Habits How they Make Or Break Us

On this Episode I share my thoughts about habits, how they make or break us.
What is a habit?
A routine or behavior performed regularly and, in many cases, automatically.
So really, it’s those things that we do all the time many times without thinking about it.
We do it with our posture (stand a certain way and don’t realize we do it), we do it with our thoughts and what we think about the world ourselves and we do all this stuff without even realizing that we are doing it.
For example, If I told you right now that you are beautiful or for the sake of making it gender balanced, if I said you, are Good Looking. What is your habitual response to that statement? Think about how you would normally respond. Would that statement trigger thoughts of believing you are beautiful or good looking, or would you habitually think otherwise? Whatever your honest response or behavior is toward that statement will shine a light on what you habitually think about yourself and show you what your actions are toward that statement and ultimately what your habit is regarding your view of yourself.

Why should we attend to Our Habits?
I like these quote “Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” Lau TZU or Mahatma Ghandi. I am more interested in highlighting not only the wisdom in it but also the effect Habits have on what we are today
Habits determine your character and Character determines whether you achieve your goals or not.
For Example It takes the character of consistency and perseverance to reach any goal.
Consistency and Perseverance are character qualities that are a result of habits including not giving up, habits of pushing through difficulty and the list goes on and on.
Why should we pay attention to our habits? they make us what we are. If you and I do not like what we are, we must look at our habits, what we do regularly without thinking about it.


Okay Habits are Important, how do I build good Ones, How to I break Bad Ones?
Some of the Leading books on Habits are the book atomic habits by James Clear and 7 Habits of highly effective people by Steven Covey.
In Atomic Habits
The summary on Atomic Habits focuses on.
1.The word Atomic: For those like me that didn’t enjoy chemistry, I will remind you that an Atom is the smallest unit of matter. So, in trying to change, break or to build a habit, start small, do it with small seemingly useless, mundane, boring actions/ habits.
Because James Clear says, changes that seem small and unimportant at first will turn into remarkable results if you and I are willing to stick with them for years.
Habits are so powerful that apparently if you and I Pay attention to just the habits the goals will take care of themselves.
So Start small (Atomic) and cut yourself slack when you fail but keep trying growth and goals will be achieved

2.Last thought before I leave you; In the beginning we said Habits happen almost automatically to the point that you almost don’t think about them when you do them. Imagine a life where the 7 habits of highly effective people by Steve Covey are habits you and I do without thinking about like oh Kiima is habitually proactive, begins with the end in mind, Puts First things first, Thinks Win win, seeks first to understand than to be understood and all that just happens in auto pilot in your life?!! Inevitably the fruit of those habits will produce a life of meaning to you and I and those around us.
The Moral of the podcast is we need to watch our habits, they define our character and what people say and know about us and our character determines our destiny.