The Cusp of Drama and Criticism

Pain, as a magical or ritual technique, can be generally sorted into one of seven different categories. It should not cause too much in the way of physical damage, because that might make you pass out and miss the entire experience. It's carefully controlled, carefully orchestrated pain and the best way to work with it is to do it slowly and with attention to the reaction of one's body.

14 Feb 202310min

Think for a moment about the traditions that are commonly called Old Guard. The term itself describes a philosophy, not a group per se. A group of people existed that formed and worked toward developing this philosophy. Today we talk about the two main philosophies of BDSM that exist today and how BDSM history is unique from SM history. Recommended reading is A Lover's Pinch: A Cultural History of Sadomasochism https://amzn.to/3JUfz9Z

13 Feb 202312min

We begin a play scene with negotiations and do the scene with techniques and safety, but how do we end a scene? Today we give you a picture of how aftercare might look, some possibilities for things the bottom may encounter during aftercare. And we talk about a variety of the floating feelings they might enjoy after a scene.

12 Feb 202310min

Today we help you answer the question "am I submissive" by looking at statements on a checklist. These determine if you might be interested in exploring the identity of submissive. Covering topics like service, training, objectification and more!

11 Feb 202311min

While subspace is a mindset that submissives may get into when in a scene, subdrop comes after the scene is finished. As play winds down — or if it has to stop suddenly — a submissive may be left with an entirely new bundle of feelings. It’s normal to experience everything from exhaustion to hunger to cold to disorientation toward the end of the scene and for a few hours or days afterward.

10 Feb 202310min

You don’t have to be in the BDSM lifestyle long to hear the phrase ‘subspace,’ but what exactly does it mean? Subspace is a mindset that submissives may get into when in a scene. You’ll see why this happens to some people and not others, why it doesn't happen in every scene.

9 Feb 202311min

Today we talk about the differences between submissives and slaves. D/s relationship is based on power exchange while M/s is based on authority transfer. We look at both ways for a person to be submissive to help them decide which relationship style interests them.

8 Feb 202311min

A safe word is something you use during a scene to let your partner know if you are ok, need to slow down/readjust or to stop. While most kinksters use the stoplight method, you can use any word(s) that you can remember easily as long as it is not something normally said during a scene. If safe words are ignored a lot of unwanted physical and emotional damage can be done during a scene that wasn’t consented.

29 Jan 202313min