1102: College vs. Trades | Skeptical Sunday

As an active 45-year-old woman who is usually mistaken for someone 10 years younger, you're throwing your hat back in the dating game after six years. You realize that if you put your actual age on your dating app profile, you'll probably get filtered out by the age range of men you're looking for. Friends have encouraged you to put down 37 or 38 as your dating profile age so you'll still fall within the desired search results, but you're uncomfortable about the deception. In a situation like this, should you fudge your age in dating apps? We'll break down this and much more on the latest Feedback Friday right here! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/310. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: When you're active and appear 10 years younger than you are, is fudging your age in dating apps acceptable if you're only trying to fool the search algorithm and not potential matches? You never really bonded with your mother and you'd like to change that now, but she considers you "selfish." How much responsibility do both parties have to create familial closeness? There's a family rift between your father and uncle thanks to inheritance drama. You'd like to invite your aunt to your wedding, but don't want to appear disloyal to your father. What's the right thing to do? You've noticed that people who are very successful seem to have mastered the skill of remembering people's names, but you're terrible at it. How can you get better at remembering the names of people you meet? You have an amazing new job opportunity, but you've been planning a gap year to travel abroad and the timing couldn't be worse. Should you trust your gut and travel even though this opportunity might never come your way again? What are your options? How do you strike a balance between being an entrepreneur and a family man without neglecting your spouse and new baby -- or the needs of the nascent company you've worked hard to build? Life Pro Tip: Google your kid's prospective name before they're born. This way, when their name is googled, people won’t see news of some a-hole criminal with the same name. Recommendation of the Week: Pandemic A quick shout out to Eric Hulbert! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

7 Feb 202043min

What We Discuss with Laila Ali: What made Laila become the only boxer out of Muhammad Ali’s nine children? Why do fighters trash talk (and does Laila regret any trash talking she did during her fighting career)? How did Laila make the choice to pivot from an aspiring nail salon tycoon to a world-class boxer? What was it like growing up around fame, and how does Laila’s father’s legacy still affect her? How did Laila’s father react when she got serious about boxing? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/309 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

6 Feb 202054min

Kris Buckner is the president of Investigative Consultants, with over 22 years of experience in investigations related to trademark counterfeiting, piracy, and other intellectual property matters. What We Discuss with Kris Buckner: Why the trillion-dollar counterfeiting industry should concern you -- even if you don't care that the "Gucci" bag you got for $12 can't be spotted as a knockoff by the snootiest in your circle of friends. What gets counterfeited? You name it: designer clothes, automobile parts, cancer medication, alcohol, makeup, vaping products, perfume, computer parts, and kids' cough syrup are just the tip of the iceberg. How buying or selling counterfeit goods -- knowingly or otherwise -- potentially benefits corrupt regimes, terrorists, and organized crime networks around the world. The real harm counterfeit goods pose to the end consumer, from health risks associated with contaminated products to loose parts that can become choking hazards for small children. The real harm counterfeit goods pose to the legitimate economy, from fewer jobs to less tax revenue that funds law enforcement and education. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/308 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

4 Feb 202051min

Being unattractive to potential partners is obviously not ideal, but what happens when you're too physically attractive to land meaningful attention from someone who might complete you? We'll tackle this and more on the latest Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/307. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Our prison trip is officially full! If you want to get on the waiting list in case we have last-minute cancellations, please drop Jordan a line at prison@jordanharbinger.com! Should a tip be optional unless service is above and beyond what's expected from your server -- instead of obligatory because the restaurant or business won't pay their staff enough? You've been at your job for a long time and you want to do something different. How do you let your employer know that you want to transition out of your current role while still keeping a positive relationship? You're the only child, and you've got an overly sensitive and selfish parent you need to take care of. What can you do to make sure they don't stress you out when you're expected to drop everything to attend to their needs? You're in a long-term relationship that seems to be on track for marriage. What do we suggest you talk about to make sure you're both on the same page before you make the biggest commitment of your life? You want to settle down in one place after moving to six different states and countries over the past 12 years, but your spouse can't seem to decide where to settle. What can you do to come to an agreeable compromise? You're a successful, moderately attractive person who seems to get attention from all the wrong people. Potential friends either want to date you or worry their partners want to date you. On top of all this, you're demisexual. How can you find someone compatible? Life Pro Tip: Instead of spending a day shopping, spend a day cleaning out your closet. You will find clothes you didn't realize you had and re-discover old favorites you thought you had lost. Plus, it's free! Recommendation of the Week: Wrong Man A quick shout out to Amanda Milligan! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

31 Jan 202037min

BJ Fogg (@bjfogg) is the founder and director of the Stanford Behavior Design Lab, and author of Tiny Habits: The Small Changes That Change Everything. [Featured photo by Nathaniel Gerdes] What We Discuss with BJ Fogg: The main reasons we fail at behavior change -- even when we rationally know the long-term benefits heavily outweigh any short-term discomforts. The B=MAP Fogg Behavior Model that can be applied universally to understanding (and correcting) every type of behavior there is. How starter steps and tiny habits work as effective ways to "trick" our change-resistant human brains into radical behavior change. Why BJ prefers the term "untangling" rather than "breaking" in reference to habits we want to discontinue.  Why repetition is often repeated as being the catalyst for creating habits, why this tidbit of popular misinformation is so wrong, and what really works as a better catalyst. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/306 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

30 Jan 20201h 8min

Shaka Senghor (@ShakaSenghor) is a leading voice in criminal justice reform, the director of innovation and strategy at #Cut50, and the consulting producer for the OWN docuseries Released. He is also the author of Writing My Wrongs: Life, Death, and Redemption in an American Prison. What We Discuss with Shaka Senghor: How Shaka's childhood neighborhood in Detroit quickly went from idyllic to nightmarish when the crack epidemic struck in the '80s (and what he spent his money on when he became a dealer). The assorted sources of trauma faced by kids who wind up in the drug-dealing lifestyle and why such a lifestyle is initially appealing to them -- in spite of exposing them to very adult consequences. Why the current opioid crisis may actually be instrumental in helping heal societal class and racial divides widened during the crack epidemic. Why removing the stigma of mental health treatment is crucial to breaking the cycles of recidivism in which young people often get trapped. The series of events that landed Shaka in prison for 19 years, how he made use of his time there, and what he's doing to help fix a very broken system. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/305 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

28 Jan 20201h 7min

You're in your thirties, and although you've had reasonable success running your own business, you've always believed that you were lazy and unmotivated. You recently got diagnosed with ADHD and prescribed Adderall, and everything changed for the better. You're finally a hard worker, don't get distracted easily, and finish things you start. It's been a huge lifesaver and a huge boost to your self-confidence. After hearing Jordan talk about his negative experiences with Adderall in high school on the Darren Prince episode, it got you concerned. Your brother has been using Adderall for years, and said something that worried you. While on vacation, he lost his prescription and felt the need to find a doctor who could write him an emergency prescription. He regularly has to restrict towards the end of the month to make sure he doesn't run out, which signals he's taking extra doses. Should you be concerned for your brother getting addicted? Are you at risk of becoming dependent if you stay on it for years? We'll talk about this and much more on this latest episode of Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/304. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Interested in doing some prison time with Jordan for his birthday this February? The trip is officially full, but if you really, really want to go, reach out to prison@jordanharbinger.com and we'll do our best to squeeze you in! Adderall's been a godsend in helping you focus since you were diagnosed with ADHD, but you worry you might become dependent on it over time. How can you avoid becoming addicted to study drugs? As a police officer, you train recruits to communicate effectively by treating people like humans, building rapport, and displaying empathy. So what's the best way for an officer to build rapport quickly during, for example, the brief interaction of a traffic stop? You want to help your mom move closer to you and the rest of the family because you know it will help alleviate her depression, but you're not exactly rich. How can you raise a loan or borrow money to cover her move and a place to live in a short amount of time? You slacked in high school and now you're a 30-year-old custodian. You have the ambition to return to school and seek work in the infosec/cybersecurity industry, but your wife is unable to work and you make just enough to get by. How can you stay working full time and return to school without spending money you don't have? What are our thoughts on investing in cryptocurrency in 2020? What's... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

24 Jan 202051min

Megan Phelps-Roper (@meganphelps) grew up in the Westboro Baptist Church, an organization widely monitored as a hate group for its anti-gay, anti-Jewish, anti-American protests. She left WBC in 2012 and has since written about her experiences in Unfollow: A Memoir of Loving and Leaving the Westboro Baptist Church. This is part two of a two-part episode. Listen to part one here! What We Discuss with Megan Phelps-Roper: What catalyzed Megan and her sister's departure from the Westboro Baptist Church in 2012, and how do the family members left behind feel about their decision? The logistics Megan and her sister faced when they decided to leave the home and family they'd known their entire lives to start anew in the outside world. What Megan learned about the human capacity for empathy, generosity, forgiveness — and general goodness — by revisiting people she'd formerly picketed in WBC. What Megan's experiences have taught her about the cognitive biases we all have — about everything from religion to politics — no matter how smart we think we are. The four steps others used to break through to Megan and get her to have real conversations, and how we can use them to connect with people who disagree with us on a fundamental level. And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/303 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

23 Jan 202043min