Enneagram and Marriage7 Apr 2025

When Both Partners Carry the Mental Load: A Better Share with Dr. Morgan Cutlip

Who can get in a sexy state of mind when they're dealing with the triple threat of emotional load, cognitive load, and the physical demands of partnership and parenting, too? Mental load inequity is now recognized as the leading source of relationship tension through research, but what can we do about that when not one but both partners feel equally burdened? In this enlightening conversation, we answer just that with relationship psychologist Dr. Morgan Cutlip (Type 9), as we explore the principles from her BRAND NEW book on a long-awaited topic, an already #1 Christian Marriage early marriage bestselling book "A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex." Drawing from her expertise in relationship psychology and her peacemaker perspective, Dr. Cutlip offers practical strategies for mental load sharing that honor each partner's strengths and abilities realistically. Discover why traditional approaches to division of labor often fail, how to recognize invisible contributions and specific communication tools that prevent resentment. Whether you're struggling with household management, parenting responsibilities, or emotional labor imbalance, this episode provides a framework for creating harmony without sacrificing anyone's well-being. Learn how a better share of responsibilities can lead not just to more equitable partnerships, but also to more fun, less resentment, and yes, even better sex. Watch on YouTube www.DrMorganCutlip.com If you're listening to our E + M podcast release date of Monday, April 7th, you can also use this to get the pre-order bonuses! https://drmorgancutlip.com/bs-preorder Get the new book, A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex here! https://a.co/d/g7e3qKv Head on over to ⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/⁠⁠⁠ to check out all of our amazing freebies and resources! Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@enneagramandmarriage⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠Facebook @ enneagramandmarriage ⁠⁠⁠ Have a specific question? ⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out this form to get your personal questions answered now! ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Leave us a comment or question by sending an MP4 recording to ⁠⁠enneagramandmarriage@gmail.com⁠⁠. (You can use your Voice Memos app on your iPhone to record.) Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠ , here!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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