Family of Origin Roles Series: The Peacemaker (From Referee to Realist)

Today’s episode is part of a solo series on Reimagining Love about Family of Origin Roles (a.k.a. FOO roles). Tune in on the first two Tuesdays of each month to learn about how the roles we were cast into as children and held within our family systems shape how we show up in our relationships today. Whether you were the one who held the family together, the rebel who pushed back against household norms, or the “easy” kid who flew under the radar, we all inhabited a position in the community of our family and absorbed certain messages about love, connection, and worthiness as a result.

Check out the introductory episode of the series if you missed it! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-role-did-you-play-in-your-family-of-origin-re-release/id1588419386?i=1000676613922

We’re taking a look at “The Peacemaker” role in today’s episode. All families have conflict, and it’s common for one child in the family to play a referee or mediator role, either through intervention or more subtler peacemaking strategies, such as comic relief. As adults, Peacemakers likely find themselves between friends and family members when there are tensions and may struggle to extract themselves from these dynamics. Does this sound like you, or someone you love? Listen to the episode to learn more about this role and how The Peacemaker can embark on their healing journey.

Relevant links:

Get the FREE Family of Origin Roles Workbook: Reclaiming You - https://static1.squarespace.com/static/68fb9be6dd08f86094b477d5/t/695460efc0563e326f3c907d/1767137519524/foo_workbook.pdf

Reimagining Love: Disrupting the Underfunctioning/Overfunctioning Dynamic - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/disrupting-the-underfunctioning-overfunctioning/id1588419386?i=1000565488608

Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz - https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/rolesquiz

Reimagining Love: “Tending to ‘Little You’ & Exploring Your Family of Origin” https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tending-to-little-you-exploring-your-family-of-origin/id1588419386?i=1000584624154

Dr. Alexandra’s Psychotherapy Networker Article - https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/article/work-issues-at-the-heart-of-couples-conflicts/

Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day - https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/2e7045884bea4a5f?ean=9781683736530&next=t

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter - https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/sign-up

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