Mormon Marriages29 Sep 2019

E22 - How To Get Your Spouse On Board With Improving Your Marriage Q&A with Nate and Angilyn

We hear this type of question all the time.

You’ve heard it said, “It takes two to tango.”

You’ve got all these awesome ideas on how to better your relationship, but no matter how many times you ask your spouse to get on board, you aren’t getting any ounce of participation from them.

You want your life to change, but you feel stuck.

“I want to be healthier, but my wife hates exercising.”

“I want our family to be more spiritual, but I can’t get my husband to initiate scripture reading and family home evening.”

“I wish that we weren’t on our phones as much, but everytime I ask my spouse to put their phone away we end up arguing.”

“I need more help around the house but I have to constantly nag, yell and scream before anyone lifts a finger.”

Do any of these situations sound familiar to you?

If so, you’re not alone.

So, how do you get your spouse to embrace all of these things and put them into practice?

Spoiler Alert…

YOU can’t.

You can’t make your spouse to do anything, regardless of how hard you try.

But why not?!?!

If you haven’t learned already, you have zero control over your spouse and their choices.

Zero. Zilch. None whatsoever.

In fact, there are very few things in life that you actually have control over: Just you… Your thoughts, your actions, your choices.

We talk about this all the time on the blog and in the podcast.

Just like it would do you absolutely no good to stand outside in the rain and beg the sky to stop, it does you no good to hound your spouse and constantly nag them in hopes that they will see things your way and change.

This is type of behavior is more harmful than helpful…

So, what can you do?

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