151: From Grief, Sadness, and Hurt to Healing and Closure
When pornography use is discovered in a relationship, there is often a lot of grief and hurt that surfaces. Shock about how this could have happened. Feeling stuck in pain not knowing how to make sense of it. And grief about what the relationship once was and uncertain about how to move forward. In this episode I share a few specific ways to approach grief, sadness, and hurt that enables healing and closure from the past. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men: Join the Private Group Here Get access to my trust building workshop: trust.stopporn.info Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
4 Juli 202428min
150: He’s a Source of Pain AND a Source of Comfort
After pornography use, a husband becomes a source of pain as well as a source of comfort for his wife. this can be such a confusing place for both people to be. Sometimes she doesn't want to be around him at all, but other times she needs him close and for him to provide reassurance. As a man, oftentimes he doesn't know what to say or how to help so he ends up giving space when really what she needs is his support. In this episode, I share with you specific things that you can do in order to turn the relationship into a place where is felt. I also share tools for a husband to know how to navigate the ups and downs of conversations and how to support her in the moments she needs it most. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men: Join the Private Group Here Get access to my trust building workshop: trust.stopporn.info Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
27 Juni 202423min
149: A New Twist On Identify and Resolving Underlying Issues That Lead to Pornography Use
Understanding and resolving the underlying issues that lead pornography use is essential. Without addressing the root cause, you're bound to continue to struggle with triggers and temptations. Announcement!!! Trust is a critical part of rebuilding your relationship after pornography use has damaged it So, I decided to do a special trust building workshop, where for 90 minutes I’ll be doing a deep dive and sharing with you specific steps you can take, tools you can implement, and practical ways that you can rebuild trust in your relationship. There are 2 ways to access the training - it's on my website for $97 or you can access it for free by joining my free online community where I'll be doing live monthly workshops, live Q&A sessions, and offering support to members who need guidance and help on this path. If that sounds interesting, you can join by registering here and you'll get the link to the free online community where the workshop will be hosted: trust.stopporn.info Today’s Episode: Sometimes it can feel really difficult to identify the underlying issues that lead to pornography use. Is it from childhood? Is it something that developed afterwards? Is it just a habit? Why does it keep happening? And how to I fix it? The key is to start by identifying and resolving the underlying issues that lead to this behavior. Addressing things on a deeper level is also important for a wife because she won't be able to fully trust without knowing he's dealt with why the pornography use has happened in the first place. In this episode, I want to share with you a very clear way to identify what issues are still unresolved so you can work through them directly. Once you do, the triggers and temptations will naturally dissipate, which enables you to feel freedom and peace instead of having to keep your guard up. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men: Join the Private Group Here Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
20 Juni 202418min
148: 5 Signs That the Trust in Your Marriage is Seriously Damaged
Announcement!!! Trust is a critical part of rebuilding your relationship after pornography use has damaged it So, I decided to do a special trust building workshop, where for 90 minutes I’ll be doing a deep dive and sharing with you specific steps you can take, tools you can implement, and practical ways that you can rebuild trust in your relationship. There are 2 ways to access the training - it's on my website for $97 or you can access it for free by joining my free online community where I'll be doing live monthly workshops, live Q&A sessions, and offering support to members who need guidance and help on this path. If that sounds interesting, you can join by registering here and you'll get the link to the free online community where the workshop will be hosted: trust.stopporn.info Today’s Episode: Trust is a foundation of a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Pornography use shatters trust and feelings of security, which leaves couples in a state of fear and self protection. In this episode, I want to share with you the five indicators that trust has been significantly damaged and four things that you can do to repair it. After having worked with hundreds of couples, I know that rebuilding trust is possible with the right direction. So tune in to today’s episode to discover how you can apply the right tools to help you find closure from the damage and move forward with security. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men: Join the Private Group Here Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
13 Juni 202427min
147: Tools to Help Your Relationship Progress If She Brings Up Her Pain
Announcement!!! Trust is a critical part of rebuilding your relationship after pornography use has damaged it. So, I decided to do a special trust building workshop, where for 90 minutes I’ll be doing a deep dive and sharing with you specific steps you can take, tools you can implement, and practical ways that you can rebuild trust in your relationship. Before I offer the workshop for sale, I’m doing the live version of it for free. If that sounds interesting, you can join by registering here: trust.stopporn.info Today’s Episode: Have you ever had the experience where things feel relatively calm between you and your spouse? And you think things are going well, then out of nowhere she brings up her pain from the past, and her husband is completely caught off guard. Just the mirror mention of the past that she is still hurting seems to cause things to spiral or him to shut down because of discouragement. It’s a reminder that things aren't back to normal yet and that there are still issues that haven’t been resolved. In today's episode I want to share with you how you can navigate these moments and a new way to look at this situation to give you some encouragement and hope that you guys can get through this. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men: Join the Private Group Here Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
6 Juni 202426min
146: Success Story: Braden Shares the 5 Specific Things That Changed His Life and Helped Him Quit Pornography
Have you ever felt so hopeless and discouraged as you've tried to quit pornography that you thought that there's no way out? Despite how hard you've tried, you just haven't been able to get this problem out of your life. This is how Braden felt before we started to work together. He tried everything he possibly could, but it still didn't work. After discovering there is a new way he could approach quitting pornography, it gave him hope to try one more time. In this conversation, Braden outlines the five specific things that helped him the most. He shares how different his life is now that he's actually been successful at eliminating pornography. His personal life and marriage are flourishing, and he feels so much excitement about wanting to help others experience the same fulfillment that comes from resolving this issue. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
30 Maj 202456min
145: When It’s Hard to Work On Your Marriage and Forgiveness Seems Impossible to Achieve
Pornography use damages a relationship in deep and significant ways. Trust is broken and her wall goes up. The idea of forgiveness can feel impossible to offer, and a husband feels despair wondering if they’ll ever move on from the past and find closure. This episode I share with you how you can navigate this painful situation in a way that will feel comfortable for both of you. While forgiveness is an important step, when and how you focus on, it makes all the difference. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
23 Maj 202423min
144: 5 Signs She’s Feeling Betrayal Trauma (And How You Can Address It)
When a woman discovers her husband's pornography use, her whole world gets turn upside down. Oftentimes she now thinks that everything was a lie. Their whole relationship was fake. They don't even know who their husband is anymore. Given how much damage is done, many women experience what's called betrayal trauma. In this episode I share with you the 5 indicators that a woman is experiencing betrayal trauma, then I share with you three specific things that you can do to address it together. For therapy with Sam: I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it. If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do. Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly. Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction. Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support: https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners? Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
9 Maj 202432min
