1102: College vs. Trades | Skeptical Sunday

Your brother is such an overall horrible, vicious, violent person that the cops could pick him up for murder and you'd confidently say, "I'm pretty sure you've got the right guy." So the years he's chosen to drop out of your life have been blissful. Unfortunately, he's back causing havoc in your life and the only way you'll ever have peace is to distance yourself from him completely. But how? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/744 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: We have an update on Gabe's neighbor from episode 705. Your human carbuncle of a brother has made your life — and the life of everyone else in your family — Hell for years, and you wish he'd just go away. What can you morally and legally do to make this happen? You have an ex who's publically airing grievances that you cheated on her, abused her, and gaslit her — and none of it is true. How can you stop her from spreading these lies and reassure your friends and family who have heard them that they're complete fabrications? You adopted your daughter, now age seven, three years ago after her birth mother committed a serious crime. Is it appropriate to tell your daughter the details when she asks? You've always been on great terms with your brother, but you find his current choice of girlfriend lacking. In fact, you think she may be an actual psychopath and you don't want him to bring her around anymore. Instead of being understanding about your concerns, he's taken her side and treats you like the enemy. What can you do? It's hard to feel like you're part of a supportive team when you're always the one willing to look like an idiot in front of your new manager to ask the questions everyone else only pretends to know. How can you ensure your manager doesn't really think you're an idiot? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

28 Okt 202248min

Dr. Ramani Durvasula (@DoctorRamani) is a clinical psychologist, professor of psychology, media expert, and author. Her latest book is "Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to listen to part one here!] What We Discuss with Dr. Ramani Durvasula: We're all a little selfish sometimes. So how do you tell a genuine narcissist from someone who's just having a bad day? Is it just our collective imagination, or is true narcissism on the rise (or at least more visible)? Is someone necessarily born a narcissist, or can they "catch" it later in life? Can a narcissist be reformed? How can you protect yourself from a narcissist if just staying 500 feet away at all times isn't a viable option? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/743 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Did you hear our conversation with basketball legend Shaq about everything from sports to politics to emotional management to flat earth theory? Catch up with episode 691: Shaquille O’Neal | Circling Back on Flat Earth Theory here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Okt 20221h 13min

Dr. Ramani Durvasula (@DoctorRamani) is a clinical psychologist, professor of psychology, media expert, and author. Her latest book is "Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Be on the lookout for part two later this week!] What We Discuss with Dr. Ramani Durvasula: We're all a little selfish sometimes. So how do you tell a genuine narcissist from someone who's just having a bad day? Is it just our collective imagination, or is true narcissism on the rise (or at least more visible)? Is someone necessarily born a narcissist, or can they "catch" it later in life? Can a narcissist be reformed? How can you protect yourself from a narcissist if just staying 500 feet away at all times isn't a viable option? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/742 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Did you hear our two-part conversation with the retired ATF agent who worked undercover for years to bust numerous criminal organizations — including a notorious motorcycle club? Catch up starting with episode 673: Ken Croke | Undercover in an Outlaw Biker Gang Part One here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

25 Okt 20221h 2min

He may not physically be cheating on you, but his penchant for "mentoring" young women — on at least four occasions that you know of — is tantamount to having multiple emotional affairs. He's a good father and a mostly considerate partner, but the fact that these overly intense relationships with other women continue in spite of your protests makes you wonder if your marriage is worth saving. What should you do? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/741 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: While it never turns physical, does your husband's tendency to get emotionally involved with young women endanger your marriage? Does your new boss need to know the details about how you overcame the obstacles presented by your former, toxic boss to land a better position at the company the day before you were supposed to be fired? [Thanks to executive coach and From Start-Up to Grown-Up author Alisa Cohn for helping us field this one!] You and your child are moving overseas to be with your fiancé, but your family and friends at home all want you to stay. How can enjoy the next chapter of your life without feeling guilty about turning the page on your old one? Should you ask your unreliable, drug-addicted sister to be a bridesmaid at your wedding and prepare for disappointment when she doesn't show up, or do you commit the unforgivable offense of not inviting her at all and risk being cut out of her life forever? Are you strong, self-made, and independent without the need for a significant other to cramp your lifestyle, or really just a hopeless romantic who's desperate for love and attention but unsure how to get it without losing that hard-won independence? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

21 Okt 202251min

Ryan Holiday (@ryanholiday) is the host of The Daily Stoic podcast and the bestselling author of countless books about marketing, culture, Stoicism, and the human condition. His latest offering is Discipline Is Destiny: The Power of Self-Control, and he joined us live in Los Angeles to talk about this and lots more! What We Discuss with Ryan Holiday: How do you get into the headspace where you do your best work when everything in the modern world is trying to distract you from getting there? In spite of writing his first book about 1,800 years after Marcus Aurelius wrote his last, has Ryan really outsold the Stoic philosopher emperor? How do we keep from letting our desire to be perceived as great get in the way of truly achieving greatness (or at least creating good work)? Do you have the serenity of mind to accept that which cannot be changed, courage to change that which can be changed, and wisdom to know the one from the other in order to live your best life? How Stoicism's four cardinal virtues (courage, temperance, justice, and wisdom) can guide you even when the circumstances in which you find yourself are beyond your control. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/740 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our conversation with Daniel Levin, a man who knows how to track down people who have gone missing in war zones and bring them home alive? Catch up with episode 617: Daniel Levin | How to Find a Missing Person in the Middle East here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Okt 20221h 8min

Matthew Campbell (@MattCampbell) is an award-winning reporter and editor for Bloomberg Businessweek magazine and the co-author, with Kit Chellel, of Dead in the Water: A True Story of Hijacking, Murder, and a Global Maritime Conspiracy. What We Discuss with Matthew Campbell: The International Chamber of Shipping estimates about 90 percent of world trade is carried by the international shipping industry to the tune of around $14 trillion (about 2/3rds of the US GDP) per year. Piracy persists in places along these lucrative shipping lines because people who have nothing to lose are willing to risk their lives for potentially big payouts. Why insurance surveyor David Mockett didn't quite buy the story that Somali pirates had attacked oil tanker Brillante Virtuoso when he investigated the site — and how it led to his murder. Insurance fraud is one of the world's oldest rackets, with instances documented as far back as ancient Greece. Why rogue ship owners will fly "flags of convenience" — flags of countries with fewer regulations than the ones from which their ships are actually owned. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/739 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Did you hear our conversation with Paul Holes, the former investigator known for his contributions to solving the Golden State Killer case using advanced methods of identification with DNA and genealogy technology? Catch up with episode 725: Paul Holes | Solving America’s Cold Cases here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

18 Okt 20221h 18min

What do you do when the very married pastor you've known your whole life as a pillar of the church and community propositions you on LGBTQ hookup app Grindr? You know his wife and kids would be devastated if they knew, but you also know he's vindictive and would likely take any blowback out on your family and their standing in that very same church and community. And if you just do nothing, he's free to prey on other young men without consequence. Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/738 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Busy day with too many things on your to-do list? For each item, ask yourself: "What will happen if I don't do this?" [Thanks to James Clear for clarifying this one!] What do you do when the very married pastor you've known your whole life as a pillar of the community propositions you on LGBTQ hookup app Grindr? [Thanks to Dr. Kevin Glenn for helping us with this one!] Is there a more constructive way to spend your commute time than reflecting back — and amplifying — the road rage others inflict on you? Should you consider getting breast enhancement surgery to feel better about your own body, or reject the idea because it would give the husband who's made you feel inadequate about your natural size — for 20 years — satisfaction he doesn't deserve? How do you frame the positive — but thoroughly platonic — relationship you have with your ex-wife and the kids you share as a win/win for your jealous fiancée? Even if there’s no hope or intention of rekindling friendships you abused and took for granted during your less-enlightened college days, is there value in apologizing to those you wronged so long ago? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

14 Okt 202257min

Winston Sterzel (@serpentza) is a South African vlogger and video producer who lived in Shenzhen in the Guangdong province of China for 14 years. He hosts his own YouTube channel as SerpentZA and co-hosts vlog ADVChina with Laowhy86. What We Discuss with Winston Sterzel: How does the pig-butchering scam work, and why is it called this? Who tends to be the most common target of the pig-butchering scam, and how has this changed since its inception? The psychological levers that get used to manipulate victims of the pig-butchering scam, and how they differ from more traditional scams. How much time and effort pig-butchering scammers will invest in fattening up their victims for the big kill (and how Winston has made a game of wasting their time and effort when he's been their mark). Warnings from people who have fallen for the pig-butchering scam and how you can avoid being next. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/737 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our two-parter with North Korean defector Charles Ryu? Catch up here starting with episode 84: Confessions of a North Korean Escape Artist Part One! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Okt 20221h 4min