Beat Your Genes Podcast9 Nov 2017

91: Live Callers: The Hill Climbing Trap, the Ego Trap, and What Your 20s Are Actually For

Most ambitious people assume that the point of life is to accomplish something great enough that the world remembers your name. Dr. Lisle calls this the hill climbing trap, and in this episode he argues it is one of the most consequential mistakes a creative person can make. The statue in the park 200 years from now? Birds will be crapping on it, and nobody you care about will ever see it.

In this live caller episode, Dr. Doug Lisle walks two listeners through some of the most practical applications of evolutionary psychology on the show. With Dan from New Hampshire, he unpacks how to think about creative ambition, why you should pursue excellence for the process rather than the outcome, and why your 20s are for surveying the landscape, not specializing. With Steven from Ohio, he takes on the question of whether leaders are born or made, and delivers a sharp reframe of Carol Dweck's growth mindset research, arguing that what Dweck calls the fixed mindset is actually what Dr. Lisle calls the ego trap.

Key question covered: If the biological purpose of life is gene reproduction, is there any point in pursuing creative passions and excellence?

Beat Your Genes is co-hosted by evolutionary psychologist Dr. Doug Lisle, PhD and Dr. Nathan Gershfeld, DC.

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