what type of outfits to wear, what hours she was to work, what she could and couldn't do... wait a minute. That doesn't sound like contracting to me - that sounds like employment. Observing these details motivated her to seek out resources for her and other sex workers to organize to build a case against the club and seek to form a union because sex workers deserve to be afforded basic human rights (DAMN RIGHT!). And her involvement with activism doesn't just stop there. Sonia was also recently taking part at the recent protests in Poland surrounding the anti-abortion laws and governing women's bodies. She is an opinionated and intelligent woman and I am so glad to have connected with her and to have had her on the show! @imyourelectricgirl www.twitter.com/electricgirl666 www.facebook.com/imyourelectricgirl Additional information re: sex worker unions, gathering + supplemental resources IG: @unitedstrippersoftheworld www.twitter.com/unitedswers Sex Work Polska East London Strippers Collective History re: SW organizing in the UK Dancers are workers: Nowak v Cahndler Bars Group Ltd and the history of dancer organizing in London Fundraiser to support Polish sex workers Dziewuchy London Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SHARE and SUBSCRIBE! @strippedbysia @siasteph Stripped by SIA on Facebook www.twitter.com/stephsia www.stephsia.com

6 Dec 20201h 3min

We're flipping the table this week on the podcast as I bring a client onto the show - please welcome Miguel* (not his actual name). Miguel comes to the show with a plethora of experience as a loyal client of many different escorts in the city (including past guests on my show). His curiosity first originated in erotic massage parlours and then graduated to full service sex workers via Backpage and Craiglist (RIP!). Miguel shares his experiences regarding why he chooses to pay for sex, what comfort it brings him, and why he continues to seek professional sexual treatment. Is it just for the sex? Is it a form of therapy? Companionship? Not only does he go over the obvious, but we also divulge in him being scammed, catfished and his own personal boundaries being crossed by sex workers. They say there are bad apples in every batch and the sex work industry is not exempt. We also go over client etiquette, what to expect on your first session, keywords to look for in ads that may be red flags and more. This episode is for anyone who is seeking sex work as a client and even for sex workers as well on how to better improve your ads, helpful tips in protecting yourself and basically, the curious! Don't forget to LIKE, RATE, REVIEW, and SUBSCRIBE! @strippedbysia @siasteph www.stephsia.com twitter.com/strippedbysia https://www.patreon.com/Strippedbysia

29 Nov 202059min