Ep. 280 - The real reason you’re still stuck on your ex

When getting over an ex there are a lot of commonalities I see between my clients. There are themed thought patterns which lead to a lot of the same feelings and behaviors. I’ve seen and experienced a number of events that were planned and unplanned like running into an ex at the store or at a party. Seeing an ex with a new girl for the first time. Seeing something triggering on social media. The ex coming back. The ex reaching out.  You name it, I’ve seen it.  This is why I’ve created breakup protocols. PLANNING. Being able to plan for these events sets your mind at ease. You’ll know exactly how and what to do in moments others are normally totally caught off guard by. Today, I’m teaching you the ins and outs of this iconic tool in the Get Over Your ex program. What to expect: Learn what a breakup protocol is Understand how to create your own breakup protocol Become the person who handles herself with grace and poise in all breakup experiences

19 Apr 202120min

I have 4 brand new breakup workshops taking place LIVE this week, starting TODAY that you won't want to miss out on! Join us inside as we tackle, thoughts about the ex, urgent emotions, closure, believing new thoughts in a way that sticks, and a never seen before tool called "The Why Game". www.dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex

6 Apr 202121min

Many Bravehearts come to me saying “I should have seen it coming”. And my answer is the same every single time.  No, you weren’t. You were never supposed to see it coming. Maybe you’ll see it coming next time. But this time, it went exactly as it was supposed to. No one goes into a relationship expecting it to end. Telling yourself “I should have seen the red flags” or “I missed something” only keeps you feeling like there’s something wrong with you that needs to be fixed. No part of you needs to be fixed, all that needs to happen is self-acceptance.  What to expect: Learn what “I should have seen it coming” is creating in your life that you didn’t even realize Understand why your brain wants to tell you that you should have known Become the person who accepts the situation and themselves fully

5 Apr 202114min

It’s not just about getting over him. It’s about creating a life better than the one you had with him. Maybe even creating a life your ex regrets leaving. Because when you build that beautiful epic amazing life, it doesn’t even matter to you if he regrets it. That, my Braveheart, is priceless.

30 Mars 202121min

For so long I just wanted to feel “taken care of” in my life. After my 7 year relationship ended, the last thing I felt was “taken care of” … by the universe/God, by others or even by myself. Pretty much I was certain that I was forgotten. Security and stability felt like a long-gone notion that was something I’d never be given.  In today’s episode learn how to go from feeling forgotten to fully supported, seen, secure, stable, and 100% taken care of regardless of your relationship status.  What to expect: Learn why it’s so important to cultivate security, stability, and safety in your life Understand the workings of creating an environment where you always feel “taken care of” Become self-sufficient in security and stability regardless of your relationship status ENROLLMENT OPEN: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/getoveryourex/

29 Mars 202112min

Getting over your ex is a decision AND a process. Many times my bravehearts think that just because they made the decision to get over their ex that means they will never experience emotion around their ex ever again. Then when they do experience emotions around their ex (from certain triggers like when their ex starts to see someone new or when they see a text from their ex) they think they are “failing” at being over their ex, when in reality it’s quite the opposite.  Today, learn how false failure is holding you back from celebrating your ability to get over your ex, move on, and create a life better than the one you had with your ex. What to expect: Learn what false failure is in regards to your breakup Understand how your false failure is holding you back from creating a life better than the one you had with your ex Become someone who’s over their ex for good Free 5 Day Training: https://dorothyabjohnson.com/5daychallenge

22 Mars 202113min

Thought work alone isn’t the same as thought work with other humans. Hence why braveheart alumni continue to work with me even after they get over their ex. Today we are going to explore how I’ve seen old breakup trauma show up in new relationships. You’ll learn how to make sure you’re not letting old breakup trauma with your ex infiltrate new relationships with potential love interests.  What to expect: Learn how and why breakup trauma from your past affects new relationships Understand what you can do to avoid letting your ex ruin your new love interest Become someone who doesn’t drag old baggage into new partnerships Free 1 Hour Training: https://www.dorothyabjohnson.com/3secretswebinar

15 Mars 202117min

The last thing I wanted to do after my ex broke up with me, taking the life I had envisioned with him and handing it over to his new girlfriend was to “surrender”. In my mind “surrendering” meant to give up control. Again, the last thing I wanted to do was give up what little control I had left in that situation.  Little did I know that “surrendering” really meant taking back my control and allowing something bigger than me to create something better than I had ever imagined out of the life that felt so broken.  Today, learn how to take control through surrendering to your breakup journey in a way that feels natural and doable, no matter how terrible your breakup went.  What to expect: Learn what surrendering to your breakup journey means Understand the workings of surrender and how it will help you get over your ex Become a pro at surrendering to your breakup triggers

8 Mars 202117min