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Comedian Ali Kolbert sits down with Mal to discuss her pattern of pursuing straight women. The two dive into Ali's high school obsession with her straight best friend and how the dynamics of that friendship affected her lesbian dating life. Ali opens up about why she found herself in these seemingly dead-end relationships and what steps she's taken to break the pattern. The two also discuss finding your queer identity, fitting into queer spaces and Anxious-Avoidant attachment styles. Listen to Ali's podcast, Breaking Down with Ali Kolbert: https://open.spotify.com/show/27KEFQNRq3kBf8uvH744bk Follow our guest @alikolbert and please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your massage therapist! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

5 Mars 202443min

Liz Tracy joins Mal to discuss internalized homophobia and how it creeps up, even once you are out and proud. Liz grew up in a very progressive and open-minded family in Seattle but still found herself struggling to accept her sexuality, to the point where she would date women online using a fake male profile. This episode offers great discussions on aversions to sex toys for fear that they are 'too gay', consistently dating long distance in order to compartmentalize one's sexuality, and living a secret double life. Follow our guest @lizguine and please remember to subscribe, rate on Spotify, review on Apple, and share this episode with your one of your old Tumblr buddies! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

20 Feb 202452min

In honor of St. Valentine, we cooked up a U-Haul love story (with a hint of psychedelics, of course). Dope Kitchen's Nicole opens up about her coming out journey - from the early days of crushing on straight friends, to threesomes in Europe, and finally finding true gay love. In a tent in Alaska, of all places! Follow our guest @dopekitchen and please remember to subscribe, rate on Spotify, review on Apple, and share this episode with your valentine! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

14 Feb 202437min

You might recognize Jonica Booth from HBO's Rap Shit (if you don't, check it out!) but the Duke of Miami is here to tell us about her journey from a cube at CitiBank to the big screen. It wasn't easy though, as Jonica lost her brother 3 days before shooting for Rap Shit began and had to hide it from her new castmates and coworkers. Jonica discusses her grieving process, how sudden death changed her outlook on life and love, and how to heal after loss. So sit back, enjoy, and remember that life is short - so have that threesome! Follow our guest Jonica @jonicablubooth and please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this episode with a loved one! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

6 Feb 202448min

**Content Warning: This episode contains content that may be challenging to some listeners. Please check the show notes below for a detailed description. This week, Mal is joined by her friend Sierra to discuss toxic relationships: the signs, the patterns, and what to do if you think you might be in one. It was Sierra's first relationship with a woman that forced her to examine her past, and which brought up repressed memories of Childhood Sexual Assault (CSA). This revelation led to years of healing work and therapy, and Sierra found herself in various unhealthy romantic relationships throughout that challenging time. Sierra shares what she learnt during that time and reminds us that we all deserve a happy ending, no matter the circumstances we came from. Please see resources Sierra shared below: 98Society: https://98society.com/ Rainn: https://www.rainn.org/ Darkness to Light: https://www.d2l.org/ National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 The Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ Los Angeles - LGBTQ Center: https://lalgbtcenter.org/programs/community-support-groups/ Follow our guest @sierradowd and please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this episode with someone you suspect might be in a toxic relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

30 Jan 202444min

This week, singer-songwriter-producer Chelsea Cutler joins Mal to talk about her 5 year relationship and share some wisdom on love. She answers questions like: how do you know if you've found the one? What does falling in love feel like? Just how important is communication in a relationship? How does love change over time? Leave it to this lyrical genius to speak on such a complicated topic in the simplest and most beautiful way. Whether you're in a long term relationship or are looking for one - this episode has something for you! Chelsea's tour kicks off in February, find dates in your city on https://www.chelseacutler.com/tour/ Follow our guest Chelsea @chelseacutler and please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your dogwalker! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

23 Jan 202436min

Join Mal and model/author Chloe Mason in a conversation about taking a non-traditional path and doing everything in order to survive - especially as a young mom navigating sexuality later in life. For anyone who's had to overcome tough circumstances, this episode brings a message of hope - and will remind you that you're doing the best you can, and that is enough. Follow our guest @chloealexandraxo (stay tuned for her book launch announcement) and please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this episode with your next door neighbor! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

16 Jan 202446min

They say the best ships are friendships... But what about queers that can sail the sea? Wait, what? Anyway - Lexi Dussi joins Mal this week to talk about her journey to finding a queer community, starting from the dark days of lying to her straight friends about where she was, to becoming fully integrated in a queer friend group she couldn't have dreamt up. This episode answers some of our most frequently asked questions - how do I make queer friends? How do I navigate being in the same friend group as my ex? Where can I find community? Why do gay people only hang out with other gay people? Tune in to find out! Follow our guest Lexi @lexidussi and please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this episode with a straight friend to remind them that you still love them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

9 Jan 202436min