202: The Only Plan You Need to Quit Pornography By the End of 2025

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode show notes: This episode is about what happens when a husband has stopped using porn, is trying to do better, but his wife still doesn’t trust him. He says the right things. He tries to be supportive. But she’s triggered, shut down, or angry — and nothing he says seems to help. This is a common part of porn addiction recovery in marriage. Even when the behavior stops, the pain doesn’t go away right away. Wives often carry deep fears after porn use, and their nervous systems stay on high alert. In this episode, listeners will learn why that happens and what to do about it. What This Episode Covers: Why healing from porn addiction takes more than just quitting What happens when a wife feels emotionally unsafe, even if things are improving How betrayal trauma affects her body and reactions What to do (and not do) when she gets triggered Why trust won’t rebuild through words alone — but through consistent action How men can build real emotional safety in the relationship How women can begin to soften once they feel true change over time Real stories of couples rebuilding after porn addiction hurt their marriage

4 Sep 21min

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode show notes: If you’ve stopped watching pornography but your wife still struggles to trust you, you’re not alone — and you’re not broken. One of the hardest parts of porn addiction recovery isn’t just quitting porn… it’s rebuilding safety, connection, and intimacy in your marriage after betrayal. In this episode, we dive deep into why your wife’s walls may still be up even after you’ve started healing from pornography addiction — and why that’s normal. We’ll explore what’s happening underneath her hesitation, what she needs to feel safe again, and how you can rebuild trust without pressuring her or “proving” yourself constantly. You’ll learn: Why wives often stay guarded even after their husband stops watching porn How porn betrayal impacts safety, intimacy, and connection in marriage Why stopping porn isn’t enough to rebuild trust — and what actually creates healing Practical ways to rebuild closeness without shame, pressure, or defensiveness How consistent actions, not promises, restore trust during porn addiction recovery This episode is for you if you’ve ever thought: “I’ve quit porn, why doesn’t she believe me yet?” “I’m working so hard, but she still feels distant.” “How do we heal our marriage after porn addiction and betrayal?” Whether you’re early in your journey of overcoming porn addiction or you’ve been rebuilding for months, this episode will help you: Understand what’s really happening when her walls stay up Learn how to create genuine emotional safety Rebuild connection in your marriage without shortcuts or pressure Heal together as you recover from pornography Porn addiction recovery isn’t just about removing pornography — it’s about restoring trust, intimacy, and safety. If you’ve been working on change but still feel disconnected, this conversation will help you see what’s missing and what to focus on next.

28 Aug 21min

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode notes: If you’ve tried to quit porn but keep slipping back, you know how exhausting the cycle feels—hiding your habits, fighting urges, and carrying the weight of shame. Porn addiction doesn’t just affect you; it impacts your marriage, self-worth, focus, and peace of mind. In this episode, you’ll discover practical tools to overcome pornography and rebuild your life: Why porn urges feel so overpowering—and how to face them without giving in The hidden cycle of porn, shame, and emotional avoidance that keeps men stuck How to build self-control, focus, and freedom with simple mindfulness practices The difference between real recovery vs. just abstinence (and why most men miss this) How to stop using porn to escape stress, boredom, and loneliness Ways to rebuild trust in your relationship through honesty, presence, and integrity Jeremy Lipkowitz—an executive coach, meditation teacher, and former Buddhist monk—knows this struggle firsthand. After years of battling pornography himself, he discovered how mindfulness and meditation can rewire the brain, end the constant cravings, and lead to lasting transformation. Now he coaches high-achieving men around the world to quit porn and live with clarity, freedom, and purpose.   You’ll walk away from this conversation with tools that help you: ✔ Overcome porn addiction urges in real time ✔ Heal the shame that keeps you feeling stuck ✔ Reconnect with your partner and rebuild broken trust ✔ Create a life that makes porn irrelevant   🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned in This Episode: Jeremy's 14 day meditation course (free): https://www.jeremylipkowitz.com/offers/KwDc9gbJ/checkout

21 Aug 58min

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode show notes: If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of porn addiction—telling yourself “this is the last time” only to fall back into old habits—you are not alone. In this episode, we break down one of the most common reasons men stay trapped in pornography: the constant internal pressure to “just be better.” This episode exposes what I call the Pressure Trap—a mindset that fuels shame, increases the risk of porn relapse, and keeps you stuck in silence. You’ll learn how to shift out of performance mode and into what actually works—what I call The Clarity Path. Inside this episode, I’ll walk you through: ✅ Why trying to quit porn with more pressure actually leads to more porn use ✅ How internal shame keeps men stuck in the pornography addiction cycle ✅ Why you don’t have a willpower problem—you have a clarity problem ✅ The 5 essential skills for porn addiction recovery that most men never learn ✅ How to rebuild emotional safety and trust in your marriage after porn ✅ How to break the porn habit loop by meeting the real emotional need ✅ How to stop relying on filters and finally heal from the root cause of porn addiction ✅ The difference between “staying clean” and actually being free from porn This is not another episode about filters or surface-level tips. It’s about understanding the deeper emotional patterns behind your porn urges and building the skills that lead to lasting freedom from pornography.

14 Aug 20min

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Podcast Description: Is your relationship on the brink because of your husband's porn use? If you've said, “If he watches porn again, I’m done” — or you’re a husband who’s trying hard to stop watching porn but keep relapsing — this episode is for you. So many couples are stuck in the cycle of porn addiction, where trust is shattered and safety feels impossible. The husband feels shame and pressure to never mess up again. The wife feels exhausted and betrayed. And despite trying everything — accountability partners, internet filters, even cold showers — the porn habits keep coming back. In this episode, I reveal why most porn recovery methods fail — and why porn relapses aren’t just random slip-ups. They're the last domino in a chain of emotional stress, disconnection, and unresolved shame. You’ll learn: Why your husband’s porn relapse isn’t the root problem — and what is How to stop relying on willpower and start healing from the root cause of porn use What it actually means to “do the real work” to stop watching pornography for good How couples can rebuild trust after porn betrayal — without compromising safety or standards What wives can look for to know if he’s genuinely changing, not just staying “clean” How to set boundaries around the work being done — not just whether he’s “acting out” Whether you’re a man trying to overcome porn addiction or a wife who feels like she can’t stay if he watches porn again, this episode will give you the clarity, tools, and hope to move forward the right way.

7 Aug 16min

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Podcast Description: In this episode, we talk about one of the most important parts of real porn addiction healing—how to rebuild emotional security after porn use has hurt your relationship. Even if you've stopped watching, your wife might still feel unsafe. That’s because quitting porn is only part of the process. Real freedom from porn means learning how to talk about the pain it caused in the right way. You’ll learn one simple tool that helps you fix the damage from pornography addiction. It’s not about being perfect or never messing up. It’s about knowing how to talk in a way that brings real healing from pornography. If you’ve had a porn relapse, feel like your wife is still upset, or want to stop feeling stuck, this episode will help. We’ll show you how porn use makes trust hard—and how to bring back connection and safety with one kind of conversation. This episode will help you take another step toward ending porn addiction and becoming the man you want to be. It’s not just about stopping a behavior. It’s about real change, strong connection, and lasting freedom from porn.

31 Juli 24min

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Podcast Description: If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I keep going back to porn even when I don’t want to?” — this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, we’re uncovering why so many men sabotage their progress when trying to quit porn, even when they’re motivated, committed, and know what’s at stake. Whether you're struggling with porn addiction, trying to break the habit of watching porn, or working to rebuild trust after betrayal, this episode dives into the root of why you keep slipping—and how to stop. You’ll learn: Why you keep relapsing during porn recovery even when you really want to change The emotional and psychological patterns that lead to self-sabotage during addiction recovery What’s actually happening when you feel triggered, overwhelmed, or disconnected—and how that leads back to porn How to work through the internal stories like “I’m never going to change” or “This is just who I am” How men use porn as a way to escape feelings like shame, rejection, failure, and not being enough Why many men unintentionally destroy the intimacy and trust they’re trying to rebuild with their wives The real reason your past efforts to quit pornography haven’t worked—and what to do differently Tools that actually work to build lasting freedom from porn, heal your marriage, and create long-term change How to stop numbing, hiding, and isolating when you're in emotional pain Real client stories of men who broke free from long-term porn habits, repaired emotional connection, and finally felt proud of who they were becoming If you’ve tried porn blockers, accountability groups, or even therapy—but still feel like something deeper is keeping you stuck—this episode will help you identify the real reason for your porn struggles and finally give you a clear path forward. This is for men who are serious about: How to quit watching porn How to stop masturbating to porn How to recover after cheating or lying about porn use How to rebuild trust after porn addiction in marriage How to stop watching porn without white-knuckling How to heal shame after pornography use How to fix your relationship after betrayal What to do when your wife doesn’t feel safe after porn How to build emotional safety in marriage And most of all—how to become the man you want to be This episode offers a proven path to breaking free from porn, getting unstuck, and healing your relationship—from the inside out.

24 Juli 22min

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome pornography use? Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/    Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes? Email me here:  sam@healingcouples.org   Episode Description: Is she still scared he’s watching porn—even if he says he’s not? And he feels discouraged hoping that his good efforts might not be helping? You’re not alone. In this episode, Sam Tielemans, licensed therapist and porn recovery expert, explains why wives still fear their husband is using pornography… and what actually rebuilds trust. You’ll learn why porn urges come back in moments of stress, loneliness, disconnection, or emotional overwhelm—and how to resolve those urges by targeting the real root. Whether you’re trying to stop watching porn, heal after pornography betrayal, or rebuild your marriage after porn addiction, this episode gives you a clear, proven framework to: Understand why men turn to porn Stop porn urges by addressing emotional triggers Rebuild trust in marriage after pornography Heal betrayal trauma and restore connection Know what to do when she fears he’s still using porn This is for couples healing from porn addiction, porn use in marriage, secret pornography habits, or emotional damage caused by porn. Learn how to stop pornography at the root—and finally feel safe and connected again.

17 Juli 20min