Understanding Narcissistic Relationships: The Hidden Dynamics
In this episode, we delve into the intricacies of narcissistic traits and relationship dynamics, starting with the concept of trust and jealousy. The discussion highlights the paradox of narcissists not showing jealousy when their partner is socializing but becoming deeply affected if the relationship is threatened. This behavior is explained through the psychoanalytic concept of "affect block," a defense mechanism that masks true feelings. The episode also explores how narcissistic traits ar...
3 Juli 202433min
Injustice, Resentment and Revenge: Tools and Techniques to Move Forward 2
In this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella explores the topic of resentment and its impact on the healing process after infidelity. Resentment, rooted in unresolved anger and perceived injustice, serves as a barrier to both external reconciliation and internal peace. It fuels desires for revenge and retaliation, leading to the adhesiveness of trauma. The person who cheated needs to demonstrate genuine remorse, take responsibility for their actions, and address underlying issues. The person holding...
26 Juni 202416min
Navigating the Complexities of Infidelity: The Destructive Role of Resentment 1
Infidelity is a complex issue that deeply impacts individuals and relationships. Understanding the reasons behind cheating, such as dissatisfaction, neglect, or narcissistic characteristics, is crucial for addressing infidelity. Regret and remorse play significant roles in the potential for relationship repair, especially when there is cognitive dissonance. Developing empathy is essential in the healing process, as it helps cheaters understand the impact of their actions. Resentment can be a ...
19 Juni 202416min
What to Do When You Have No Motivation
Unmasking Depression: The Hidden Impact of Narcissistic Caregivers -Therapeutic Interventions In this episode, Dr. Anthony Mazzella delves into the concept of white depression, which involves an unconscious identification with a narcissistically preoccupied caregiver. He explores the impact of emotional resonance and affective attunement on an individual's development, as well as the connection between this type of depression and narcissism. Dr. Mazzella also discusses the therapeutic a...
12 Juni 202425min
How People Pleasing Destroys Relationships
Understanding the Illusion of Excessive Agreeableness Excessive agreeability can obstruct genuine communication and connection, leading to irritation and frustration in relationships. This behavior often stems from a fear of conflict and a desire to avoid "inner" discomfort, which is rooted in early childhood experiences with emotionally rejecting caregivers. The goal is to help individuals recognize and explore their false agreeableness, addressing the illusion of connection and the fe...
6 Juni 202424min
Why Do You Feel So Alone in Your Relationship?
Alone While Together - Understanding Obstructions to Communication In this episode I am challenging you to imagine how effective communication begins with the ability to tolerate frustration and delay gratification. Obstructions to communication often arise from low frustration tolerance and poor impulse control. This can lead to impulsive actions and hinder genuine understanding. Slowing down and reflecting, which I demonstrated is not easy, enables clearer expression and deeper connec...
22 Maj 202417min
Improving Life & Relationships: Exploring Psychotherapy's Benefits
Improving Life & Relationships Today we explore just one way psychodynamic psychotherapy enhances quality of life and relationships. I explore how the psychodynamic process helps individuals understand and work through unresolved anger and trauma. The therapeutic process is tailored to each person's unique needs and circumstances. From the perspective of this one approach, the goal is to break the cycle of projection and introjection, where past trauma is projected onto ...
15 Maj 202425min
I Got Scammed! An Exploration into How This May Have Happened
In this conversation, "I got scammed!" we explore the concept of grandiosity in narcissism. I discuss how grandiosity manifests in narcissistic individuals and the overlooked aspect of intolerable suffering. I illustrate how intolerable suffering plays out in the case of someone who was scammed. We look closely at the connection between grandiosity and the timeshare scam, highlighting the rejection of anything good and the delusional structure of the grandiose sense of self. The c...
8 Maj 202417min
