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Ep 689:  Dive into the world of hot spicy monster romance with Ruan Willow and special guest Cassandra Medcalf, a talented author and audiobook narrator. In this episode, they explore the intricacies of writing romance, the allure of monsters, and the creative process behind bringing characters to life. Cassandra reads an excerpt from "The Kraken's Castaway".  Her book is a cozy yet steamy monster romance that intertwines with Greek mythology and explores themes of love, vulnerability, and acceptance. Discover how Cassandra's characters navigate the challenges of their unique worlds in "Milking with the Minotaur", including a human mother and her Minotaur son, and how their intertwined fates lead to unexpected connections.  Ruan and Cassandra discuss the importance of representation in romance, the evolution of indie publishing, and the joy of creating stories that resonate with readers. This episode highlights the beauty of storytelling and the importance of community in the creative process. Whether you're a fan of romance, fantasy, or simply love a good story, listen and enjoy! Key Highlights: • Cassandra's journey as a romance author and audiobook narrator • Insights into the world of monster romance and its appeal • The creative process behind "Milking with a Minotaur" and its connection to Greek mythology • The importance of representation and diversity in storytelling • The evolving landscape of indie publishing and the power of community **Want to support Cassandra's Kickstarter for Milking with a Minotaur?** Check out the link below for more information! Estimated Timeline:  00:00:00 - Welcome and Introduction 00:01:45 - Meet Cassandra Metcalfe 00:04:30 - Excerpt Reading from "The Kraken 's Castaway" 00:10:15 - The Appeal of Monster Romance 00:15:00 - Writing and Narrating: A Dual Journey 00:20:00 - Representation in Romance 00:25:00 - Indie Publishing Insights 00:30:00 - Closing Thoughts and Support Links Connect with Cassandra: http://cassandramedcalf.com/ Kickstarter: Milking with a Minotaur Topics: Narration Indie Authors Writing Process Character Development Romance Tropes Spicy Storytelling Creative Community Kickstarter Sexual Expression Monster Romance Books: (affiliate links) The Kraken's Castaway https://amzn.to/3M2BD5i Bride of the Kraken: An MFFM Dark Monster Romance https://amzn.to/4oFRpSj Milking the Minotaur, coming soon! https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/892606232/milking-with-the-minotaur-a-minotaur-romance-prequel?ref=bf2nxu Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

14 Nov 1h 31min

Ep 687: Tune in for a fantasy immersion experience... Fantasies are yours alone, and that's exactly how they should be. Explore the deeply personal nature of our inner worlds in this episode, reminding us that what happens in our imagination requires no permission from anyone. Ruan makes it clear that fantasies—even unconventional or dark ones—are harmless mental experiences that belong entirely to you. Throughout the episode, Willow emphasizes pleasure as a birthright. (Because really, who gets to decide what brings you joy?) She guides listeners to resist shame and guilt, recognizing that these mental scenarios can be revisited, changed, or completely abandoned whenever you choose. But here's the key distinction she draws: while fantasies need no consent, real-life activities absolutely do. How often do we forget that our imagination can be a legitimate form of self care? The episode frames mental pleasure-seeking as both valid relaxation and personal wellness. Willow encourages embracing what feels good without judgment, essentially giving permission to explore your own mind freely. It's about claiming your inner space, about recognizing that your thoughts are truly your own domain. **Ready to reclaim your imagination?** Tune in to discover why your fantasy life deserves zero apologies and why you deserve emotional release that celebrates your self worth. Estimated Timeline:  00:00:00 - Welcome to Ruan Willow Podcast 00:02:08 - Relaxation and Fantasy Preparation Guide 00:03:41 - Creating Intimate Fantasy and Connection 00:05:06 - Intimate Physical Connection and Arousal 00:07:36 - Intimate Sensory Experience and Fantasy 00:08:41 - Intimate Physical Connection, intimacy, sexuality 00:10:21 - Multiple Orgasms and Pleasure Building 00:11:33 - Using Pleasure Toys Together 00:12:42 - Fantasies, Pleasure, and Consent 00:14:48 - Embrace Your Right to Daily Pleasure 00:15:21 - Pleasure is Your Birthright, self help and relationships Beach House Views Preorder: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/beachhouseviewsbook Preorder the signed paperback and get swag! https://www.thewellreddamsel.com/product/-pre-order-power-plays-signed-copy-paperback-/D3V7GJLZAUS4W7XOQZID5GGQ Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

11 Nov 17min

Ep 686: You've heard about taking hormones, the dangers, the nice juicy bump to libido, but what it there's more to it than just that? Should You Take Testosterone or Estrogen? Find out from Dr Nayan Patel, a clinical pharmacist, & educator. Is it bad to take hormones? Beyond Bad Hormones: Why Bioidentical Therapy and Lifestyle Matter More Than You Think for not only libido and healthy sex organs, but brain health, heart health, AND for bone health. Sounds like the fountain of youth for healthy, happy longevity. What if it's a piece of the puzzle? What if the pharmaceutical industry's lack of profit incentive has left a massive gap in modern wellness? Dr. Nayan Patel, author of "The Glutathione Revolution," reveals why hormone replacement therapy got such a bad reputation in the first place. (Spoiler: it's all about synthetic versus bioidentical hormones.) Here's the thing—early hormone studies showed adverse effects in only two percent of participants, but pharmaceutical companies never bothered studying bioidentical human hormones because the profit potential was too limited. That decision continues to impact millions of people today. Dr. Patel, "The bulk of the solution is in your own hand." Interestingly, Dr. Patel breaks down hormone health using a pyramid model where *stress management* accounts for 40% of solutions, diet and insulin management comprises 30%, thyroid function 10%, and sex hormones only 10%. Most practitioners miss the fundamental issues at the pyramid's foundation, focusing instead on prescribing hormones without addressing underlying stress and dietary behaviors. In fact, a nine-year French study of 3,100 women demonstrated that balanced hormone replacement therapy can reduce breast cancer risk below that of women with no risk factors. As we've doubled our lifespan beyond our biological design for procreation, proper hormonal health becomes essential to enjoying this extended life. Key Takeaways: • **The hormone crisis wasn't about hormones themselves, but outdated synthetic formulations** — poor HRT outcomes stemmed from non-bioidentical hormones, not inherent hormone harm, making modern bioidentical approaches fundamentally different • **Hormones rank lower than lifestyle factors in treatment hierarchy** — stress management and nutrition are more foundational to health than hormone supplementation, making them the true priorities • **Hormonal optimization requires holistic integration, not just prescriptions** — effective treatment demands individualized approaches combining emotional connection, gratitude practices, and self-care alongside any hormonal intervention Connect with Dr. Patel: http://aurowellness.com/ Book: The Glutathione Revolution (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/3LpgNgt Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

7 Nov 58min

Ep 684: Servicing the Handyman, A Leisurely Working Retiree, an erotic fiction excerpt from novella 4 in the Servicing the Work Men, My Filthy Hotwife Adventures.   Laney and John have had their marital ups and downs, but ever since they started to indulge in the hotwife way of life, their bedroom life has been set on fire. Both loving the spicy adventures they are embarking on; they are open to new experiences. Marvin is a leisurely working retiree who has done many small handyman jobs for them around the house. Laney's had her hungry eyes on him with a smoldering burning blaze of want that has grown steadfast over time. She can only hope that John will agree and set up the framework for a hot rendezvous. When Marvin, the leisurely working retiree, arrives for his work for the day, Laney is enjoying a swim, in a bikini top only. Things escalate quickly when John sets the stage, but Laney is on her own for navigating her hook up with Marvin because John is eyeballs deep in work. That only fuels Laney's fire, and when she shows Marvin what needs to be worked on in their master bedroom closet, Laney takes what Marvin freely gives, which is both an orgasmic delight and learning experience for Laney. Maturity is sexy when it comes with so much experience that this silver fox blows Laney's peaks sky high. A few spicy and surprising adjuncts throw the fun into overdrive and Laney's world gets rocked like never before! Enjoy this excerpt from novella 4 in the Servicing the Work Men, My Filthy Hotwife Adventures! BOOKS! Ebook: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/servicingthehandyman Get the full novella in audiobook: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/servicingthehandymanaleisurelyworkingretireeaudiobook Get the full novel of all five novellas: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/servicingtheworkmenherfilthyhotwifeadventures  Get the FULL NOVEL in audiobook: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/servicingtheworkmenherfilthyhotwifeadventuresaudiobook A Hotwife alternative lifestyle erotic romance fiction story, age gap with a dominant male. Get the rest of the fiction entertainment series from erotica author Ruan Willow. Plus, a bonus story Eat Me on My Birthday! Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

4 Nov 29min

Season 5, Episode 683: Happy Halloween! Witches Love Sex, Dark Erotic Fiction, Dark Fantasy: In Scarlet's House, Chapter 5. Enjoy this dark romance excerpt from Ruan's Audiobook In Scarlet's House. Get the full audiobook: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/inscarletshouseaudiobook Book Blurb: Scarlet had become a powerful witch. She also had beauty and brains, but what she was missing was a grand house and some wealth to her name, so she sought George. He blubbered his way through their marriage until he was as annoying as a bug, or an overripe houseguest. That didn't take long. She had plans for him though, big plans. When Scarlet invited Arianna, her secret love, over to her new husband George's mansion, the girl's night she had promised turned out to be quite decadent indeed. It was complete with a much-needed reconnection for the women, a barely clothed muscle clad chef to ogle, and enough servants, with the promise of extra benefits, to satiate even Cleopatra. But it turns out having everything doesn't sit well with a dominant witch, until she's truly satisfied with everyone where she wants them. Tropes: sexuality, dark fantasy fiction excerpt, dark romance fiction, Femdom dark fantasy & sci fi, forced proximity, shrinking and growing woman, magic, HEA, humiliation, degradation, explicit scenes and language, LGTBQ. Other Halloween Erotica/erotic romance by Ruan Willow:  The Arousal Package: Get the book for $0.99 cents at https://payhip.com/b/Jybjs Wicked & Spicy ON SALE THROUGH HALLOWEEN erotic, horror erotica, fantasy spicy romance: Wicked & Spicy on Ruan's site: https://payhip.com/b/sT8iP https://payhip.com/b/n8pNH Halloween erotic fiction, THE FEMDOM COVEN EROTIC ANTHOLOGY: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/thefemdomcoven Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

31 Okt 17min

Episode 682: Open door, NSFW Fiction. Marissa and Humphrey are dressed up in costumes to go on a Halloween haunted hayride and trail, but Humprey has a surprise for his girlfriend. They enjoy all the jump scares and the getting close to each other, cozying up close to get away from the scary monsters! As they progress to the secret spot, Humphrey guides his lover into a dark spot for some sexy fun! This Haunted Hayride Sex Surprise is an Erotic Improv, like storytelling of a sex story around a bonfire. Imagine you are sitting around a warm bonfire in the dark, cool night, but cozying up to the warmth of the fire as you listen to me spin a tale. Back in the day when stories were only verbal, things like storytelling around bonfires would happen. A spooky tale, but with sex in it is what you will get in this Halloween erotic fiction story. I literally created this story right off the top of my head as I recorded it, I didn't have it written...it was live creation! Book Deals:  $0.99 cents books: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ninetyninecentsbookssales Romance Book Blast link (ONLY free on 10/28/2025) https://www.romancebooklovers.com/  John Gives His Wife Hot Adventures (ONLY FREE on 10/28/25) https://mybook.to/johngiveshiswifehotadv The Arousal Package ARC Copy on BookSirens https://booksirens.com/book/EFAMSX6/G9K0WRK  Get the book for $0.99 cents at https://payhip.com/b/Jybjs  Try Audible for $0.99/month for first 3 months at this affiliate link https://amzn.to/4qlR6gE Wicked and Spicy on sale for Halloween on online sellers for ebook and audiobook: A short Halloween Sale $0.99 cents on Spotify and Barnes and Noble $0.99 cents or FREE with subscription It's on sale for $0.99 cents on Chirp ttps://www.chirpbooks.com/audiobooks/wicked-spicy-tales-by-ruan-willow and https://open.spotify.com/show/1GyEDeUbZc0hOnq4O7UDBg ON SALE THROUGH HALLOWEEN erotic, horror erotica, fantasy spicy romance: Wicked & Spicy on Ruan's site: https://payhip.com/b/sT8iP https://payhip.com/b/n8pNH Halloween erotic fiction, THE FEMDOM COVEN EROTIC ANTHOLOGY: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/thefemdomcoven Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

28 Okt 32min

Ep 681: **When Early Retirement Led to Unexpected Career Success in Adult Entertainment** Dante, the CEO & the head of Red Bottom Productions, shares his intriguing and amazing story here! What happens when you retire at 33, get bored, and accidentally stumble into founding a multi-brand entertainment empire? Dante, owner of Red Bottom Productions, shares his fascinating pivot from executive protection services to adult film production in this candid conversation. After selling his business and achieving financial independence, Dante discovered that early retirement wasn't the paradise he expected—social isolation and restlessness led him down an unexpected path. What began as helping friends film OnlyFans content evolved into running his own entertainment company covering various genres and fetishes. Beyond the business journey, Dante opens up about challenging societal taboos around sexuality, the professional standards and extensive consent processes in adult entertainment, and how his industry mirrors Hollywood's casting and production methods. He addresses common misconceptions about performer autonomy and the stark difference between fantasy entertainment and real intimacy. The conversation also explores his current lifestyle philosophy of prioritizing travel and experiences over traditional work structures, especially after a health scare that reinforced the importance of creating memories while healthy. From budgeting tips to breaking down stigmas, this episode offers a surprisingly thoughtful perspective on entrepreneurship, personal freedom, and redefining success. Topics: Introduction to Red Bottom Productions Making Sacrifices to Afford Things Breaking Stigmas Around Adult Entertainment Adult Industry Workers Are Regular People Adult Industry: Choice, Investment, and Reality Filming Preferences vs Fan Reactions Supporting Talent and Building Community  Fifty Shades Changed Everything Industry Testing and Safety Standards Knowing Your Status and Industry Acceptance Finding Red Bottom Productions Online Can't Watch My Own Work Key Takeaways:  • **Financial freedom alone doesn't solve social isolation** - Despite achieving early retirement at 33 through a successful business sale, Dante discovered that having money didn't address his underlying feelings of boredom and social disconnection. • **Adult entertainment production involves extensive professional protocols** - The industry operates with rigorous consent processes and professional standards comparable to mainstream Hollywood productions, contradicting common assumptions about it being informal or exploitative. • **Career pivots can emerge from unexpected opportunities** - Dante's transition from executive protection services to adult entertainment began simply by helping friends film content, demonstrating how major career changes can evolve organically from casual favors rather than deliberate planning. Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

24 Okt 1h 7min

Season 5, Episode 697: Paranormal romance, Witches, witchy romance (she's a horny one, but so is Carson!), it's a fantasy romance, a Halloween erotic fiction with fall vibes. The Arousal Package: A Spicy Romance Open Door NSFW Short story audiobook, by Ruan Willow. Sometimes the best surprises are the ones we almost run from. Carson is infatuated with his mega sexy neighbor, but he's rendered mute and dumb in her presence. He can't seem to muster the guts to ask her out. He needs help. To assist him in the seduction of her, he seeks a session with a seer witch who promises a love connection spell to fix her heartbroken, but failing at love, clients. Carson is desperate for her help, but things jack knife in a whole different direction when he gets more than he expected as the meeting ends. When magic also means pleasure, getting what he came for transforms into something magical! This is a short romance story, a Halloween themed romance fall vibes, a fall themed romance with a strong FMC. An erotic romance fiction short story to enjoy and satisfy your spooky seductive desires. Subscribe for the full story, or buy it here for $0.99 cents: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/thearousalpackage Coming very soon also in audiobook. Try Audible for $0.99/month for first 3 months at this affiliate link https://amzn.to/4qlR6gE Get the full story also by subscribing to my Patreon or Substack (it will be appearing there this week). Other Halloween erotic fiction, The Femdom Coven, get the spicy erotica erotic romance anthology book https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/thefemdomcoven Have a spicy spooky sexy Halloween! Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

21 Okt 17min