That Feeling of "Always-Behind and Never-Enough"—Here's the Antidote | Ellen Hendriksen

That Feeling of "Always-Behind and Never-Enough"—Here's the Antidote | Ellen Hendriksen

How to beat perfectionism without lowering your standards.

Dr. Ellen Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist who will help you calm your anxiety and be your authentic self. She serves on the faculty at Boston University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders (CARD) and is the author of HOW TO BE ENOUGH: Self-Acceptance for Self-Critics and Perfectionists and HOW TO BE YOURSELF: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety.

In this episode we talk about:

  • The relationship between perfectionism and anxiety
  • The definition of perfectionism–and why the word is actually a misnomer
  • Dr. Hendriksen's own struggles with perfectionism, and how they manifested physically
  • The difference between healthy perfectionism and unhealthy perfectionism
  • Changing your relationship with your inner critic
  • Shifting from rigid rules to flexibility
  • Keeping high standards while making room for mistakes
  • Overcoming procrastination
  • Navigating social comparison
  • And much more

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