John Ball: The Closet Gets A Better Outfit
John Ball came out years ago. That was not the hard part. The hard part was the second closet he built after, the professional one, where he learned to shrink, soften, and stay palatable so nobody in ...
18 Sep 38min
25 Years In: What Love Actually Looks Like for a Gay Man Over 40 – Rick Clemons
Twenty-five years ago, during the week the world changed, I met my husband. This episode is not a highlight reel. It is an honest look at what it actually takes to build a life with someone, the silen...
16 Sep 18min
Tyler Wasson: Loneliness Is Lying To You
Tyler Wasson spent years running from every uncomfortable silence, awkward date, and rejection, convinced escape was the only way to survive them. Then he found Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and l...
11 Sep 52min
Stop Reacting, Start Listening: Joshua Johnson on What Gay Men Get Wrong About Difficult Conversations
Most gay men do not have a conflict problem. They have a conversation problem. Joshua Johnson spent 25 years in journalism learning why people cannot talk to each other, then turned it into a TED Talk...
4 Sep 55min
David Lauterstein: Why Fun is Not The Same As Happy
David Lauterstein co-founded Nasty Pig, one of the most unapologetically sex-positive brands in queer history. Everyone expected his first book to be about that. Instead he wrote Sodomy Gods, a love s...
28 Aug 41min
Frank Spinelli on Shame, Trauma, and Why Gay Men Over 40 Are Reading the Wrong Map
Gay men over 40 have been running from shame their entire lives. Frank Spinelli says that is exactly the wrong move. As a physician, survivor, and author of The Shame Compass, Frank has spent decades ...
21 Aug 41min
Dr. Myron Krys: Successful, Wanted, And Still Alone
Dr. Myron Krys calls himself and loneliness bedfellows. He knows it from the inside, and he sees it every day in his therapy practice with gay men who look like they have it all. Krys explains why op...
14 Aug 48min
Colin Belcourt: Queer Shame, Self-Erasure, and Stop Cleaning Up Your Story
Gay men are experts at editing themselves. At work. In relationships. Inside the queer community itself. Colin Belcourt wrote a book about what gets cut out and why it needs to come back. The Blue Hou...
7 Aug 46min
