270 SelfWork: Five Things to Know To Help You Feel Emotionally Safe In Therapy

270 SelfWork: Five Things to Know To Help You Feel Emotionally Safe In Therapy

I get a lot of questions about therapy - how to find a therapist, how to know if therapy is working. One of the most common questions is, “How do I open up?” But here was another and different kind of comment last week. “Things I was only vaguely aware of, or knew, but was able to keep locked away from myself - have decided to pick the lock.” So, sometimes opening up can be a slow process while at other times, painful emotions and memories can come bursting out when triggered. So, in this episode of SelfWork, sponsored by BetterHelp, we're going to focus on five things to be aware of that can lead you to feel as emotionally safe as possible with your therapist.

The listener voicemail is only five seconds long… but her question is heartbreaking. I’m not sure I have answers… but I definitely want to extend comfort and reassurance.

So, let’s talk about how you build safety into beginning to open up about things that – at least initially – don’t feel safe at all.

Important Links:

BetterHelp, the #1 online therapy provider, has a special offer for you now!

Psychology Today article by Dr. Margaret on when you have conflict with your therapist...

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My book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has been published and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. And it’s available in paperback, eBook or as an audiobook!

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