Assuming the Best: Choosing to Believe in Trust, Good Intentions, and Self-Worth. Episode 115

Lytt inn til to episoder stappfulle av tull og tøys rundt menn, kvinner, relasjoner, følelser, sex, dynamikker, mannsarbeid, sårbarhet og andre overfladiske, lette tema.  Mammarollen, papparollen, lille gutten og jenta i relasjoner.  Anders Wilmann driver mannfolk.org og er engasjert i hvordan menn kan bli mer menneskelige.    Musikk av Lennart Hansen; Holy Hubris  https://open.spotify.com/artist/5gHzTp8pUzQH8ASPrlFzJv?si=9TJZ_-miTa61jwplSCKKeQ     Om Meg:  Jeg er Therese Fallentin, du kan lese mer om meg og tjenestene mine her;   https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/   og om podcasten her https://magefolelsen.com/hjem   Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling er også på Youtube @TheGutFeeling_Therese   https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC   og på Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/     Lag deg selv en god dag.    Om Anders  Da jeg ble plassert i en workshop med menn på en Tantra festival for godt over en håndfull år siden, innså jeg at mine mellommenneskelige ferdigheter, spesielt med menn, ikke var så gode som jeg hadde trodd. Blant de andre deltakerne så jeg ikke brødre, men heller konkurrenter. På grunn av min avvisning av mine egne skyggesider, bar jeg mange dommer mot menn og generell maskulinitet, og brukte stigmatiserende merkelapper som «offermentalitet,» «kvinnebedårer,» «player,» «egoistisk nihilist,» «usikker mobber,» osv mot alle menn rundt meg. Og alt dette levde jo egentlig i meg selv og mitt syn på mine medbrødre ble selvfølgelig preget av disse fordømmende etikettene. Jeg selv, selvfølgelig, betraktet meg som «helgenen.» Denne erkjennelsen markerte begynnelsen på min reise inn i arbeidet med menn. Målet var å lege forholdet mitt til menn, maskulinitet, og ikke minst, til meg selv. Dette var veien mot mannsarbeidet. Selv om reisen ikke er fullført, har jeg kommet langt. Det er likevel dager hvor jeg føler meg som et spedbarn, dager hvor jeg knapt kan «gå» i det hele tatt. Likevel har jeg nådd et punkt hvor jeg tydelig ser at jeg har utviklet meg på mange områder. Les mer om Anders på hjemmesiden hans:   https://www.mannfolk.org/anders-wilmann

17 Mars 202559min

Part two of the conversation with Levi is about asking for what we want and giving what we want, without pushing others into something they do not want to be part of.  Have you ever said “yes” when you really meant “no”? Or felt unclear about what you actually wanted? In this episode, we dive into Betty Martin's "The Wheel of Consent", a powerful framework that transforms how we navigate touch, relationships, and power dynamics. Whether in business, love, or everyday interactions, understanding the difference between giving, receiving, taking, and allowing can be life-changing. Join us as we explore how to reclaim agency, communicate desires with clarity, and step into true consent—without guilt, pressure, or confusion. 🚀💡 Tune in and start making clearer, more empowered choices today! 🎧✨   Workshop details further below.   These are the quadrants: You are doing: 1) Serve: you are doing. Action to benefit others. You give a gift, it's for them. "Yes, I will" 2) Take: you are doing. Action to benefit yourself. You receive/ ask for a gift, it's for you. "May I?"  They are doing: 3) Allow: opposite of the taker. They are doing. Allow others to act as they want. You are giving a gift, it's for them. "Yes, you may" 4) Accept: opposite of the server. They are doing. Benefit from the action of others. You are receiving a gift, it's for you! "Will you?"   Shadow sides of the wheel of consent. This is when there is no consent anymore: 1) Serve: "do gooder", rescuer, martyr, slavery, push onto others what they don't want, sacrifice themselves 2) Take: Perpetrator, stealing, groping, assaulting, rape, war 3) Allow: endure, tolerate, doormat, pushover, victim, passive 4) Accept: Freeloader, assumption of privilege, slavery, entitled   Check out this link for a picture of the wheel of consent:  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-wisdom-of-anger/202408/boundaries-and-the-wheel-of-consent    Check out our workshop on March 30th 2025 https://fb.me/e/4AQoBGGSl  Through guided exercises, discussion, and interactive experiences, you will: Identify the roles you unconsciously take on in conflict and decision-making. Learn how to shift from reaction to response, breaking the cycle of drama. Develop tools to foster clarity, confidence, and constructive communication. Explore how to step into conscious leadership, whether in your personal life or business.   I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast.  You can read about me and my services at https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/  and about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem  Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling is also in video format at YouTube at  @TheGutFeeling_Therese  https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC  and on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/    Make yourself a glorious day ya all.

12 Mars 202528min

Me and Levi discuss the dynamics of the Drama Triangle, Empowerment Dynamics and Wheel of Consent in this two part episode of breaking cycles by seeing the roles we play in conflict and creation, and taking action to show up as we actually want to.   Check out our workshop on March 30th 2025 https://fb.me/e/4AQoBGGSl  Through guided exercises, discussion, and interactive experiences, you will: Identify the roles you unconsciously take on in conflict and decision-making. Learn how to shift from reaction to response, breaking the cycle of drama. Develop tools to foster clarity, confidence, and constructive communication. Explore how to step into conscious leadership, whether in your personal life or business.   I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast.  You can read about me and my services at https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/  and about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem  Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling is also in video format at YouTube at  @TheGutFeeling_Therese  https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC  and on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/    Make yourself a glorious day ya all.

12 Mars 202549min

10 Mars 202533min

Have you ever felt like different parts of you are at odds—one part wants to take risks while another is terrified of failure? Or maybe you notice a critical inner voice that keeps you small? In this episode, we explore Parts Work, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Inner Child Healing, powerful approaches to self-awareness and transformation.  Me and Internal Family Systems Expert Cem Stone dive into:  ✨ What Parts Work is and how it helps us understand the different aspects of our psyche  ✨ The Internal Family Systems (IFS) Model and how our “inner family” of parts can work together ✨ How inner child healing can support self-compassion, emotional resilience, and deep transformation ✨ Practical exercises to begin connecting with your inner world and fostering harmony within Whether you struggle with self-doubt, inner conflict, or emotional wounds from the past, this episode offers insights and tools to help you integrate all parts of yourself with greater understanding and care. Tune in and start your journey toward deeper self-connection and healing. 🎧✨    You find Cem and his wisdom on Internal Family Systems on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/cem.stone/  I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast.  You can read about me and my services at https://www.empowermentdynamics.no/  and about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem  Magefølelsen aka The Gut Feeling is also in video format at YouTube at  @TheGutFeeling_Therese  https://youtu.be/ZVQmHSvX394?si=azV-UKxdvBsvRZxC  and on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/magefoelelsen.podcast/    Make yourself a glorious day ya all.

6 Mars 20251h 34min

Feel alive.  Express what is real.  Show up as you are.  Create true connection.  Feel like you belong, instead of just fitting in.  Dare be you and show up as who you truly are.    I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem    and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/    and find me in video format at youtube at @TheGutFeeling_Therese  https://youtu.be/vZQbeNOsOmc?si=a2SmyXk_OQYAhYRQ    Make yourself a glorious day ya all.    #introvert #extrovert #confidence #selflove #rest #mindfulness #slowdown #innerpeace #meditation #breath #quiet #reserved #shy

3 Mars 202527min

Find love for all of you, especially your nerdy, quiet, slow, reserved, calm, introspective self.  We don't talk about it enough, but the introverted, nerdy, quiet and unsocial is SO important. AND so amazingly enjoyable, when we learn to enjoy our own company.  1-1 conversations, intimacy, feelings, sensations, mindfulness, yoga, meditation, birds, quiet, cuddles, candles, fireplaces, the sky, clouds floating in the wind, sunsets, trees, drawing, painting, singing, laying in the grass, being quiet together, reading a book, classical music, mindful movement, thai chi, chi gong, mountains, hiking, nature, petting an animal, board games, roleplay, 1-1 sports, creativity, creation, writing, listening, observing, research, analysis, planning, tidying, cleaning, floating in water, sauna, baths, showers, sleep, rest, cooking, a deserted beach... You name it.  There are so many amazing things that are introverted.  And so many great minds that are introverted.  Many of them that we too rarely listen to. Shut up long enough for them to open their mouths.  In a load world, the magic of the introverted is often overlooked. Even deserted beaches are filling up with bars and music.  If we pay attention to the actions of the introvert, we might actually want to follow them. Let them lead. Help us get in contact with ourselves, this moment and our bodies.  SLOW DOWN... Take a breath. Listen. Give space to others.    I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem    and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/    and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese  https://youtu.be/dVvljWnerfo    Make yourself a glorious day ya all.    #introvert #extrovert #confidence #selflove #rest #mindfulness #slowdown #innerpeace #meditation #breath #quiet #reserved #shy

23 Feb 202542min

Are you good enough?  Are others good enough?  What is good enough?  Who decides that?  Are you constantly seeking to be the best, in everything you do?  Having the highest standards, for yourself and others?  Exhausted very much? Pushing people away? Judging yourself and others? Always seeking better?    Quality is great. I absolutely LOVE quality. But can it still be good enough with some flaws? Can we still be good enough while we practice? Or when we just want to do something, without really being the best or any good at all? Can we accept that practicing means being shit at things?    Listen into an episode about the inner critic, our judgemental minds and how it reflects into our perception of life. Our relationship dynamics and our ability to let people into who we are.    Wanna let down your guard and show people who you truly are? You have def come to the right place. This podcast is full of it.   I am Therese Fallentin and this is The Gutfeeling podcast. You can read about me and the Podcast at https://magefolelsen.com/hjem    and about me and my services (waiting for my domain :-D) at https://herring-tambourine-n2td.squarespace.com/    and find me in video format at youtube at https://www.youtube.com/@TheGutFeeling_Therese  https://youtu.be/dVvljWnerfo    Make yourself a glorious day ya all.    #anxious #avoident #attachment #money #dating #peoplepleasing #codependency #innercritic #shame #guilt #judgementalmind #judging #notgoodenough #goodenough #selflove

20 Feb 202536min