147. Writing About Your Neurodiverse (ex)Partner featuring Eleanor Vincent

147. Writing About Your Neurodiverse (ex)Partner featuring Eleanor Vincent

Eleanor Vincent joins Let’s Talk Memoir for a conversation about trying to save her challenging high conflict marriage, autism in adults and Cassandra Syndrome, what to leave out of a book, self-revelation and honest grappling, the toll of masking autism, emotional abuse, careful framing of those we write about, using a sensitivity reader, support groups for neurodiverse spouses, our narrating personas, writing fearless first drafts, disguising identities and biographical details to protect those we write about, and her new memoir Disconnected: Portrait of a Neurodiverse Marriage.

Ronit’s upcoming memoir course: https://www.pce.uw.edu/courses/memoir-writing-finding-your-story

Also in this episode:

-complex trauma

-hyperfocus

-reading unceasingly

Books mentioned in this episode:

-The Situation and the Story by Vivian Gornick

-Blow Your House Down by Gina Frangello

-You Could Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith

-This American Ex-Wife by Liz Lenz

-Liars by Sarah Manguso

-Kristin Lavransdatter by Sigrid Undset

-22 Things a Woman Must Know If She Loves a Man with Asperger’s Syndrome by Rudy Simone

-Books by Anne Patchett

Eleanor Vincent’s new memoir Disconnected: Portrait of a Neurodiverse Marriage is forthcoming from Vine Leaves Press. It tells the story of her gradual discovery that her husband was on the autism spectrum, and of how she tried to save a challenging high-conflict marriage.

Her previous memoir, Swimming with Maya: A Mother’s Story (Dream of Things, 2013) has twice been on the New York Times bestseller list and was nominated for the Independent Publisher of the Year award. Her essays have appeared in anthologies by Creative Nonfiction and This I Believe, the literary magazines 580 Split and Dorothy Parker’s Ashes, as well as shorter pieces in the San Francisco Chronicle, the Sacramento Bee, and Generations Today.

She has an MFA in creative writing from Mills College and is a member of the San Francisco Writers Grotto, Left Margin Lit, and the Author’s Guild. She has taught creative nonfiction seminars at Mills College as a visiting writer and been awarded residencies at Hedgebrook, the Vermont Studio Center, and Writing Between the Vines. She lives in Walnut Creek, California.

Connect with Eleanor:

Website: https://www.eleanorvincent.com/

Book: https://vineleavespress.myshopify.com/products/disconnected-portrait-of-a-neurodiverse-marriage-by-eleanor-vincent

X: https://x.com/eleanorpvincent

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eleanor.vincent/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/eleanor.vincent/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/eleanorpvincent/

Writing the real world Substack: https://eleanorvincent.substack.com/

Ronit’s writing has appeared in The Atlantic, The Rumpus, The New York Times, Poets & Writers, The Iowa Review, Hippocampus, The Washington Post, Writer’s Digest, American Literary Review, and elsewhere. Her memoir WHEN SHE COMES BACK about the loss of her mother to the guru Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh and their eventual reconciliation was named Finalist in the 2021 Housatonic Awards Awards, the 2021 Indie Excellence Awards, and was a 2021 Book Riot Best True Crime Book. Her short story collection HOME IS A MADE-UP PLACE won Hidden River Arts’ 2020 Eludia Award and the 2023 Page Turner Awards for Short Stories.

She earned an MFA in Nonfiction Writing at Pacific University, is Creative Nonfiction Editor at The Citron Review, and teaches memoir through the University of Washington's Online Continuum Program and also independently. She launched Let's Talk Memoir in 2022, lives in Seattle with her family of people and dogs, and is at work on her next book.

More about Ronit: https://ronitplank.com

Subscribe to Ronit’s Substack: https://substack.com/@ronitplank

Follow Ronit:

https://www.instagram.com/ronitplank/

https://www.facebook.com/RonitPlank

https://bsky.app/profile/ronitplank.bsky.social

Background photo credit: Photo by Patrick Tomasso on Unsplash

Headshot photo credit: Sarah Anne Photography

Theme music: Isaac Joel, Dead Moll’s Fingers

Avsnitt(242)

9. Writing About Our Children featuring Debi Lewis

9. Writing About Our Children featuring Debi Lewis

Debi Lewis joins Let’s Talk Memoir for a conversation on best practices for writing about our children, navigating the medical memoir, positioning books to make them appealing to publishers, and how s...

3 Maj 202230min

8. A Conversation with Writing and Publishing Expert Jane Friedman

8. A Conversation with Writing and Publishing Expert Jane Friedman

Jane Friedman joins Let’s Talk Memoir for a conversation about the most common craft issues she sees in memoir manuscripts, what writers often misunderstand about the industry, The Big Five, how to wr...

26 Apr 202237min

7. Writing Your Story for Yourself featuring Melissa Gould

7. Writing Your Story for Yourself featuring Melissa Gould

Melissa Gould joins Let’s Talk Memoir for a conversation about how writing was a way back to herself after she became a widow unexpectedly and at a young age, making the jump from screenwriting to non...

19 Apr 202230min

6. Not Too Soon, Not Too Much: Stories That Insist on Being Told featuring Meg Weber

6. Not Too Soon, Not Too Much: Stories That Insist on Being Told featuring Meg Weber

Meg Weber joins Let’s Talk Memoir for a conversation about knowing when the right time is to tell your story, approaching loved ones about scenes in your memoir featuring graphic sex and kink, why com...

12 Apr 202235min

5. Doing Whatever it Takes to Get Yourself to Write featuring Andrea Ross

5. Doing Whatever it Takes to Get Yourself to Write featuring Andrea Ross

Andrea Ross joins Let’s Talk Memoir for a conversation about battling memoir imposter syndrome, choosing scene over exposition, doing whatever it takes to get yourself to write, and how she used the w...

5 Apr 202232min

4. Finding the Thread featuring Ellen Blum Barish

4. Finding the Thread featuring Ellen Blum Barish

Ellen Blum Barish joins Let’s Talk Memoir for a conversation about becoming a memoirist after a career as a journalist and how that deepened her love of writing, the power of working on smaller pieces...

29 Mars 202232min

3. Putting it All on the Page: The Good, the Bad, and the Heartwrenching featuring Christie Tate

3. Putting it All on the Page: The Good, the Bad, and the Heartwrenching featuring Christie Tate

Christie Tate joins Let’s Talk Memoir for a conversation about the ethics of writing about groups therapy and ex-boyfriends, navigating writing anxiety, becoming a full-time writer, and why she never ...

22 Mars 202233min

2. The Transformation of Trauma featuring Jeannine Ouellette

2. The Transformation of Trauma featuring Jeannine Ouellette

Jeannine Ouellette joins Let’s Talk Memoir for a conversation about the power of literary constraints, why the how can be just as important as the what, writing about childhood sexual abuse, believing...

15 Mars 202243min

Populärt inom Utbildning

rss-bara-en-till-om-missbruk-medberoende-2
historiepodden-se
det-skaver
nu-blir-det-historia
harrisons-dramatiska-historia
alska-oss
not-fanny-anymore
roda-vita-rosen
johannes-hansen-podcast
rss-foraldramotet-bring-lagercrantz
allt-du-velat-veta
sektledare
rss-viktmedicinpodden
sa-in-i-sjalen
rss-sjalsligt-avkladd
rss-om-vi-ska-vara-arliga
i-vantan-pa-katastrofen
rss-max-tant-med-max-villman
rss-basta-livet
rikatillsammans-om-privatekonomi-rikedom-i-livet