Monday Jones, A Dominant BDSM Shamanatrix, Sex Goddess & Worker, Holistic Somatic Practitoner, Coach, & the Culture of Sexuality, Sexual Health, & Society

Writing about Love, Sex, Relationships: Rachel Kramer Bussel, an accomplished erotica author and editor, shares her inspiring journey into the world of erotic writing. Starting in 1999 while in law school, her first published story "Monica and Me" launched a successful career exploring diverse sexual fantasies and desires through short stories, anthologies, and teaching. Bussel highlights the joys of writing erotica fiction, from creative exercises with word limits to collaborating with other authors for varied perspectives and anthologies & fiction books (affiliate links below, podcast may receive commissions, thank you! "The Big Book of Quickies" https://amzn.to/3YL9dB9 Enjoy the excerpt read by Rachel her story in the anthology "Mile High Hotness") She celebrates normalizing diverse sexualities through the genre while lamenting external efforts to restrict its accessibility. The speakers discuss erotica's nuances, challenging perceptions of it being a "lesser" form, which it's not! They emphasize its diversity in exploring fantasies safely, its potential for self-discovery, and the pains authors suffer from some societal attitudes dismissing its literary merits. Writing intimate scenes requires developing characters' emotions & motivations beyond just physical details. Researching unfamiliar experiences brings authenticity, exposing authors and readers to new perspectives. The speakers advocate understanding that personal tastes vary, but skilled writing can engage readers regardless of specific content. Summary cleanvoice ai Rachel Kramer Bussel (rachelkramerbussel.com) is the author of craft guide How to Write Erotica https://amzn.to/4dLcFA4 as well as Lap Dance Lust: A Collection of Erotica Stories https://amzn.to/3X5iV06 She is the editor of over 70 erotica anthologies, including 10 volumes of the Best Women's Erotica of the Year series, The Big Book of Quickies, The Big Book of Orgasms Volumes 1 and 2, Come Again: Sex Toy Erotica, and more. Her anthology Surrender won the National Leather Association Samois Anthology Award and she won the 2021 National Leather Association John Preston Short Fiction Award for her short story "Necessary Roughness" in her anthology Best Bondage Erotica of the Year, Volume 1. Rachel's essays and journalism have been published in The New York Times, The Washington Post, Glamour, Marie Claire, Salon, The Village Voice, and many other publications. Follow her @raquelita on X  @rachelkramerbussel on Instagram. Website https://rachelkramerbussel.com/ Substack newsletter https://rachelkramerbussel.substack.com/ Twitter/X https://x.com/raquelita Instagram https://www.instagram.com/rachelkramerbussel/ TikTok  https://www.tiktok.com/@rachelkramerbussel Ruan's books & audiobooks http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

23 Aug 202458min

Episode 499: Head in the Woods, Forest Magic, The Strangers Hookup, an erotica, erotic romance fiction short story for entertainment, erotic arts purposes, celebrating and enjoying sexuality, and relationships, plus taking self care time. Take it baby, it's yours! Make sure you come today!   The story in a nutshell: A common male fantasy of primal horny sex in the woods, complete with a surprise hookup with a female cock worshiping partner.  Logan gets his ultimate fantasy of bumping into a sexy stranger, Meredith, in the woods who is an athletic friendly woman who loves sex. He is elated when she comes on to him. She steps up her game even more when she drops to the forest floor for some sensual cock worshipping. All this hotness explodes before they both launch into juicy big O's from their spicy spontaneous union. How does this stranger meetup start? Meredith has spent the afternoon playing tennis and was walking home on the walking path. She spied something in the woods--someone moving in an odd way. She entered the forest with trepidation, but her curiosity propelled her on and came upon Logan. They met face to face and found each other intriguing. They decide to hike together. Things turn spicy when Meredith's libido erupts, and she gets bold. Ruan's books and audiobooks: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Wicked & Spicy Tales: Four short stories of erotic paranormal magic and erotic horror, eerie Twilight Zone-ish... not your typical Ruan Willow book as these stories are mystical, devious, and explore the darker side. These stories are not HEA, but instead are wicked and spicy. Audiobook: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/wickedandspicytalesaudiobook in Ebook and paperback: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/wickedandspicytales Hotwife book: An alternative lifestyle book of wife sharing called Servicing the Dryer Repairman, Laney Gives a Tip https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/servicingthedryerrepairman Podcast Merch! Wear Oh F*ck Yeah! Get Oh F*ck Yeah Podcast Merch T-shirts, tank tops, long sleeve shirts, mugs! Wear it sassy and hot! Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may receive a commission at no extra cost to you. Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

20 Aug 202445min

Dr. Joel Pash, an expert in penile enlargement procedures, discusses his work at The Upsize Clinic using a more natural process using dermal fillers to safely and reversibly increase penis girth. He compares the growing acceptance of these procedures to breast augmentation for women. The fillers are made of hyaluronic acid and typically last around 2 years before needing a refill. Doctor Pash shares insights into patient motivations, comparing it to getting interested in getting more tattoos. He discussed relevance of augmentation in men's mental health, sexual health, and relationships. While not directly impacting sensation, the procedures can indirectly enhance sensation for patients and partners. He explains his journey into this field after initial skepticism. The speakers discuss treating porn stars and those interested in OnlyFans, describing the injection process and how it can address issues like Peyronie's disease. They emphasize that while surgical implants carry risks, injectable fillers are a safer option with easier treatment of complications. Various penis enlargement methods like injections, tissue expansion, and weight hanging are discussed, noting potential risks and the importance of consulting medical professionals. The use of procedures like Botox for treating erectile dysfunction in older men is also covered. We're never too old for sex! Dr. Pash shares amusing stories, highlighting the sometimes comical situations he encounters while emphasizing the typically routine nature of the procedure. Find out more http://www.upsizematters.com/ https://twitter.com/UpsizeClinic https://www.instagram.com/upsizeclinic/ https://www.tiktok.com/@upsizeclinic https://www.youtube.com/@upsizeclinic Key Lessons  The growing acceptance and safety of non-surgical procedures, such as dermal fillers, to increase penis girth. The use of Botox and other treatments for erectile dysfunction, even in older men. The importance of safety and consulting medical professionals before pursuing any enhancement procedures. What to watch out for and be aware of in hacks and enlargement procedures in penile enlargement. Get the education to be safe and mindful of your health. Get Dr. Pash's men's health tips on this topic. Ruan's books and audiobooks of erotica and erotic romance: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Wicked & Spicy Tales in ebook, paperback, and audiobook https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/wickedandspicytales On Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/1GyEDeUbZc0hOnq4O7UDBg Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

16 Aug 202456min

Episode 494: Teasing Her Swollen Bean Erotic Fiction Short Story+Ruan Shares Secrets of Making Women Climax! Josie and Mason, a heterosexual couple who just moved in together, both had a long day & planned a fuck sex session, but Josie fell asleep before Mason got upstairs. When she wakes early, she's tempted to wake him for sex, but opts for playing with her clit sucker toy next to him in bed instead--because he's sleeping so peacefully. When he wakes to her moans, the flirty teasing sexy fun erupts as he enjoys teasing her clit with the toy. Her arousal peaks as they continue to flirt in bed, and their passion ignites! Mason knows just how to get her hot with clit teasing, and it launches her, and him into the juiciest satisfying satiating, and wonderfully gratifying mutual big giant O's! Her in the multiple! Then stay tuned in for after the story as Ruan shares how to make a woman climax, and how to make her cum using clit teasing! There are so many ways! Clit teasing is edging that intensifies female orgasms. These toys below are her favorites for such wonderful sexy times! Also learn why orgasming is your birthright! Ruan speaks out on sexuality, sexual health, & relationships! Sex toys for female pleasure: The Zumio sex toy talked about on the episode (affiliate links, podcaster might earn a commission on sales, thank you!):  https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1558338&u=3101443&m=98393&urllink=&afftrack=  Clit Sucker Rose https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=2204307&u=3101443&m=65394&urllink=&afftrack= 2 in 1 Clit & G spot https://shareasale.com/r.cfm?b=1842951&u=3101443&m=114935&urllink=&afftrack= Ruan's erotica & erotic romance books: Wicked & Spicy, erotic horror fiction, paranormal magical fantasy fiction, sci fi, ebook, paperback, coming in audiobook! https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/wickedandspicytales Work Merger Work Threesome (on sale for $0.99 cents for a limited time)  Work Merger, An Interracial: The Doctor, the Nurse, and the Janitor Makes Three by Ruan Willow | 2940192595602 | Audiobook (Digital) | Barnes & Noble® (barnesandnoble.com) https://www.chirpbooks.com/audiobooks/work-merger-an-interracial-the-doctor-the-nurse-and-the-janitor-makes-three Work Merger, An Interracial: The Doctor, the Nurse, and the Janitor Makes Three | Audiobook on Spotify Ruan's books/audiobooks: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

13 Aug 202436min

Ep 493: Unlocking the Secrets of Relationships to get more fulfilling ones with Todd Baratz.  Ruan Willow welcomes the renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist Todd Baratz. Todd's innovative approach to mental health, sexual health, and relationships has made him a leading figure in his field. He joins the podcast to discuss his new book, "How to Love Somebody Without Losing Your Mind: Forget the Fairy Tale and Get Real," which offers a nuanced portrait of relationships and love. (Get the book! affiliate book link, https://amzn.to/4fwLc7b commissions on sales through the link support this podcast, thank you!) Todd and Ruan dive into the complexities of romantic relationships, communication challenges, and the unrealistic societal expectations that often surround love, intimacy, and sex. We need a more realistic approach to relationships than the one our culture feeds us. Ruan and Todd explore how to navigate these challenges, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, meaningful communication, and the willingness to work through discomfort for the sake of growth and connection. Whether you're looking to improve your current relationship, understand the dynamics of love better, or simply enjoy a thought-provoking conversation, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical advice. Guest Bio: Todd Baratz is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approach to mental health and relationships has established him as a leading figure in his field. In addition to his clinical practice, Baratz is a prolific writer and speaker. His insights are regularly featured in various media outlets, where he discusses topics ranging from romantic relationships to individual mental wellness. He lives in New York City and Los Angeles. Learn more on Instagram under his handle YourDiagnonsense. Connect with Todd:  On Instagram as YourDiagnonsense https://www.instagram.com/yourdiagnonsense https://www.toddsbaratz.com/ Quotes from Todd: "Life is mindfuck at times, especially love and relationships." "No one is a good communicator because communication is a skill, especially when talking about our feelings." "The idea of a forever relationship is appealing, but the reality is relationships now are ending more than ever before." "Sex is a really big deal, especially at the beginning of a relationship." "Learning how to talk about sex is so important, even if it feels excruciatingly uncomfortable." "A relational ending is not a failure; it's a huge learning opportunity and the beginning of a new life." More from Podcast Host Ruan Willow: Get the podcast hosts erotic fiction/ erotic romance books and audiobooks to spice up your love life, your libido and sex life, and your personal intimacy: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

9 Aug 202427min

Ep 492: Hot Spontaneous Car Sex, They Couldn't Wait, an erotic audio, erotic fiction. This couple is hot for each other after their dinner date and their flirty banter raises their turn on level even higher, so much higher that they have to pull the car over for some sexy intimate fun! Enjoy this 2nd person POV narration, where as the listener of this erotic romance fiction narrative, this deliciously yummy erotica, you will experience the heights to ignite your passion for a personal and satisfying good time! Come on in...lend me your ear and let's get hot!  Written and narrated by author, narrator, and podcast host Ruan Willow Get Ruan's books and audiobooks: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Get Ruan's latest audiobook release Hot & Satisfying Quickies! https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/hotandsatisfyingquickiesaudiobook Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

7 Aug 202425min

Ep 491: Blow Job at the restaurant date night narrative, in second person. Immerse yourself in a sexy scenario where a BJ and an orgasm are on the menu! Nothing like orgasms as appetizers! Am I right? Sneaking beneath the tablecloth and getting half naked is not on the short order list, it's on the long agenda! Enjoy this saucy satisfying tale of a quickie oral sex treat, where orgasms abound for both! An erotic improv fictional narrative for self care and entertainment. Sexual health is important to mental health! Erotica straight from Ruan's brain in an impromptu on the spot free flowing narrative she created right off the top of her head! Be sure to marinate in your sexuality everyday! You own it, it belongs to you! Find more of Ruan's work on online book sellers, audiobook sellers, Spotify, Amazon, Audible, Barnes and Noble NOOK, Kobo, Walmart, Storytel, Apple, Google Play, Audiobooks.com, Libro FM, Smashwords, Chirp, and so much more! Find them at this link: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Try Audiobooks on Audible for FREE and get a FREE audiobook, Friends with Benefits (affiliate link, this podcast may receive a commission on signups. Thank you for the support!) https://www.audible.com/pd/B0D885WCH9/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWT-BK-ACX0-404394&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_404394_rh_us Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

6 Aug 202419min

Ep 490: Erotic Literature Featuring Powerful Women with Author John Stone. John Stone, an author of erotic novels, joined the podcast to discuss his writing process, storytelling, and the exploration of themes like powerful women, BDSM, femdom, and cuckolding. He drew parallels between these themes and classic literature, appreciating Ruan Willow's podcast and publisher Fanny Press for supporting erotic authors. Stone shared his motivation for incorporating explicit sexual content, noting that erotica readers often desire higher intensity. He discussed the process of getting his books published and distributed, emphasizing the importance of compelling stories centered on human relationships and conflicts. The conversation delved into Stone's foray into writing cuckold fiction, exploring the genre's appeal in its taboo and naughty nature. He discussed finding the right publisher for erotica and shared plans for upcoming projects, including a book featuring a couple exploring the cuckold lifestyle and a mystery novel about a retired detective investigating cuckold incidents. Stone highlighted the appeal of writing and reading erotic fantasies, particularly those involving workplace or taboo scenarios, while acknowledging the importance of creating engaging storylines and character development. He also shared his approach to writing sex scenes, aiming to build sexual tension and mystery rather than being overly graphic, except where warranted. The discussion touched on the challenges and creative process of writing fiction, including non-linear timelines, unexpected plot developments, and the importance of humor and levity, even in risque subject matter like BDSM. Key Lessons: John Stone, an author of erotic novels, explores themes of powerful women, complex relationships, BDSM, femdom, cuckolding, erotica, erotica romance, and sexuality in his writing. He notes that these themes have long been explored in classic literature, indicating that they are not as niche or taboo as they may seem. He expressed his appreciation for Ruan Willow's podcast and the publisher Fanny Press, which has published his work, suggesting a growing acceptance and interest in this genre. Books (affiliate links, commissions on sales may go to the podcast, thanks for supporting!): The Bull https://amzn.to/4fImSzl The Bulls https://amzn.to/3WQpQZZ Summary and audio processing by Cleanvoice ai Ruan's fiction books discussed in the episode: Spring Break and Stranded with Her Best Friend's Brothers Series Books 1 & 2 https://storyoriginapp.com/collections/d359d515-2209-4a19-baf4-b00b862b56ef Filthy Fiction Audiobook https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/dirtydaydreams Podcast host Ruan Willow's other books and audiobooks: http://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/ Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

2 Aug 20241h 4min