The Universe Is Trying To Tell You You're GAY!! with Jacqueline Toboni

They say the best ships are friendships... But what about queers that can sail the sea? Wait, what? Anyway - Lexi Dussi joins Mal this week to talk about her journey to finding a queer community, starting from the dark days of lying to her straight friends about where she was, to becoming fully integrated in a queer friend group she couldn't have dreamt up. This episode answers some of our most frequently asked questions - how do I make queer friends? How do I navigate being in the same friend group as my ex? Where can I find community? Why do gay people only hang out with other gay people? Tune in to find out! Follow our guest Lexi @lexidussi and please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this episode with a straight friend to remind them that you still love them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

9 Jan 202436min

If your New Year's resolution is to lose weight - maybe watch this episode first! Mal and singer-songwriter Maddie Zahm discuss a range of topics from purity culture in the church, to body image and weight loss fixation, and how all of these affected Maddie's journey to coming out and dating women. We hope this episode reminds you to be kind to yourself, to embrace your body, and that there will always be another donut. Follow our guest Maddie at @maddiezahm and check out her tour dates at https://maddiezahmmusic.com/home/ Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your choir director! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal at @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

2 Jan 202457min

This week, Mal is joined by her friend of 18 years, Rica Charleston, to discuss growing up in the South, being outed, navigating being gay in the black community, and the challenges of being in an interracial relationship. Rica brings an honest, unfiltered, and hilarious perspective to this conversation, and Mal shares a picture of her high school hairstyle - there is no holding back. You must've been nice this year, cause Santa brought you a great episode! Follow our guest Rica at @thericacharleston Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your best friend from middle school! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal at @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

26 Dec 202335min

We got your dating questions... and Jordan Harvey is here to answer them! Jordan and Mal sit down to chat about the intricacies of dating women for the first time and the questions that come up - how do I figure out what my type is? Who makes the first move? Who pays for the date? What are the best apps for queer women? And many more. So listen up, take notes, and best of luck out there! Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your crush! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

19 Dec 202334min

Zoya Biglary joins Mal on the conversation couch to share her struggles with fitting in, coming out to her conservative Persian parents, and defying cultural expectations. Even though Zoya forgot to bring a piece of fruit, she peels back the layers of trauma and challenges that made her the out and proud Middle Eastern lesbian she is today. This episode is as aspirational as it is heartwarming, with subtle notes of sadness, and pairs nicely with a glass of chilled red wine. Salamati! Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your local librarian! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal at @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

12 Dec 202336min

This week's episode dives into the topic of sexuality and the spectrum, how accurate those online "Am I Gay" quizzes are, and the nuances of appreciation versus attraction. Mal and SJ share their experiences with dating men out of a desire to fit in and meet societal pressures, and discuss the importance of listening to your inner "tiny voice" when it tells you what is and isn't authentic to you. SJ, an LA-based visual artist, shares reading materials to discuss the importance of developing your own taste, trusting that you like what you like, and how art and literature can transform your perspective. That's right - class is in session! The quizzes referenced in this episode can be found: https://bi.org/en/klein-grid https://www.idrlabs.com/kinsey-scale/test.php The artists referenced in this episode are: Jenna Gribbon https://www.artsy.net/artist/jenna-gribbon Polly Nor https://www.pollynor.com/ Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your art history professor! Follow the show on all socials at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal at @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

5 Dec 202341min

Jordin Shives joins Mal in the hot seat this week to dive into the early days of lesbian sex - the switch from sex with men to women, the expectations when first hooking up with a new partner, sex toys, the strap, lesbian porn, and words of advice to a baby gay. The episode climax comes with an incredible story of Jordin's first (and only) attempt at an open relationship. This episode is a treat, so sit back, grab some corn chips, and enjoy the ride! Follow our guest at @jjjordiin. Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your OBGYN! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal at @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

28 Nov 202335min

Alix Traeger joins Mal this week to take us through her sexual exploration journey that was triggered by - what the LA girlies call - a spiritual awakening. Alix came out in her late 20’s after years of subconsciously seeking out toxic relationships with men, and dodging a nagging curiosity to be with women. The two best friends discuss how break ups lead to breakdowns which lead to breakthroughs, and how getting to know yourself is truly the most important thing. Coming to terms with your sexuality later in life has its own share of difficulties, but the friends you make and community you build are worth every painful moment. Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your shaman! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal at @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

21 Nov 202335min