Mean Girls, Mom Roles & Modern Friendship: Coaching Kids Through Conflict :: Dr. Kelly Jameson [Ep 518]

As usual, this sidetracked has so much packed into it, especially as we head into Mother’s Day and the end-of-school-year May(hem). We recap my son Quade’s final high school musical performance as Lumiere in Beauty and the Beast. Once again the tears are flowing as I process having a senior and all of the final milestones that come along with it.  Cynthia tries to describe what her best Mother’s Day would look like and it ends up being a 1980’s party with a clean house and peaceful kids. While I would like to bring back the homemade Mother’s Day crafts, let’s get all the high school teachers on board. Cynthia chats about what summer looks like when the college kids come home, it's around-the-clock fun with the little one up at 6:30 AM and the big kids up until the wee hours of the morning.  Come laugh along with us as we face the month of May and all of the busyness and big feelings that come along with this season of motherhood.  Stick around to the end where we share a big announcement about how the summer of podcasting will look.  Connect with Cynthia Yanof:  Website:   https://cynthiayanof.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cynthia.yanof  Instagram:  @cynthiayanof  Podcast: MESSmerized  Links Mentioned:   LTK | Fashion, Home, Beauty, Fitness and More Life Is Messy, God Is Good: Sanity for the Chaos of Everyday Life: by Cynthia Yanof Chico's (chicos.com) Forgiving What You Can't Forget: by Lysa TerKeurst I Shouldn't Feel This Way: by Alison Cook PhD The Body Keeps the Score: by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. A Mother’s Day Questionnaire for your kiddos to fill out. A Questionnaire you fill out about your kids by Brooke Romney The Holderness Family When Mother’s Day isn’t Facebook Perfect Related Episodes: Forgiving What You Can’t Forget :: Lysa TerKeurst [Ep 304] Embracing the Mom You’re Meant to Be :: Jo Saxton [Ep 283] The Goal Isn’t Happy Children :: Cynthia Yanof – Summer of Mentorship – Wk 6 [Ep 419] Featured Sponsors:  Total Gym- For an ADDITIONAL 20% off your order, head to TotalGymDirect.com/DMA Better Help- This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at BetterHelp.com/dma today to get 10% off your first month and get on your way to being your best self. VisitFind links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.

3 Maj 202448min

Do you feel like you are just existing with your family instead of being intentional? Are you finding it hard to consistently spend time with the Lord as a busy mom? Do you wonder how to train your kids in Godly principles and practices that last a lifetime?  Today Jennifer Pepito- author, podcaster, and homeschool curriculum writer- joins me to talk about her new book Habits for a Sacred Home. She studied the ancient practices and habits of monks and Christian women who have gone before us to see how they lived and how we can use some of their tools in our homes.  Through the Benedictine rule, she discovered nine principles that can guide our days: simplicity, stewardship, order, stability, hospitality, community, prayer, and work. Jennifer talks about what this looks like in the imperfect, busy, messy seasons that family life brings. Life does not need to be idyllic to have a sacred home.  The goal of these practices is not to have another burden or to-do list but to create space for the Holy Spirit to show up in our families and guide us as we walk through life together submitted to Him.  Connect with Jennifer Pepito:  Website:  THE PEACEFUL PRESS Facebook: Jennifer Pepito Instagram:  Jennifer Pepito (@jenniferpepito) Links Mentioned:   Restoration Home with Jennifer Pepito [PODCAST] Habits for a Sacred Home: by Jennifer Pepito  Really Very Crunchy: by Emily Morrow  The Rule of St. Benedict  Atomic Habits: by James Clear He Leadeth Me: An Extraordinary Testament of Faith: by Walter Ciszek Kimberly June Miller Mothering by the Book: by Jennifer Pepito Related Episodes: Inner Healing Prayer :: Jennifer Barnett [Ep 323] Creating Family Culture :: Amber O’Neal Johnston [SOM Wk 4] Create a Home of Belonging and Becoming :: Sally Clarkson {Ep 107} Featured Sponsors:  Skylight- Get 15% off a Skylight Calendar at SkylightCal.com/ALONE Dwell- Receive 25% off today dwellbible.com/dma  Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.

29 Apr 202450min

Do you often feel like you are dropping all the spinning plates? That you can’t keep up or believe the lie that you are the worst mom and wife? Do you wonder why you are not further along, why does everyone else seem to have it together?  Today Joanna Weaver- author, speaker, and podcaster- joins me to discuss her new book Embracing Trust. We also spent time talking about her classic Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World and how that message has stayed applicable through the years. We want to worship at the feet of Jesus like Mary but the Martha in us keeps bossing us around, telling us to work harder and strive more. Joanna reminds us that if we tend our connection with the Lord everything else flows out of that place. The tasks and needs do not disappear but the ability to tackle them with grace, tranquility, and truth increases as we spend time at the feet of Jesus.   Connect with Joanna Weaver:  Website:  Christian Author and Speaker - Joanna Weaver Facebook: Joanna Weaver Books Instagram:  Joanna Weaver | Christian Author (@joannaweaverbooks) Links Mentioned:   Podcast - Joanna Weaver Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World: by Joanna Weaver Embracing Trust: by Joanna Weaver Don't Mom Alone: by Heather MacFadyen  Related Episodes: The What, Why and Work-through of Panic Attacks :: Kasey Van Norman [Ep 452] Inner Healing Prayer :: Jennifer Barnett [Ep 323] Set Free From Shame :: Jeannie Cunnion [Ep 190] Exchange False Beliefs with True Identity :: Jamie Winship [Ep 433] Featured Sponsors:  Skylight Calendar - Get 15% off a Skylight Calendar at SkylightCal.com/ALONE Greenlight- Greenlight is a debit card and money app made for families. Get your first month free at GREENLIGHT.com/DMA Thrive Causemetics- get an exclusive 20% off your first order at thrivecausemetics.com/DMA Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.

22 Apr 202445min

Do you feel like you just need more money to create a home you love? Do you want an inviting home that feels peaceful and open to your friends and family? Are you confused about your decorating style and end up buying random decor that does not work?  Myquillyn Smith, author and founder of the Nesting Place, joins me to help with all of the House Rules that can be so overwhelming. She gives me advice on how to update my kitchen on a limited budget by utilizing Pinterest. Plus gives advice on everything from throw pillows, lamps, wallpaper, and buying new couches. Myquillyn says that decorating is taking the time to learn about yourself and what you need for your home. Building the confidence to make big and small decisions that lead to a home you love and is functional. She reminds us that it does not have to be perfect to be beautiful.  One powerful statement from Myquillyn is to not wait to get started, get started today on creating a home you love. One that you, your family, and your friends can be invited into a place of peace and rest.  Connect with Myquillyn Smith:  Website:  Nesting Place Facebook: Nesting Place Instagram:  Myquillyn Smith (@thenester) Links Mentioned:   House Rules: How to Decorate for Every Home, Style, and Budget by Myquillyn Smith The Cozy Minimalist Community Jason Saft | Staged To Sell Home (@stagedtosellhome) The Nesting Place: It Doesn't Have to Be Perfect to Be Beautiful: by Myquillyn Smith Quiz: What's Your Decorating Era? Related Episodes: How to Quit Hustle and Embrace Small-Moment Living :: Emily Freeman {Ep 83} Create a Home of Belonging and Becoming :: Sally Clarkson {Ep 107} Your Unique Color Palette and Authentic Style :: Karen Blanc [Ep 343] Featured Sponsors:  Honeylove - Save 20% Off at honeylove.com/DMA Skylight - Get 15% off a Skylight Calendar at SkylightCal.com/ALONE StoryWorth - Save $10 on your first purchase when you go to StoryWorth.com/DMA  Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.

15 Apr 202451min

Do you feel as if you are always measuring yourself as a mom? Do you feel like the pressure to keep up with moms around you is overwhelming? Do you feel snappy or resentful at your kids and husband? Today, author Sara Hagerty joins me to talk about her new book, The Gift Of Limitations. She is a wife and mom of seven with four adopted kids. Sara shares how we often find ourselves daydreaming about other seasons and how to recognize our limits and give ourselves grace without shame and complaining. When we name our limits we can actually grieve them and let God give us the story He is intricately weaving for our families. Society tells us we can be limitless, we can optimize everything, but Sara reminds us that the limits and plot twists in our life are all from a good Father who is at work in our stories.  Connect with Sara Hagerty:  Website:   Sara Hagerty Facebook: Sara Hagerty Instagram:  Sara Hagerty (@sarahagertywrites) Links Mentioned:   The Gift of Limitations: Finding Beauty in Your Boundaries: by Sara Hagerty Every Bitter Thing Is Sweet: Tasting the Goodness of God in All Things: by Sara Hagerty Unseen: The Gift of Being Hidden in a World That Loves to Be Noticed: by Sara Hagerty Related Episodes: When You Feel Unseen :: Sara Hagerty [Ep 175] Every Bitter Thing is Sweet :: Sara Hagerty [Ep 143] Help When You Feel Weak :: Lisa Whittle [Ep 170] Featured Sponsors:  BetterHelp: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/DMA and get on your way to being your best self.” Total Gym: Remember: It only takes 10-20 minutes a day to reshape your body. Head to TotalGymDirect.com/DMA for an ADDITIONAL 20% off your order. Plus that includes a FREE AbCrunch attachment AND free shipping. This special offer won’t be available for much longer. Thrive Market: Save time and money and shop Thrive Market today. Go to ThriveMarket.com/DMA for 30% off your first order, plus a FREE $60 gift! Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.

8 Apr 202449min

Right off the bat Cynthia and I get sidetracked by my grumpy mood. A mood I blamed on an instagram battle but probably more about my grief of having a senior who is actually going to college!  There’s some rehashing of the Bachelor, Heather’s advice for renting with Turo and discussion whether audiobooks count as reading. We also get sidetracked talking about all of the end-of-school year emotions including Cynthia's current struggle over her first grader’s learning and reading challenges. She claims her stage of life is somewhere between Kidzbop music and shapewear from Soma. Which makes us wonder how would you describe your current parenting stage?  Regardless of which end of the spectrum you are on (or maybe you are in both seasons) this episode will give you encouragement that God cares for our kids more than we ever will and He has a good story for their lives.  Connect with Cynthia Yanof:  Website:   https://cynthiayanof.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cynthia.yanof  Instagram:  @cynthiayanof  Podcast: MESSmerized  Links Mentioned:   Turo car rental marketplace Watch Mean Girls Chico's Soma Heather’s new Cupshe bathing suit Amazon.com: Audible Books The Women: by Kristin Hannah Confessions of a Shopaholic: by Sophie Kinsella Me before You by Jojo Moyes  Don't Mom Alone: by Heather MacFadyen Life Is Messy, God Is Good: by Cynthia Yanof Cynthia’s MESSmerized Patreon Heather’s Don't Mom Alone Patreon  Related Episodes: Emotional Maturity, Teamwork, and 25 years of Marriage :: Bruce and Heather [Ep 458] Build Lasting Faith in Your Kids :: Dr. Kara Powell [Ep 290] How to Stay Calm with School Stress :: Kirk Martin {Ep 88} Featured Sponsors:  Thrive Causemetics- get an exclusive 20% off your first order at thrivecausemetics.com/DMA Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.

5 Apr 202444min

Earbud and Trigger warning We live on the other side of the Resurrection! If you find yourself in the middle of brokenness and ruin, we pray this episode reminds you that your heavenly Father God is in the redemption business.  Today Nadia Louise joins me to share her powerful testimony. Her story is woven with so many layers of trauma and pain from a narcissistic, abusive father to the death of her brother when she was just 17 years old. That event was the catalyst that allowed Nadia to hear the voice of the Lord. But her story was not over; she still walked through pain, suffering, more death, and heartbreak. As she learned to sit at the feet of Jesus and hear His voice she began to heal from depression, self-harm, and her past.  Listen in to Nadia’s powerful story and know that God still heals, still redeems, and still works today.  Connect with Nadia Louise:  YouTube: Nadia Louise (youtube.com) Instagram:  nadia louise (@itsnadialouise) Links Mentioned:   Dancing on the Grave–Naomi Cantwell and Christ for the Nations  Kiddell (@ohkiddell) Upperroom (uprmdallas.org) Related Episodes: Forgiving What You Can’t Forget :: Lysa TerKeurst [Ep 304] Faith in the Unexpected :: Christine Caine You Are Never Alone :: Max Lucado [Ep 298] Life Giving Faith in Every Circumstance :: Lisa Appelo [SofM wk 2] Featured Sponsors:  Trust & Will- Get 10% off plus free shipping of your estate plan documents trustandwill.com/DMA Vegamour- For a limited time get twenty percent off your first subscription order at VEGAMOUR.com/DMA Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.

1 Apr 202454min

Bruce joins me today to discuss 25 years of marriage and answer listener questions like-  What did you learn in year 25 that you wish you knew in year 1? How do you make time for intimacy? How to handle times when your significant other is having a struggle with faith? And, What are you looking forward to when your kids are grown and flown?  I discuss how I’ve grown in emotional maturity while Bruce talks about how to get out of the ruts and routines of work and family life. We also tackle different personality types and how we handle those when parenting our boys. Teen parenting is hard y’all, there are no formulas but we have learned that teamwork is essential.  God had been so good and faithful through 25 years of marriage and parenting. Join us today as we share the vulnerable, hard, and good parts of the journey.  Connect with Bruce:  Website:  zello.com/about-us LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/bruce-macfadyen/  Links Mentioned:   A Drama Triangle explanation A Definition of Locus of Control  Alexander Hamilton by Ron Chernow  Parenting with Hope: Raising Teens for Christ in a Secular Age: by Melissa B. Kruger  Shōgun: The Complete Novel: by James Clavell The Rise and Fall of the Third Reich: A History of Nazi Germany: by William Shirer Related Episodes: Bruce Learns to Label His Feelings :: Bruce and Heather [Ep 316] Talking, Teens, and Twenty-four Years :: Bruce + Heather [Ep 399] Changing the Atmosphere of Your Home with Positive Parenting :: Ralphie Jacobs [Ep 456] Helping Socially Anxious Boys :: David Thomas [Ep 451] Featured Sponsors:  Better Help- DMA is sponsored by BetterHelp. BetterHelp.com/DMA today to get 10% off your first month. Greenlight- Greenlight is a debit card and money app made for families. Get your first month free at GREENLIGHT.com/DMA Total Gym- For an ADDITIONAL 20% off your order, head to TotalGymDirect.com/dma Find links to this week’s sponsors and unique promo codes at dontmomalone.com/sponsors.

25 Mars 202440min