147. The psychology of the eldest daughter
Do you ever feel like you need to be perfect, that you are responsible for the emotions of others, you’re the organiser in the friendship group, highly self reliant, an overachiever, constantly being told your mature for your age? I would make a good guess that you are the eldest daughter. In today's episode we break down the psychology behind 'eldest daughter syndrome' and how birth order and gender combines to create a certain personality profile and way of behaving and seeing the world. We explore ideas around: Birth order theory Parentification The mental load Friendships between first borns and last borns Delayed teenage rebellion Role modelling theory Daughtering We also share tips for healing and taking care of yourself as the eldest daughter, especially in our 20s. Listen now. Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Follow me on Instagram: @jemmasbeg For business enquiries: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
28 Nov 202342min
146. Roommates and sharehouses in our 20s
Living in sharehouses in our 20s are like their own weird, social experiment. We put together a group of people with different upbringings, personalities, lifestyles and standards under one roof and expect it to work out. Sometimes it does, other times it doesn't and we see social harmony break down. In today's episode we discuss: The four styles of roommates The Cinderella Roommate The psychology of freeloading The influence of personality Living with friends The role of communication Conflict, stonewalling and the silent treatment When its time to move out! Listen now as we break down the psychology of roommates and sharehouses. And don't forget to share your horror roommate stories! Follow us on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Follow me on Instagram: @jemmasbeg For business enquiries: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
23 Nov 202342min
145. The psychology of pretty privilege and beauty standards
Attractiveness and beauty is something we all inevitably find ourselves considering. We question whether we would be happier if we lost weight, would find love if our skin was better, would be more successful if we looked more like her or him. Our obsession with beauty is psychological and deeply rooted in our biology and evolution as a species. In today's episode we break down the existence of pretty privilege and beauty standards in our 20s and how they are impacting our mental wellbeing, sense of self worth and even our financial decisions. Listen now! Follow us on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast Follow me on Instagram: @jemmasbeg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
21 Nov 202338min
144. It's okay for your friendships to change
In our 20s there are four things we worry about more than anything else: love, money, the future, and our friendships. As we grow and change, the relationships around us will also naturally change and we may begin to notice how we are seeing our friends less and less, watching certain friendships fizzle out or completely outgrowing each other. It's not the same as it once was. This can cause a lot of panic. But underneath the fear of our changing friendships is a more primal fear of being alone. In today's episode we break down the psychology behind our evolving friendships, the four types of friendship breakup, and how to adapt to these new kinds of relationship in our 20s, alongside the biggest friendship misconceptions that keep us in unfulfilling situations. All of that and more. Listen now! Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/ For business enquiries: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
17 Nov 202343min
143. Why do we replay conversations?
Have you ever had the experience of leaving a conversation and feeling like something you said was off, you sounded weird, you were awkward, worrying about what this person may think of you? This experience is much more common than we think and in today’s episode we break down the psychology behind why we replay conversations, exploring: Rumination The illusion of control Social approval Hypervigilance Rejection sensitivity dysphoria Social anxiety, and more We often place the perceptions and opinions of others on a pedestal and try to closely manage their judgements of us, but that may not always be helpful. We also explore ways you can break out of the thought spiral and regain control. Listen now!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
14 Nov 202330min
142. The curse of being an overachiever
In this week's episode we discuss the curse of being an overachiever. Society celebrates us for our successes, for our ability to work hard, push ourselves and constantly be the best. But this sometimes has contradictory consequences whereby the more we invest in our achievements, the less satisfaction and fulfillment we feel. We break down the paradox of being an overachiever and explore: The impact of being labelled a 'gifted child' Golden child syndrome and family expectations External validation The overachiever's identity crisis The burnout cycle Learning your limits and redefining success Listen now! Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10 Nov 202339min
141. How to get over someone you can't stop thinking about
We all know the feeling of wanting desperately to move on from someone - an ex, a past love, situationship, someone we know we shouldn't be with - but being unable to stop obsessively thinking about them. In this episode we explore the psychology behind why that is, but also how to get to the next stage of healing where you are free of the past memories, thoughts and your feelings for this person. We discuss: The psychological need for emotional closure and how to provide YOURSELF closure The Polyanna principle and positive bias for the past The chemical reason for obsession and unrequited Anxious attachment and overthinking The excuses that keep us invested in the wrong people How to emotionally detach The science of no-contact 10 tips for getting over someone you can't stop thinking about If you are struggling to move on, even though you've tried and are ready, this one is for you as we unpack how to move on from someone you can't stop thinking about. Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/ Follow Jemma on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemmasbeg/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7 Nov 202338min
140. The psychology of envy
Envy is ingrained into our human psyche, each and every one of us has, at times, compared ourselves to someone who has more, or possesses a quality or a level of success that we don't, and felt that familiar spike of pain. In today's episode we break down the psychology behind envy, and why it reflects a deeper insecurity in ourselves we are not ready to recognise. We explore: The prevalence of envy in our 20s The primal origins of envy Envy vs. Jealousy vs. Greed How envy shows up in our behaviour How to stop comparing ourselves to others How to be satisfied with what we have If you want to become friends with that green-eyed monster, this episode is for you. Listen now! Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thatpsychologypodcast/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
2 Nov 202332min
