Why Boys and Men Are Floundering, According to Relationship Therapist Terry Real
Modern Love14 Maj

Why Boys and Men Are Floundering, According to Relationship Therapist Terry Real

A session with Terry Real, a marriage and family therapist, can get uncomfortable. He’s known to mirror and amplify the emotions of his clients, sometimes cursing and nearly yelling, often in an attempt to get men in touch with the emotions they’re not used to honoring.

Real says men are often pushed to shut off their expression of vulnerability when they’re young as part of the process of becoming a man. That process, he says, can lead to myriad problems in their relationships. He sees it as his job to pull them back into vulnerability and intimacy, reconfiguring their understanding of masculinity in order to build more wholesome and connected families.

In this episode, Real explains why vulnerability is so essential to healthy masculinity and why his work with men feels more urgent than ever. He explains why he thinks our current models of masculinity are broken and what it will take to build new ones.

This episode was inspired by a New York Times Magazine piece, “How I Learned That the Problem in My Marriage Was Me” by Daniel Oppenheimer.

The “Modern Love” podcast team is planning a second episode with Real, focused on fatherhood. He has agreed to give our listeners advice on fatherhood, whether you’re an experienced dad, an expecting dad or otherwise dad-adjacent. For example, maybe you want advice on how to parent in a world filled with so many mixed messages about how men should be or on how to repair a mistake you made as a dad. Maybe there are elements of fatherhood you’re still figuring out or are unsure of. Record your questions as a voice memo and email them to modernlovepodcast@nytimes.com.

Tips for recording: Please avoid recording where there is a lot of background noise. If you are using your smartphone to record your voice memo, please speak into your phone’s built-in microphone from a few inches away. Your recording may not be usable if you use Bluetooth earbuds or if you are too close or too far from the phone. It works best when you tell us your story as if you are speaking to a friend rather than reading it from a written statement. Be as concise as you can, and please listen back to it to make sure the recording is complete. You can find further tips for recording here, and find our submission terms here.

Here’s how to submit a Modern Love essay to The New York Times.

Here’s how to submit a Tiny Love Story.

Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

Avsnitt(407)

Friends Without Benefits | With Taissa Farmiga

Friends Without Benefits | With Taissa Farmiga

Taissa Farmiga reads a story about "friends without benefits" who spend years circling each other without defining their drawn-out, nebulous relationship. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

18 Maj 201617min

A Heart Outrun | With Colin Farrell

A Heart Outrun | With Colin Farrell

Colin Farrell reads the story of man who had given up on love -- until it showed up at his door. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

12 Maj 201623min

A Second Embrace | With Cheryl Strayed

A Second Embrace | With Cheryl Strayed

Cheryl Strayed -- co-host of WBUR's "Dear Sugar" podcast and author of the best-selling memoir "Wild" -- reads a story about taking a second chance on love. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

5 Maj 201618min

I See My Superhero | With Sarah Silverman

I See My Superhero | With Sarah Silverman

Sarah Silverman brings us a story of unconditional love ... with a few conditions. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

27 Apr 201619min

Between The Bars | With Joshua Jackson

Between The Bars | With Joshua Jackson

Joshua Jackson reads a story about life and love after 26 months in Iran's Evin Prison. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

21 Apr 201620min

My First Lesson In Motherhood | With Connie Britton

My First Lesson In Motherhood | With Connie Britton

Connie Britton narrates a story about a new mom and a tiny infant whose young life is checkered with mysteries both big and small. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

14 Apr 201624min

Maddy Just Might Work | With Jennifer Finney Boylan

Maddy Just Might Work | With Jennifer Finney Boylan

Jennifer Finney Boylan -- an accomplished writer, academic and activist -- reads her own essay about coming out as transgender to her two young sons. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

7 Apr 201622min

Broken, Not Bound | With America Ferrera

Broken, Not Bound | With America Ferrera

America Ferrera reads the story of an African aid worker, and an event that drastically shifted her perspective. Unlock full access to New York Times podcasts and explore everything from politics to pop culture. Subscribe today at nytimes.com/podcasts or on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.

31 Mars 201619min

Populärt inom Samhälle & Kultur

podme-dokumentar
en-mork-historia
p3-dokumentar
svenska-fall
nemo-moter-en-van
skaringer-nessvold
creepypodden-med-jack-werner
killradet
flashback-forever
p1-dokumentar
kod-katastrof
rattsfallen
hor-har
vad-blir-det-for-mord
fallen-som-forfoljer
historiska-brott
p3-historia
sanna-berattelser
aftonbladet-daily
rss-sanning-konsekvens