Beat Your Genes Podcast8 Aug 2019

181: Showing weakness, Dominance Hierarchy, Sharing Evopsych, Ego Trap?

In this show, we discuss showing weakness as a sexual strategy, then we move to a question about dominance hierarchies vs. competence hierarchy (is there a difference?). Next question is about the mixed perceptions of evolutionary psychology. Finally, Dr. Lisle then takes some time to discuss elements of the ego trap. The questions are as follows: 1. Do you think there are situations where a man showing weakness to a woman can be positive? Can women get away with it easily, or weakness also a signal of sexual interest when it comes to them? 2.Some people seem to be so driven to compete and rise to the top, however their internal audience is constantly asking them, "are you sure you're not being too dominant? Is this step up worth it?", either directly or indirectly in the form of general stress. Emotional stability seems to be a huge component in how this plays out on an individual basis. I'd be curious if you think this competence/dominance inner battle is part of what plays into the pleasure trap. 3.I want to spread the truth of evolutionary psychology but I also don't want to hurt my mating chances by getting labeled a reject. Should I keep my evolutionary thoughts a secret and only explain it in easy to digest chic talk or should I spread these ideas with testicular fortitude? 4.I am wondering about how the ego trap might apply to people who have not been given reason for high expectations. In a sense, whether there is some interaction between the ego trap and the Dunning-Kruger effect of lower-capacity individuals being less likely to recognize their own limitations. Can the "ego trap" exist for those who don't have much outside esteem coming in? Is it a form of deferral of failure?

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