013 - Gaslighting and Psychopaths Part 2
Psychopath in Your Life -Podcast Show Notes- Episode 013 Summary: Dianne today continues to describe what victims go through with Gaslighting. It is a key element used by psychopaths. Victims of psychopaths either in the workplace, at home or in relationships find that they get the feeling they are being done is making them feel crazy. Key Points: Gaslighting usually happens gradually in a relationship It can happen with your boss, a parent or friends, or romantic relationships. Gaslighting is to decrease someone’s self-esteem and self-confidence Psychopaths who gaslight you will systematically and frequently withhold information and then deliberately alter facts to disorientate their victim. If the psychopath in your life is making you feel crazy — and accusing you of being too sensitive to make the "crazy" label stick — the problem might not be all in your head. Psychopaths were interviewed in Dianne’s book about Gaslighting. Please subscribe to the show on iTunes, Google Play, Facebook, Youtube, and on the website. You can get in touch with Dianne on her website or by email. Psychopaths in Our Lives: My Interviews by Dianne Emerson Amazon iBooks Get In Touch Website Forum Contact Facebook Subscribe to the show: iTunes Google Play RSS YouTube Credits Podcast Production and Editing Service rendered by Daniel Roth Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives psychopathic personality, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic personality, narcissists, narcissist test, RAD adoption
11 Juli 201713min
012 - Gaslighting and Psychopaths
Psychopath in Your Life -Podcast Show Notes- Episode 012 Summary: In Episode 012, Dianne talks about how psychopath harm the victims by the of use Gaslighting (a form of mental abuse). The word Gaslighting was first used in a play in the 1938 version. A movie about Gaslighting was released in 1945. The term Gaslighting comes from the psychopath flickering the lights and dimming the lights used at that time. Gaslighting starts out very slowly and increases over time. The end goal is to get the victim to start to question their sanity. Typically victims start to believe they are in fact crazy because the Gaslighting is so hard to detect. Psychopaths were interviewed in Dianne’s book about Gaslighting. Dianne shares an example from her book, Psychopaths in Our Lives Much to the surprise the psychopaths had never heard the term but considered it a key element in how they abuse victims. Gaslighting will be discussed further in the next podcast. Please subscribe to the show on iTunes, Google Play, Facebook, Youtube, and on the website. You can get in touch with Dianne on her website or by email Psychopaths in Our Lives: My Interviews by Dianne Emerson Amazon iBooks Get In Touch Website Forum Contact Facebook Subscribe to the show: iTunes Google Play RSS YouTube Credits Podcast Production and Editing Service rendered by Daniel Roth Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives Rad, conduct disorder, sociopathic behavior, conduct disorder in children, psycho test, the psychopath test, sociopath, psychopath test, oppositional
11 Juli 201716min
011 – How People Get Involved with a Psychopath Part 2
Psychopath in Your Life -Podcast Show Notes- Episode 011 Summary: In Episode 011, Dianne helps us explore how psychopaths gather information from their victims. When someone takes an interest in your life and in who you are, it’s usually a flattering experience. However, with psychopaths, they are displaying an interest to extract the “keys to the safe”. Tune in to find out how psychopaths gather information about their future victim by offering a kind, listening ear. they’d use that information against you. Listen as Dianne shares direct quotes from psychopaths and explains how a psychopath victimizes you within their first conversation. Time Stamped Show Notes: 00:13 – Introduction to Psychopath in Your Life 00:22 – Dianne is the author of Psychopaths in Our Lives 00:55 – The purpose of this podcast is to chat about psychopaths 01:29 – Today, we’ll explore further how people get involved with psychopaths 01:52 – Many victims brush off their first instincts 02:05 – Psychopaths are good at operating under your instincts 02:46 – When you first meet a psychopath, they’re in the “gathering stage” 03:05 – It’s a process 03:21 – Psychopaths need to get you to participate 03:43 – Even psychopaths are surprised at how much people tell them 04:09 – Dianne reads a quote from a psychopath 04:50 – Sharing things is a critical part of the bonding 05:28 – “Buy before you try” 05:32 – As a good listener and extractor of critical information, psychopaths will be in agreement with whatever the victim has to say 06:08 – “Psychopaths display an interest” 06:29 – It’s easy to start responding because of their taking an interest in you 06:44 – Psychopaths display understanding, empathy, and confidence 08:06 – “They know they’re playing you, but they aren’t really clear why” 09:11 – Dianne paraphrases a psychopath’s view on the gathering stage, “If I don’t show an interest and ask the right questions, how will I ever figure out the keys to the safe?” 09:27 – It shows how tactical psychopaths are from the first time they talk to their victims 09:57 – Get in touch with Dianne on her website. 10:38 – Please subscribe to the show on iTunes, Google Play, Facebook, Youtube, and on the website 3 Key Points: Learn to trust your instincts—they are there for a reason. Be cautious about who you share your life details with and ask why this person is taking an interest in you. Change begins one step at a time. Psychopaths in Our Lives: My Interviews by Dianne Emerson Amazon iBooks Get In Touch Website Forum Contact Facebook Subscribe to the show: iTunes Google Play RSS YouTube Credits Podcast Production and Editing Service rendered by Daniel Roth Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives Rad, conduct disorder, sociopathic behavior, conduct disorder in children, psycho test, the psychopath test, sociopath, psychopath test, oppositional defiant disorder treatment, psychopath, signs of a psychopath, psychopathy, aspd, conduct disorder treatment, signs of a sociopath, sociopath symptoms, sociopath traits, dealing with a sociopath, sociopath quiz, psychopath quiz, am I a psychopath, am I a sociopath, sociopath test, psychopathic traits, psychopathy symptoms, sociopathy, sociopath signs, sociopathic tendencies, traits of a psychopath, psychopathy checklist, symptoms of a psychopath, narcissist, personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, psychopathic tendencies, psychopath signs, psychopathic personality, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic personality, narcissists, narcissist test, RAD adoption
26 Juni 201711min
010 - How People Get Involved with a Psychopath Part 1
Psychopath in Your Life -Podcast Show Notes- Episode 010 Summary: In Episode 010, Dianne talks about the initial interactions psychopaths have with their victims. Psychopaths are known to inflict pain and misery pm their on victims lives and then turn the situation around, by playing the victim themselves. Listen as Dianne shares what to look for and consider as red flags when it comes to interacting with a psychopath. Dianne’s hope is that if you can see the signs, you’ll be able to safeguard yourself from the pain that can come from a relationship with a psychopath. Time Stamped Show Notes: 00:11 – Introduction to Psychopath in Your Life 00:19 – Dianne is the author of Psychopaths in Our Lives: My Interviews 00:30 – Dianne appreciates all the emails that are coming in! 00:42 – Dianne reads a letter from a victim who realized she was the one always apologizing and trying to fix things 01:45 – Dianne is sorry for your pain 02:04 – The pain might have been the trigger to help you find some answers 02:16 – There’s always a beginning phase in a relationship 02:34 – “Someone has to know you to figure out how to get to you and abuse you” 03:06 – Not making room for the person to share what’s on their mind will make it hard for you to detect possible psychopaths 03:04 – Psychopaths will leave all the talking to you 04:53 – Many times victims say the psychopath was someone they weren’t attracted to 05:26 – What is the key that draws victims in? 06:15 – Instead of looking into the issue, victims usually revert back to “the old times” 06:35 – Dianne was stunned by how calculated psychopaths are in reeling in their victims 07:04 – A psychopath literally lays a trap 07:15 – Over the years, Dianne has come to understand that their goal is to make the victim share openly and to for them to be the good listener; later on, they begin to victimize you 07:50 – Dianne struggled with the dynamics of what was really happening 08:26 – Dianne shares what one psychopath said 09:18 – Buy before you try 09:40 – The most disgusting answer Dianne received from a psychopath was, “I have found that if people don’t like who they are, then they let you treat them how you want because they think they don’t deserve better treatment” 09:59 – Information to a psychopath is like a script 11:13 – Dianne hopes that when you start to hear what psychopaths are actually thinking, you’ll be able to see how it’s not worth pursuing a relationship with one 11:23 – A psychopath said, “People trust me because they want to trust me” 12:15 – Get in touch with Dianne on her website. 12:31 – Please subscribe to the show on iTunes, Google Play, Facebook, Youtube, and on the website 3 Key Points: If you already see red flags, don’t ignore our intuition and act! Do not let psychopaths or any other people mistreat you – you DO deserve better. Be cautious before putting your trust in new people that you meet. Psychopaths in Our Lives – Dianne’s book Amazon iBooks Credits Podcast Production and Editing Service rendered by Daniel Roth Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives
20 Juni 201718min
009 - Side-Effects of Living with a Psychopath: PTSD
Psychopath in Your Life -Podcast Show Notes- Episode 009 Summary: In Episode 009, Dianne talks about the pain a psychopath’s victim often endures and how the after-effects can linger as PTSD, depression and/or anxiety. Psychopaths use gaslighting (a form of mental abuse) to trouble the minds of their victims and it’s very common to walk away from a relationship with a psychopath physically and mentally downtrodden. Listen as Dianne explains the detrimental effects of being a victim of a psychopath and offers encouragement to those experiencing such symptoms. Time Stamped Show Notes: 00:11 – Introduction to Psychopath in Your Life 00:16 – Today’s episode is about physical and mental pains from the victims of psychopaths 00:45 – The comments range from exhaustion to anxiety 01:10 – Over the years, 99.9% of victims suffered from severe PTSD 01:36 – Dealing with a psychopath is a war between good and evil 01:59 – This episode is NOT a diagnosis 02:10 – Trauma from a psychopath is a real and painful event 02:28 – Traumas can complicate your ability to exit a situation and can cause healing issues 03:26 – PTSD happens over time 03:39 – People with PTSD are sincerely struggling 04:12 – “PTSD is an anxiety disorder that keeps a person preoccupied with both the past and the future, flashbacks, intrusive thoughts, or events” 04:45 – People with PTSD can continue to be depressed for months or even years 05:11 – The mind creates circular patterns 05:15 – One can be repeatedly thinking about the trauma 05:19 – One can be constantly on guard 05:21 – One with PTSD may try to avoid reminders of the trauma 05:34 – Can get panic attacks 05:49 – People with PTSD are also prone to autoimmune disorders and chronic pains 05:57 – There’s a great feeling of mistrust 06:38 – “Depression – persistent sad, anxious, or empty mood; loss of interest in once-enjoyed activities; feelings of guilt, shame, or hopelessness about the future; other symptoms of depression may also develop” 07:07 – People with PTSD can have a hard time recognizing themselves 07:33 – “Gaslighting is a form of mental abuse in which information is twisted or spun, selectively omitted to favor the abuser, or false information is presented with the intent of making victims doubt their own memory, perception, and sanity” 08:03 – Dianne shares an example from her book, Psychopaths in Our Lives: My Interviews 09:29 – A victim’s health and mental being are attacked by psychopaths 09:52 – Be kind to yourself! 10:38 – Please subscribe to the show on iTunes, Google Play, Facebook, Youtube, and on the website 10:53 – Get in touch with Dianne on her website. 3 Key Points: Your traumatic experiences can lead to PTSD and can make the healing take longer. PTSD is a real, sincere response to a traumatic event that can cause anxiety and depression. Remember to be kind to yourself – it’s not your fault if you find yourself in this kind of situation. Resources Mentioned: Psychopaths in Our Lives: My Interviews Psychopaths in Our Lives: My Interviews Amazon iBooks Credits Podcast Production and Editing Service rendered by Daniel Roth Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives
11 Juni 201711min
008 - Motives of a Psychopath
Psychopath in Your Life -Podcast Show Notes- Episode 008 Summary: In Episode 008, Dianne dives further into the complexities that explain psychopaths become who they are. One’s background and childhood could account for part of this, but it isn’t a clear-cut cause and effect relationship for ALL psychopaths. Listen as Dianne shares more of her discoveries through the interviews she’s performed, why it’s important to show empathy to the parents of psychopaths, and how psychopaths can manipulate their diagnostic test results. Time Stamped Show Notes: 00:11 – Introduction to Psychopath in Your Life 00:18 – Today’s episode is a follow up on the article: When Your Child is a Psychopath 00:49 – “If we don’t understand the past, we have no path forward to the future” 00:54 – Dianne received a disturbing email regarding blaming the parents 01:07 – We’re not blaming the parents 01:23 – Carl, the young man in the article went to a facility 01:37 – The big problem Dianne sees is there is no data for him beyond the age of 18 01:46 – Carl called the facility to report what he was doing 01:57 – The reporter paid a visit 02:06 – Interview with his family reveals that Carl is doing terrifically – better than expected 02:27 – Carl’s wife had a different story – it was a disastrous relationship 02:52 – The part that’s alarming is Carl now owns a funeral home 03:26 – We don’t have a way to know how psychopath genes get passed 03:57 – Dianne’s book contains 3 interviews with psychopaths 04:08 – One went through the diagnostic process of the psychopathic disorder 04:25 – Dianne’s question was, “How compliant were you?” 04:30 – The psychopath answered, “I was very tempted throughout this process to manipulate the results” 04:41 – Manipulation is always on a psychopath’s mind 05:06 – The goal is to get the victim to tell more about themselves and the psychopath to be the great listener 05:40 – Psychopaths seek out kind and caring people 06:17 – There’s a stronger possibility of using the card of the victim as a deflector 06:59 – Dianne has so much empathy towards parents 07:19 – Dianne shares a quote from a parent, “The #1 Reason is he’s my son and he’s incapable of returning that loving kind, #2: I might have played a part in making him that way, #3: He’s my son and I love him, and #4: Is it in me too?” 07:58 – Verbalizing or writing it down makes it much more real to people 08:30 – There’s a certain clarity that happens in writing our thoughts 09:05 – Victims try to excuse bad behavior of psychopaths to try to deflect the pain they’ve gone through 09:42 – Pay attention and listen to your gut 10:04 – The next episode will be about the more specific signs to look for 10:11 – Get in touch with Dianne on her website. 3 Key Points: There’s still no way to find out how psychopathic genes get passed – you just have to look for the symptoms. It’s not cut and dry—the parents are not always to blame if a person becomes a psychopath. Don’t paint the red flags white – listen to your gut. Resources Mentioned: Psychopaths in Our Lives: My Interviews When Your Child is a Psychopath – Article from The Atlantic Magazine that Dianne mentioned Psychopaths in Our Lives: My Interviews Amazon iBooks Credits Podcast Production and Editing Service rendered by Daniel Roth Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives Rad, conduct disorder, sociopathic behavior, conduct disorder in children, psycho test, the psychopath test, sociopath, psychopath test, oppositional defiant disorder treatment, psychopath, signs of a psychopath, psychopathy, aspd, conduct disorder treatment, signs of a sociopath, sociopath symptoms, sociopath traits, dealing with a sociopath, sociopath quiz, psychopath quiz, am I a psychopath, am I a sociopath, sociopath test, psychopathic traits, psychopathy symptoms, sociopathy, sociopath signs, sociopathic tendencies, traits of a psychopath, psychopathy checklist, symptoms of a psychopath, narcissist, personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, psychopathic tendencies, psychopath signs, psychopathic personality, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic personality, narcissists, narcissist test, RAD adoption
3 Juni 201710min
007 - Psychopaths as Children
Psychopath in Your Life -Podcast Show Notes- Episode 007 Summary: In Episode 007, Dianne further discusses the characteristics of children displaying psychopathic tendencies; this includes certain traits and behaviors that are specific to children. Listen to find out why psychopathic symptoms go unnoticed in a household, the status for psychopathic care facilities today, and the reason why reporting can be complicated. Time Stamped Show Notes: 00:12 – Introduction to Psychopath in Your Life 00:18 – Dianne is the author of the book, Psychopaths in Our Lives 01:05 – “We’re finally getting information coming out” 01:25 – The Atlantic Magazine has a great article, “When Your Child is a Psychopath” 02:12 – Dianne reads, “callous and unemotional traits—shorthand for a cluster of characteristics and behaviors, including a lack of empathy, remorse, or guilt, shallow emotions, aggression and even cruelty, and a seeming indifference to punishment.” 02:48 – Callous and unemotional children have no trouble hurting others to get what they want 02:58 – In 2013, The American Psychiatric Association and the DSM say that the condition can go unnoticed 04:12 – Dr. Hare developed the youth checklist for psychopathy behaviors 04:34 – What’s being done now is trial and error 04:46 – The flaw or lack is in developing places where kids can receive support/training for their behavior 05:46 – Once kids age out of a facility, there’s no follow-up 06:26 – Few families get to the point where they find care facilities 06:58 – In China, there are tons of facilities for gaming addictions 07:20 – Research and self-reporting are key issues 07:58 – Dianne shares about the Ted Bundy case 09:12 – The big trip up for Ted Bundy was pornography 09:45 – Ted had a girlfriend who stayed with him 10:23 – He was engaged a couple of times 10:37 – He had a pattern 10:58 – Reporting becomes complicated because you rely on the family to report it 11:57 – Psychopaths are not always men 12:57 – Men who are abused by women are off the radar 13:23 – For more information go to www.psychopath-research.com, in the “Family” section 13:54 – Register to be able to post 14:22 – A person on the site posts about his child who is under care in a facility 15:18 – Dianne cannot diagnose any person without meeting them 15:40 – Don’t mislabel people as psychopaths 16:37 – Dianne would like to share tools to do the research yourself 17:04 – Subscribe to the show on iTunes, Google Play, Facebook, Youtube, and on the website 17:16 – Get in touch with Dianne on her website 3 Key Points: Psychopathic symptoms can go unnoticed – especially because you rely on family members to report such behaviors. There are few care facilities for children who have the behavior—this needs to be rectified. Don’t be mistaken, psychopaths are both men and women. Resources Mentioned: Psychopaths in Our Lives: My Interviews When Your Child is a Psychopath – Article from The Atlantic Magazine that Dianne mentioned Dr. Hare – Doctor that developed the psychopathy checklist for youth Ted Bundy – An infamous psychopath who went on a killing spree in the 1970’s Psychopaths in Our Lives – Dianne’s book Amazon iBooks Credits Podcast Production and Editing Service rendered by Daniel Roth Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives Rad, conduct disorder, sociopathic behavior, conduct disorder in children, psycho test, the psychopath test, sociopath, psychopath test, oppositional defiant disorder treatment, psychopath, signs of a psychopath, psychopathy, aspd, conduct disorder treatment, signs of a sociopath, sociopath symptoms, sociopath traits, dealing with a sociopath, sociopath quiz, psychopath quiz, am I a psychopath, am I a sociopath, sociopath test, psychopathic traits, psychopathy symptoms, sociopathy, sociopath signs, sociopathic tendencies, traits of a psychopath, psychopathy checklist, symptoms of a psychopath, narcissist, personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, psychopathic tendencies, psychopath signs, psychopathic personality, narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic personality, narcissists, narcissist test, RAD adoption
30 Maj 201717min
006 - Married to TWO Psychopaths
Psychopath in Your Life -Podcast Show Notes- Episode 006 Summary: In Episode 006, Dianne shares a mail she received from a woman who has married 2 psychopaths. Listen as the writer shares and describes her life with husband #2 and opens up about her son. Dianne offers her sincerest advice and encouragement—reminding the writer and each of us that there IS hope and a way OUT of this life. Time Stamped Show Notes: 00:06 – Introduction to Psychopath in Your Life 00:13 – Dianne is the author of the book, Psychopaths in Our Lives 00:26 – Dianne reads a letter she received last week 01:16 – The person who sent the letter married 2 psychopathic men 01:22 – Dianne has a relative who married 2 alcoholics 02:04 – “I have an older son who suffers from several disorders” 02:30 – People refer to psychopaths as men 02:41 – Dianne recommends reading Bitter Harvest 03:41 – “I cried buckets. It is so isolating” 04:14 – Dianne would like to answer you in this way: 05:00 – The answer won’t be in a pill – no antidepressants 05:16 – Realize you’ve gone through hell, but there IS a way out 06:30 – Think about trying to manage the feelings of being right 06:53 – Be careful about who you communicate with 07:27 – Never go to couples’ counseling 08:37 – Safety is very important 09:11 – Find an abuse center that is private or located in another town 09:54 – Your son may have gotten his disorder from his father’s genes 10:41 – Deal with one issue at a time 11:02 – Refrain from telling him you know 11:45 – Get in touch with Dianne on her website or by email 12:42 – Subscribe to the show on iTunes, Google Play, Facebook, Youtube, and on the website 3 Key Points: Victims of psychopaths go through hell, BUT remember, there IS a way out. Be careful with whom you communicate your plans and issues. Your safety is the MOST important thing you need to consider. Resources Mentioned: Psychopaths in Our Lives – Dianne’s book Bitter Harvest – Book about a psychopath woman Biblio – Where Dianne gets her books Psychopaths in Our Lives – Dianne’s book Amazon iBooks Credits Podcast Production and Editing Service rendered by Daniel Roth Show Notes provided by Mallard Creatives
20 Maj 201714min
