Neil Strauss: The Uncomfortable Truth About Relationships

Oh man. I wasn't going to post this episode.In fact, during this conversation, I repeatedly found myself opening up and saying things I was not comfortable sharing.But since this is The School of Greatness, I knew I had to share all the lessons I am privileged to learn myself, even the ones that aren't comfortable.What could I have been talking about that was so scary to share?Relationships . . . of course.I met today's guest, Neil Strauss, after he had already been a NYT bestselling author 7 times.He is best known for becoming a pick up artist by going underground into the world of that game for 2 years and then writing a book about what he learned.But by the time I met him, he was happily engaged to his now wife, and those days were behind him.In this episode, we started by talking about his new book, which counters his former bestseller, revealing the uncomfortable truth about what makes relationships work.Soon into the conversation, however, the tables turned and we started discussing my experiences in relationships.Not the kind of thing I was expecting to discuss for thousands of people to hear.However, I learned so much from just this one conversation with Neil about myself, my relationships, and how to improve my future ones, that I knew I couldn't keep it to myself.Here's the raw, vulnerable truth about relationships, my life, and the lessons Neil Strauss has learned from his own in Episode 242.In This Episode, You Will Learn:Why our parents' relationship deeply affects our own perceptions of intimacyHow our brain templates are formed in young childhoodThe power of removing blame from your parents for what isn't working in your relationshipsWhat pathological accommodation is (and how it sabotages relationships)The importance of recognizing your own issues, not your partner'sHow you can create a conscious coupling (just like you can create a conscious uncoupling)Plus much more...