5 Things You Can't Avoid After Heartbreak Ep. 34

Hey everyone! Today's episode is a deep dive into a crucial topic – the unmistakable signs that signal it's time to prioritise your healing before embarking on a new relationship. You might be wondering, "How much healing is enough before I consider being with someone new?" While there's no exact formula, these clear indicators will tell you when you need to pause and focus on yourself. 1. Unresolved Emotional Baggage: If past traumas or emotional baggage still dominate your thoughts, taking time to achieve emotional neutrality is crucial before considering another relationship. Rebounds often hide rather than resolve these feelings. 2. Lack of Self-Love: Your relationship with yourself reflects in your choice of partner and how you let them treat you. Building self-love is foundational for a healthy connection with someone else. 3. Dependence on External Validation: Seeking validation from external sources like social media or appearance rather than building internal validation can lead to unhealthy relationships. Internal validation is the key to a more robust connection. 4. Feeling Incomplete Without a Relationship: If you've always been in a relationship and struggle with being single, it's time to embrace your own company and find fulfillment independently. 5. Fear of Being Alone: The idea of being alone terrifies you; addressing this fear is crucial to avoid co-dependency, unhealthy attachments, and difficulty setting boundaries in a relationship. 6. Unhealthy Relationship Patterns: Identifying and addressing patterns, whether attracting the wrong partner or fearing abandonment, is crucial for building a healthy relationship. Breaking these cycles prevents potential regrets down the line. Remember, the goal here is not to rush or scare you into action but to emphasise the importance of investing time in healing. Takeaways from today: Unresolved emotional baggage Lack of self-love Dependence on external validation Feeling incomplete without a relationship Fear of being alone Unhealthy relationship patterns Thanks for tuning in today! If you enjoyed this episode, my 6 week coaching program is only open for enrolment for another 2 days so if you love what I share here on this podcast you are going to love this program. I take you through 6 weeks of intense coaching where you will go from feeling sad about your breakup to loving your life. Check it out by going to sylviasuwan.com/yes or clicking here

21 Jan 202419min

Before we dive into today's episode, I'm thrilled to announce that enrollment is now open for my signature program, Get Over Heartbreak. This comprehensive program, launching on the 29th of January, is designed to guide you through a step-by-step process—from overcoming heartache to creating your personalized blueprint for a meaningful life. Spots are limited, so secure yours now at sylviasuwan.com/yes or find the direct link in the show notes. The Only 3 Things You Should Prioritize This Year for Your Best Life: Habits, Health, and Guidance Hey, everyone! Today, let's explore how much control you truly have over your healing journey. Contrary to the popular belief that time is the ultimate healer, I'll share why focusing on specific areas of your life is far more impactful. 1. Habits: The Unsung Heroes of Healing Our habits play a crucial role in our lives, yet we often underestimate their significance. Time alone won't heal wounds; it's what you do during that time that matters. Learn why building positive habits is key to supporting your healing process. 2. Health: Nurturing Your Mind and Body Your physical well-being significantly influences your emotional state. Explore how factors like sleep, diet, exercise, sunlight, and hydration can amplify or alleviate the emotional turmoil of a breakup. Taking care of your health provides a healthier perspective and the energy to focus on positive aspects of moving on. 3. Guidance and Accountability: The Transformational Role of Mentors Success often involves guidance and mentorship. Discover why seeking guidance from someone who has successfully navigated a similar journey is essential. Mentors offer emotional support and encouragement, crucial during the challenging times of heartbreak. Closing Thoughts and Program Enrollment I'm closing the doors soon for my 6-week coaching program, where I guide you through every step of your healing journey. This program, a culmination of my personal experience and client successes, is designed to fast-track your way to true healing. Enroll now at sylviasuwan.com/yes Thank You for Listening! Thank you so much for joining me in this episode. If it resonated with you, consider listening again, as sometimes revisiting important points can deepen understanding. Your healing journey matters, and I appreciate you being here. Until next time!

18 Jan 202410min

In today's episode, we're delving into a topic that many of us grapple with—what to do when you've given your all but still can't move on from a breakup. Whether it's been a month or five years since the split, the expectations we place on ourselves can be overwhelming. I want to explore common strategies people try, why they may not have worked, and, most importantly, what you can do to shift your perspective and truly move forward. The Myth of Instant Healing: If you're only a month post-breakup and expecting to be fully moved on, be gentle with yourself. Breakups are traumatic, and healing takes time. Common Strategies: We'll discuss some common strategies people try, such as distracting themselves with work or hobbies, engaging in rebound relationships, and attempting no contact. Why They Might Not Work: The key lies in the attitude and intention behind these strategies. Merely going through the motions without an internal transformation can lead to futile attempts at healing. Changing Your Perspective: Moving on isn't about forgetting your ex or winning them back; it's an opportunity for personal growth, learning, and building a better version of yourself. Remember, healing is an internal process, not an external one. It's not about quick fixes but about investing in yourself and facing the hard, confronting aspects of your journey. You have a choice—to resort to short-term strategies or to view this as an opportunity for personal investment and growth. The path you choose shapes the person you become in the long run. If this episode resonated with you, don't forget to check out our upcoming live masterclass, 'How to Get Over Your Ex.' 🌈 Dive even deeper into strategies that fast-track your healing journey. Secure your spot now by visiting www.sylviasuwan.com Until next time, take care and embrace the journey ahead! 🚀

14 Jan 202411min

Hey there, it's Sylvia here and I'm so stoked about today's episode! Ever wondered why some people seem to move on effortlessly while others get stuck in the heartbreak loop? Well, that's what we're dissecting today. There's a lot at play, and I'm passionate about shedding light on actions that either propel us forward or hold us back during the healing process. Key Insights: The Thought-Feeling-Behavior Connection: In psychology, there's this model called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). It's all about how our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are so intertwined they practically dance together. Think of those more than 60,000 thoughts buzzing in your head each day – automatic thoughts. While we can't control their entrance, we sure can dictate their stay. Imagine a thought like "I'm just not good enough." It brings a feeling of sadness or hopelessness, shaping your subsequent behaviour. Change the thought, and you're altering the entire dance. Distorted Perspectives: One key difference between swift healers and perpetual heartbreakers? Their perspectives. Overgeneralising, catastrophising, or wearing negativity goggles create a distorted view, making it tough to break those thought patterns. Change starts with challenging these perspectives. A Personal Journey: Let me take you back to my airport days during a challenging divorce. Surrounded by negativity, I was inadvertently soaking it in until I discovered the power to change thought patterns. It wasn't an instant fix – breaking old habits never is – but this shift sparked a ripple effect. Changing thoughts led to new beliefs, influencing my decisions, actions, and ultimately, the trajectory of my life. Masterclass Reminder: Before we wrap up, don't forget about our upcoming live masterclass, 'How to Get Over Your Ex.' If today's episode hit home, this masterclass is your next move. We'll dive deeper into strategies, provide a personalized roadmap, and yes, it's live, interactive, with Q&A. Secure your spot via the link in the shownotes. Until next time, take care, and remember – your actions have the power to rewrite your story.

11 Jan 20248min

Welcome to Breakup to Blessing, the place where we dive deep into the intricacies of heartbreak and guide you on your healing journey. In today's episode, I debunk the most common heartbreak myths that might be hindering your progress in moving on after a breakup. But before we get started, I have an exciting announcement about a free live masterclass I'll be hosting soon. If you're eager to learn the 4 actionable steps to get over your ex and rebuild your life, click here to learn more! Myth 1: Time Heals All Wounds: "Have you ever heard the saying 'time heals all wounds'? Well, in the context of heartbreak, it's not that simple. Join me as I explore why relying solely on time might not be the most effective strategy for healing and what you can do instead to actively move forward." Myth 2: Closure Solves Everything: "Seeking closure is a natural instinct after a breakup, but is it the magic solution we hope for? In this segment, I dissect the myth that closure is the key to moving on and share practical ways to find the understanding and acceptance you need, even without external validation." Myth 3: Rebound Relationships: "Is jumping into a new relationship the shortcut to healing? Let's talk about why rebound relationships might not be the answer and how giving yourself the time and space to process the breakup is crucial for genuine healing." Myth 4: Moving On Quickly Signifies a Lack of Love: "It's a common misconception that moving on quickly means the love wasn't genuine. I unpack this myth and shed light on the different ways people process emotions post-breakup, challenging the idea that swift movement indicates a lack of love." Myth 5: Moving On Means Forgetting: "Have you ever felt hesitant to move on because it felt like letting go of the memories? Let's discuss the misconception that moving on equates to forgetting and explore why embracing the next chapter of your life is a crucial step toward healing." As we wrap up today's episode, I want to leave you with the reminder that moving on is not about erasing the past but embracing the possibilities of the future. Don't forget to check out the details for my upcoming live masterclass. Thank you for tuning in, and I'll catch you on the next episode

7 Jan 202416min

Before we dive into today's episode, I've got some exciting news to share. I'll be hosting a FREE Live Masterclass soon on overcoming heartbreak and rebuilding your life. If you're navigating through a challenging time, this masterclass is tailor-made for you. Head over to my website at sylviasuwan.com or click here to secure your spot. 1: Exploring the Freedom of Singleness Now, let's talk about something that's been on a lot of people's mind—how to be single on purpose. For those of you in a transitional phase, maybe healing from a past relationship, this episode is for you. It's about embracing the freedom that comes with being unapologetically single. It's your time to be a little selfish and focus on your goals and passions. So, let's make the most of this opportunity together. 2: Addressing the Stigma of Singleness I know, I know—society can be judgmental. But let's challenge that stigma surrounding singlehood. Being single on purpose is a sign of strength. It's about choosing happiness over societal expectations. 3: Importance of Self-Love Remember Episode 8? We dove deep into rebuilding self-worth after heartbreak. If you haven't listened yet, go check it out. Today, let's touch on the importance of self-love. It's time to nurture a positive relationship with yourself. You deserve it, and I'm here to remind you why. Alright, wonderful listeners, as we wrap up, a big thank you for tuning in. Don't forget to secure your spot for the free live masterclass—it's going to be packed with so much value and fresh insights to healing from heartbreak that you haven't heard yet. I wish you a fantastic weekend filled with self-discovery and growth.

4 Jan 20244min

Hello, wonderful listeners! 🎉 Welcome to Breakup to Blessing, and Happy New Year! I'm Sylvia Suwan, your host, and I'm genuinely thrilled to kick off the first day of the year with you. In this episode, I share my excitement about the possibilities that 2024 holds for each of you. While my New Year's Eve might not have been filled with grand celebrations (thanks to the challenges of parenting young kids), I believe that starting the year feeling refreshed sets the tone for a remarkable journey ahead. As we embark on this new year together, I want to pose a crucial question: How do you want to feel this time next year? Whether it's overcoming heartbreak, healing old wounds, or envisioning a future with your special someone, this episode is designed to guide you toward a year of growth and inspiration. Key Takeaways: Clarity in Goals: Define your goals beyond mere healing. Envision how you want to feel and the external changes you desire. Example: Imagine going on a date without your ex occupying your thoughts, achieving a neutral stance. Breaking Unhealthy Relationship Patterns: Explore patterns of choices in relationships and recognize potential unhealthy behaviors. Understand the danger of labeling others as "toxic" without self-awareness of our own behaviors. Uncover the impact of unhealed wounds and traumas on relationship choices. Curiosity and Self-Reflection: Shift from asking, "What's wrong with me?" to "What part of me needs healing?" Explore repeated patterns and consider the origin of your preferences in partners. Journaling and Self-Exploration: Begin the journey of self-discovery through journaling and dedicated time for reflection. Embrace discomfort as you ask challenging questions and seek insights into your motivations. Closing Thoughts: I leave you with a powerful question: What will you do this year to create the conditions for a healthy, loving relationship? Remember, it's within your reach, and I genuinely believe that. If this episode resonated with you, hit the follow button to stay updated on my latest releases. Wishing you an incredible week ahead, and I can't wait to catch you on the next episode! Are you struggling to get over your ex? Register for my Free Live Masterclass "How To Get Over Your Ex"

31 Dec 202313min

Hey there, wonderful listeners! 🎙️ Welcome to another episode of Breakup to Blessing, I'm thrilled to have you here as we approach the end of 2023. First off, a massive thank you for your continuous support and for tuning in. Your engagement means the world to me. Now, before we dive into today's episode, I have some exciting news. I'm hosting a free masterclass to kickstart your 2024 with a bang! Join me as I share 4 simple steps to get over your ex and guarantee a better life. Don't miss out – register here or visit https://www.sylviasuwan.com/masterclass Now, let's talk about gearing up for the new year. It's been a rollercoaster, hasn't it? As we stand on the brink of 2024, it's normal to feel a mix of emotions. But here's the deal: you have more control over your life than you think. In this episode, I explore the power of intentional choices. Small decisions, like what you eat for lunch, can ripple into significant outcomes. Think long term and be deliberate in your choices – the results will surprise you by the year's end. Reflecting on the past year is another crucial step. What lessons did heartbreak teach you? How have you grown and become more resilient? Shifting your focus towards constructive thoughts can transform your perspective. Setting intentions is a game-changer. Ask yourself, what kind of person do you want to be? Consider your priorities and focus areas – be it friendships, career, or personal growth. And don't forget the power of forming habits, especially in your morning routine. It's a key to unlocking your potential and making 2024 your best year yet. As I share my experiences with morning routines, remember that small changes can lead to significant improvements. Start now or plan ahead – your future starts with the present. And speaking of the future, join me in the free masterclass where I reveal proven steps to heal your heartbreak and build an incredible future. It's happening soon, so register now to avoid missing out Thank you for being part of this journey, and here's to making 2024 a year of growth, resilience, and positive transformation. Until next time, stay inspired!

28 Dec 20239min