people pleasing, advice session

[video available on Spotify] today i'm going to be talking about a topic that is not a hot topic: marriage. when my parents were growing up, marriage was this sort of fundamental part of being a human. and recent statistics are showing that millennials and gen z are apparently not loving the idea of getting married. when i was younger i really didn't know if i wanted to get married and have kids. part of it could have been that my parents were divorced. but I think a big part of why i had that belief was out of this desire to rebel against the norm. it's fascinating to me that something so foundational like marriage is being so heavily questioned. it's making me wonder whether or not the questioning is rational, or if it's just kind of an act of rebellion against society. because when we're told to do something, sometimes we freak out and decide to rebel against it. so i guess i just want to investigate all of it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

27 Apr 202357min

[video available on Spotify] guess who just got back from coachella? me. if you don't know what coachella is, it’s one of the biggest music festivals in America, where the biggest musicians perform all in one place. there are celebrities everywhere, all doing things that warrant headlines. it's just one of those things that i refuse to miss every year. but today i specifically want to talk about coachella fashion because although music is the number one priority, fashion is a close second. it's undeniably a fashion moment that is recognized by even the largest fashion magazines and brands. and the interesting thing about coachella is that there's sort of no dress code. i think the only rule is you can't be completely nude, but you can be really close and you can still get in. and i feel like this lack of dress code combined with this mass of people all in one place makes it the perfect moment to express yourself with clothing in a really unique way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

23 Apr 20231h 5min

[video available on Spotify] recently, i've felt weird posting pictures of myself on instagram, and i've never felt this feeling before. posting photos of ourselves online is a part of being human at this point. it's so incredibly normal. i think most of us aren't even questioning why we do it. and up until recently, i didn't question it either. but the last few times I've gone to post a photo of myself on instagram, i've felt like a narcissist, and it scared me a little bit. i've been finding myself taking a pause before i post a picture of myself feeling almost uncertain of whether or not it's the right thing to do. and i'm somebody who has a tendency to overthink, so part of me wonders if i'm overthinking the whole thing. but part of me also thinks there's a chance that even though we've normalized posting photos of ourselves, it's still actually a narcissistic behavior. so today, I wanna figure out for myself honestly, whether or not posting photos of yourself online is narcissistic.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

20 Apr 202334min

[video available on Spotify] why do celebrities choose to stay famous? on the surface level, this question seems easy to answer because most of us look at fame as a dream come true. we see fortune, power, attention, praise. we see all of the positives. but yet, right in front of our eyes, we witness the way that fame ruins people's lives. it's safe to say that fame is much more complicated than we think it is on the surface level. as much as there are incredible elements of being famous that are life-changing and full of abundance, there are also sides of it that are so challenging that even all the money and abundance in the world can't heal those wounds at times. and so today i wanna try to answer the question, why do famous people stay famous? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

16 Apr 202347min

[video available on Spotify] i had fomo recently. what is fomo? fomo is the fear of missing out. it's probably not an unfamiliar feeling to you as i assume most people feel fomo at least once in their life. the more expanded definition of fomo is anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on social media. i thought that i was done experiencing fomo. i thought i grew out of fomo. i thought i had evolved past the point of experiencing that feeling, but i was wrong.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

13 Apr 202346min

[video available on Spotify] ever since i discovered the concept of karma, i’ve been obsessed with it. i learned it through my community. it might have been my parents, it might have been my friends, it might have been my teachers, i don't remember. but the moral of the story is ever since i've discovered karma, i have been obsessed with the concept. i’ve been living with karma in mind for pretty much as long as I can remember, and it's been a fundamental rule in my life. but as i'm getting older, i'm becoming more fascinated by these rules that i've been living by. i'm questioning them in a way, but not necessarily in a negative way or even in a super critical way. moreso wondering what more is there to learn about these certain concepts and how accurate are they? i just find the whole thing interesting and satisfying. so today we're gonna be digging into karma. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

9 Apr 202344min

[video available on Spotify] have you been thinking to yourself, everybody has a podcast these days? i think a lot of people are feeling that way. over the past few years, podcasting has become a real thing. when I was younger, the only podcasts i knew of were ones that were for adults that my parents were listening to. they were all very corporate in the sense that they weren't just individuals turning on a microphone and making a podcast kind of indie style. i don't remember podcasting being a thing for anyone under 40 up until the last maybe five years. but it's definitely become a huge source of entertainment for all ages. and I just wanted to analyze this today because I'm so fascinated by the podcasting world and how it's grown over the past few years, and especially how it's entered into the universe of young people. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

6 Apr 202344min

[video available on spotify] today i’m going to be talking about something that i'm obsessed with. in 2023, our identities as human beings are not just confined to our physical being. our identities are now a combination of our online presence and our physical presence. prior to the internet, if you weren't a celebrity, your entire identity was judged based on your physical presence. at this point in time, your online identity and your physical presence equally, in my opinion, shape the way that people perceive you. i've noticed that with the rapid development of social media, there has also been a rapid development of different aesthetics that people align themselves with in a way that goes beyond just lighthearted interests. to me, it feels like people's online aesthetics become almost a lifestyle, almost an obsession, almost a religion in some cases, and this is so fascinating to me. so today we're talking about our collective obsession with having an aesthetic, especially online. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

2 Apr 202346min