The Big 3 Issues in Marriage: Part 3, Sex

Navigate the midnight hours of life and faith with profound wisdom from author Aubrey Sampson, Enneagram 4 (4-7 pairing), as we discover what we actually find in spiritual darkness through Aubrey's soul-wrenching journey of losing her best friend Jen and encountering the "dark night of the soul." Learn why spiritual dryness isn't failure but invitation, how to support others through their darkest seasons without trying to fix them, and why some of our most profound encounters with God happen when He feels most absent. Aubrey offers honest hope for anyone walking through grief, spiritual darkness, or seasons when faith feels impossible - showing how the midnight hours can become places of sacred encounter rather than spiritual failure. Based on her book "What We Find in the Dark," this conversation provides hard-won wisdom for finding God's presence in the very places where He seems most hidden. Watch on YouTube! Get Aubrey's book, "What We Find in the Dark: Loss, Hope, and God's Presence in Grief" here: https://a.co/d/3fRiNDg Get The Message Devotional Bible for Women by NavPress that Aubrey contributed devotionals to here: https://a.co/d/6ms07oQ Check out Aubrey's Substack here: https://aubreysampson.substack.com/ Visit Aubrey's Instagram here! https://www.instagram.com/aubsamp/?hl=en More about Aubrey: About AubreyAubrey (M.A. Evangelism and Leadership)co-planted and co-pastors Renewal Church in Chicagoland. She speaks across the country at churches and other ministry events. She is an award-winning author, the host of the Together We Rise podcast (Women Speakers Collective), and host of the What We Find in the Dark Podcast. She also coaches women in ministry with Propel Women Cohorts.  Aubrey is passionate about helping hurting people find God’s presence in their pain. She and her husband Kevin, and their three hilarious sons, live, minister, and play in the Chicagoland area.Aubrey is the author of several books, including What We Find in the Dark: Loss, Hope, and God’s Presence in Grief (NavPress, 2025), children’s book Big Feelings Days: A Book About Hard Things, Heavy Emotions, and Jesus’ Love (NavPress, 2023), Known: How Believing Who God Says You Are Changes Everything, The Louder Song: Listening for Hope in the Midst of Lament (NavPress, 2019) and Overcomer: Breaking Down the Walls of Shame and Rebuilding Your Soul (Zondervan, 2015).  Head on over to ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠ | ⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠ here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

11 Aug 38min

Discover your relationship's hidden superpowers through summer blockbuster wisdom! Christa (7) and Melody (9) explore how storylines and superhero teams demonstrate the best and worst of personality . Analyze the way the SP, SX, and SO instincts in Jurassic World Rebirth go right and wrong, Fantastic Four's perfect type diversity, and dive deep into Cobra Kai's complex dynamics (shadows and shine) where Johnny's Type 8 journey from domination to protection pairs with Daniel's Type 1 evolution from rigid perfectionism to flexible excellence. Best of all, notice the ultimate glow happens when former enemies combine their different approaches. This fun summer episode proves that your differences aren't obstacles - they're your secret weapons for creating legendary love together! YouTube: https://youtu.be/UkgRctJODLs Head on over to https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage Have a specific question? ⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

6 Aug 44min

Have you noticed humans learn better through story, metaphor, and the five senses than through thinking alone? Discover the fun of personality growth through the extraordinary lens of personality patterns we see mirrored in nature this late summer with Dr. Angela Rosenberg, Type 2, author of her book "Being on the Wing: Feathered Reflections on the Enneagram Subtypes." Whether we are lively and animated or more calculated and affirming, learn why observation and stepping into nature can help us to accelerates personal growth as we learn from both metaphor and what we can see so obviously in nature about styles of engagement. This end of summer episode is perfect for nature lovers, Enneagram enthusiasts, and anyone seeking to understand their personality through the wisdom of the natural world. Watch on YouTube here! Read Dr. Rosenberg's Enneagram book here! https://a.co/d/2rMRr55 Read Dr. Rosenberg's other book, Nine Perfect Petals, here (flowers): https://a.co/d/2sVNZi9 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

4 Aug 53min

Discover your intimate superpower through sexual integration! In this finale episode, marriage coach Christa reveals what healthy sexual expression looks like for each Enneagram type - from Type 1's relaxed presence finding perfection in imperfect moments to Type 8's gentle strength and vulnerable power. Learn how sexual integration isn't about becoming someone else but accessing your most authentic self in intimate connection. Explore each type's integration path: Type 2's balanced giving and receiving, Type 5's generous energy sharing, Type 7's present-moment depth, and more. When both partners practice sexual integration, intimate life becomes a laboratory for wholeness and spiritual practice. Watch on YouTube! Head on over to ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠ | ⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠ here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

30 Juli 22min

Navigate sexual challenges with compassion through understanding Enneagram shadows in intimacy! Marriage coach Christa explores how each type's protective patterns create predictable conflicts - from Type 1 perfectionism blocking pleasure to Type 8 intensity overwhelming partners to Type 9s disconnecting during intimate moments. Discover common type conflicts like structure vs. spontaneity (1 vs. 7), emotional connection vs. space needs (2 vs. 5), and performance vs. presence (3 vs. 9). Learn why sexual shadows aren't flaws but growing edges, and how intimacy accelerates personal development by revealing protection patterns. Includes the transformational Shadow to Light Practice for turning challenges into connection opportunities. Stop taking sexual difficulties personally and start seeing them as invitations to grow together. Head on over to ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠ | ⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠ here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

28 Juli 21min

Discover the secret pleasure languages that could revolutionize your intimate connection! In this episode of the summer sizzle series, marriage coach Christa reveals how each Enneagram type has a unique way of experiencing and expressing physical pleasure - from visual connection (Types 1,4,7) to touch-centered intimacy (Types 8,9,2) to auditory appreciation (Types 3,6,5). Learn why Type 8s need powerful intensity, how Type 5s experience pleasure through mindful presence, and why Type 4s crave emotional depth with visual romance. Through the foundation of authentic acceptance - loving your partner's pleasure language exactly as it is - discover how to speak their body language fluently. Includes the game-changing Pleasure Mapping Exercise and energy pattern awareness for couples. Stop speaking your own pleasure language to your partner and start creating magic by understanding their unique pathway to connection and joy. Get your Dating Divas Bundle of 26 Marriage items here for a limited time! ⁠https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/discount/CHRISTA2025?redirect=%2Fproducts%2Fmarriage-bundle-2025⁠ ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠ | ⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠ here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

23 Juli 18min

Understanding how your partner receives intimate invitations is just as important as how they initiate them! Discover why response styles have everything to do with personality as you learn about the gentle approach types, those who need beautiful and unhurried environments, and those who just need to know you see them in their joyful enthusiasm. We also talk about the art of saying "no" well, too, and coming back together again as well. Don't miss this excellent opportunity to refresh or recharge your love life with this quick but ESSENTIAL episode! Get your Dating Divas Bundle of 26 Marriage items here for a limited time! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/discount/CHRISTA2025?redirect=%2Fproducts%2Fmarriage-bundle-2025 Head on over to ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠ | ⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠ here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

21 Juli 25min

Discover why you and your partner seem to have completely different experiences during intimacy! In this revelatory episode, Christa explores how your Enneagram type determines whether you connect sexually through your body (Gut Types 8, 9, 1), emotions (Heart Types 2, 3, 4), or mind (Head Types 5, 6, 7). Through real couple stories like Sarah & Mike's breakthrough from "mismatched libidos" to deep connection, you'll understand why Type 8s show love through intensity, how Type 2s can balance giving with receiving, and why Type 5s need energy management for intimate vulnerability. Learn the powerful "Three Centers Check-In" practice that honors where you both are and creates connection that includes your whole selves. Stop feeling disconnected even when you're physically close - start understanding and celebrating your beautiful differences in sexual expression. Get your Dating Divas Bundle of 26 Marriage items here for a limited time! https://shop.thedatingdivas.com/discount/CHRISTA2025?redirect=%2Fproducts%2Fmarriage-bundle-2025 Head on over to ⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠ | ⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com. (You can use your voice memos app on your iPhone to record). Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠ here!⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

21 Juli 16min