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The beautiful Big Money Stylist ladies discuss how to embrace your perceived flaws and turn them into strengths. For Big Money Stylist, we go over the following formula each month: Week #1: Power Week #2: Production Week #3: Profit Week #4: Protection In This Week’s Episode…..POWER Point #1: The Bull, the Goat, and the Hermit Danielle: I’m stubborn, I’m an over-thinker, I don’t like details, I’m a dreamer, I want to live in the moment, and I’ve always felt like I was socially awkward. Coach Val: I’m super creative, it’s hard for me to understand systems, I suck at math, and have zero reflexes. Coach Ani: I’m a super introvert who retreats very quickly, I shut people out, I want to do everything on my own, and I don’t accept help easily. QUESTION What do you view as your flaws?   Point #2: Own Who You Are Coach Val: I feel like I’m off in a land where I can’t be put in a box. I’ve always viewed it as “I’m wrong and weird.” I’m now coming into owning and channeling my artistry, and not looking at it anymore as “I’m flawed.” Danielle: When you start owning who you are, it’s almost infectious. If you’re cool with yourself, with your flaws, people are cool with that. People look at you and say “I like that she just doesn’t care.” Coach Ani: If people ask me if they can help, my first response is going to be no, I’m good, I’ve got it. I see this as a strength because I have been able to build so much inside of BMS.  QUESTION What have you begun owning about yourself?   Point #3: Be Your Best Self Danielle: You want to have control and do it all, but you can’t be everything for every person. In our industry, you can be a great artist but that doesn’t mean you are a great fit for everyone. Everyone brings their best element, their own style. People will relate to different people. There isn’t anyone who can be you, but everybody as their best selves adds another element. QUESTION What is one of your strengths?   Point #4: No End Game Danielle: It’s our nature to not give ourselves enough credit for what we’ve gone through. We are always a work in progress. Coach Val: If you have this thought of I’m done learning, you might not ever discover other areas of your life that you really love. Coach Ani: When it comes to you, there’s no end game. There will never come a point when you think ah, I nailed that part of me, I guess I’m done growing. QUESTION What do you love about learning and growing?   Point #5:  It’s On You Coach Ani:  It’s making yourself knowledgeable inside your business and learning whatever you need to know in order to be self-reliant. Coach Val: I think you have longevity when you figure things out. Danielle: You learn by doing. If you don’t learn how to do the basics of your business, you are always going to rely on someone else to make your business successful instead of owning that you are in charge of actually making your business successful. QUESTION What basics do you need to learn? Quote of the Week: “Our curse is our blessing.  As artists, we are creative and tell ourselves we can’t be this person or that person –  I’m not a numbers person, I’m not business savvy, I’m just in it for the art. If you’re just in it for the art, that’s great, but you’re going to stay broke as fuck if you don’t learn the basics to become self-reliant.” –Danielle White “If you want to grow, you can’t stay doing what you’re doing. “I can’t, but what if I could? What if I just tried this?”  If you are saying you can’t just do something that will make you just try it and see what happens, When you get different results, I guarantee you are want to keep going.” –Valerie Plunk “I feel that once you have accepted what you consider to be your flaws as part of who you are –  once you own your shit and are comfortable with okay, I’m weird – it’s almost easier to just let go of the stories you’ve associated yourself with and move forward.” –Anianne Rivera

28 Aug 201836min

Coach Ani leads Danielle and Coach Val in a conversation of Protection in this week’s episode, specifically on the topic of Course Correction via the ofttimes misunderstood Art of Collision. For Big Money Stylist, we go over the following formula each month: Week #1: Power Week #2: Production Week #3: Profit Week #4: Protection In This Week’s Episode…..PROTECTION Point #1: What is Course Correction? Danielle: Course correction is the willingness to take feedback, learn and grow from it, and then add as much value as you possibly can so you are playing to your full potential. Coach Val: You always want to evaluate where you currently are and look at what is and isn’t working, making changes based off of feedback so you can continue to grow. QUESTION How do you respond to course correction?   Point #2: Collision Coach Ani: A lot of course corrections generally require some sort of collision, not in the sense of a giant fight but more like hard conversations. Coach Val: Something may have worked two years ago but if it’s not currently working, it’s time to have a direct conversation about it, which some people are not willing to have. QUESTION How has your perception of what a collision looks like been altered by this conversation?   Point #3: ABC’s of Hard Conversations Coach Val: Before I have a hard conversation, I want to make sure it’s based on facts, not feelings, and I want the individual to know I’m coming from a place of love. Danielle: I call team meetings once a month, and I also Voice Vomit on the group text thread as things come up that need to be addressed right away. QUESTION Who do you need to have a hard conversation with that you’ve been putting off?   Point #4: End Results Never End Danielle: A lot of people get stuck in their plan and then suffer by committing to a plan that’s not going to give them the results they ultimately want. Coach Ani: Don’t focus so much on how to get there, but rather focus on the end results you want. Turns out, the end results keep changing because you reach goal upon goal upon goal. QUESTION How is your current plan serving you? Is it time for a change?   Point #5:  Changing Plans Coach Val: Be open inside of those hard conversations because they can lead you to places that turn out to be better than what you originally envisioned for yourself. Danielle: There are times we have to experience different things in our life to understand that it’s something we don’t want. Even though being a salon owner wasn’t in my game plan, I feel it’s something I hadto experience. QUESTION What plans changed for you that you had your heart set on, and in the end has turned out better than you could have ever imagined? Quote of the Week: “You are the only one in charge of getting what you want. If you’re in a place of life where you’re not happy, you are the one who created that path or your own limited story. Find out where you need to course correct and protect what you’re building while continuing to grow forward.” –Danielle White People have turning points in their career where tough conversations are necessary in order to continue growing and progressing. Having direct, honest, and clear conversations helps everyone move forward and protects what has already been built.” –Valerie Plunk “Collision is merely a conversation. There’s no way to move forward without having those seemingly hard conversations. And remember, sometimes it takes having more than just one.” –Anianne Rivera

21 Aug 201843min

Coach Ani and Coach Val, lead trainers for BMS and NBR, respectively, open up and get vulnerable in this week’s conversation around the topic of Profit, reminding the listeners that there’s so much more to Profit than dollars and cents. For Big Money Stylist, we go over the following formula each month: Week #1: Power Week #2: Production Week #3: Profit Week #4: Protection In This Week’s Episode…..PROFIT Point #1: Growth Junkies Coach Val: We refer to ourselves as growth junkies. Once you do something and you’re able to achieve it, you become addicted to that. It’s really fulfilling. You just want to keep pushing yourself forward, and you don’t want to stay stagnant anymore. If you’re trying to fill a void, I feel that way is not as sustainable as far as growth and seeing a profit goes. If you’re doing it because you want to grow, you want to be better, and you want to better your life and other people’s lives, there’s longevity in that. QUESTION What area of your life have you experienced the most growth in the past three months? Point #2: Walk Your Path Coach Ani: Realistically, there’s a path you want to head down that is the right path for you. When you’re making decisions that aren’t for the right reasons, and take your eye off the prize and focus on something else, you start making the wrong decisions. At some point, you will find yourself on a parallel path, but that’s going to veer you all the way to the right and take you somewhere you don’t even want to be. Coach Val: The profit has to be worth it for you, and you have to be doing it for the right reasons in order for you to have longevity with it. Otherwise, you just burn out and become resentful. If I’m doing things too long or for the wrong reasons, and make it all about the money, I end up getting resentful and my work isn’t where it should be. QUESTION Why are you an Artist?   Point #3: What Are Your Boundaries? Coach Ani: Every time I hit a new state – a new level of me – as we always say, the previous version of you is dead and you’re then born to become something else. So every time I become this new person, I ask myself, “What does this new version of me want? What is she happy or unhappy with? What are the non-negotiables again? Where is it that you truly want to go?” I have to rethink and take a new look at my path. Coach Val: I think it’s important that we constantly recheck and reevaluate. As you grow, change, and evolve, your boundaries have to change and evolve. We always need to be evaluating what we’re doing and what’s currently working. And when it’s not working, don’t be afraid to reel it back in and make some shifts. QUESTION When is the last time you evaluated your life and the direction you’re heading?   Point #4: Journey of Self Discovery Coach Ani: If you’re already producing and working a fuck ton and you’re still unhappy, you need to reevaluate and ask yourself why you’re so unhappy. If you’re working all the time and you think you’re living your purpose, and you’re still miserable, you need to look inward and figure out why you’re so freaking unhappy all the time.  At that point, maybe you’re not actually living your purpose even though you think you are, or maybe you’ve gone a little bit off the road from what you should actually be doing. With BMS, even though I love it, I’m not as happy as I could be. I’m in the mode of, “What do I need to reel in? What needs to happen so I don’t lose my shit again?” And inside of that, I’m reevaluating myself as a human. QUESTION What is your Purpose?   Point #5:  Growth Time Warp Coach Val: We’re in a time warp here where we’re learning and growing so fast that we don’t even realize it until we are around people we haven’t seen for a while. I didn’t use to understand it when Garrett would say the old version of me had died and has been reborn. I used to think that was so dramatic. But now I understand that that person or version of me doesn’t exist anymore. Coach Ani: I had a conversation with one of the younger Warrior’s from Utah who has been here working inside of Warrior for the past year. He recently went back home to hang out with some of his friends and said the entire time he was with them, he just wanted to leave because he no longer had anything in common with them. And in that moment, he realized that he was someone completely different. QUESTION What has been your experience with this warp speed growth? Quote of the Week: “If anything, I want this podcast to serve as a reminder to stylists that when something’s not working, you have the power to change it. Evaluate what is not working and ask yourself what you can do to fix it. You are in control of your life, and you’re the one that can change that. If at the end of the day I’m getting paid all of this money, but I’m not seeing my family or spending any time enjoying moments with them, it’s all for nothing, and I refuse to do that.” –Valerie Plunk “At the end of the day, if you have a hole inside of you – and everybody does – and you’re trying to fill it with something that isn’t actually sustainable, or is not actually what you want, you’re never going to be full again. At the end of the day, take a look at your life and ask yourself what is truly going to make you happy.” –Anianne Rivera

14 Aug 201835min

Coach Val and Coach Ani highlight the topic of Production in this week’s episode of the Big Money Stylist podcast. For Big Money Stylist, we go over the following formula each month: Week #1: Power Week #2: Production Week #3: Profit Week #4: Protection In This Week’s Episode…..PRODUCTION Point #1: It Works if You Do Coach Val: Production is doing the actual work. The program’s working, the problem is, you’re not working. Coach Ani: So many students come into the program all hyped up and excited to make a lot of money. They get so amped up, it’s almost like a drug. After they leave, they say the program’s not working. The question becomes, are they doing the work? We’ve had so many artists go through our program and get such amazing results that you can no longer say this program doesn’t work QUESTION Where in your life do you throw in the towel before doing the work required? Point #2: BMS – The Business of Art Coach Val:  For most artists, what we do inside of BMS is so foreign. My brain doesn’t naturally go in the direction of how we teach things. NBR and color, on the other hand, are so natural for me. But the actual business side is so different. That’s why we have Mastermind, to keep you on track, to hold you accountable, and to keep that fire lit under your ass. Ani is so good at that and teaches the students in a systematized way. It’s an awesome way to hold you accountable where the system is all laid out for you, so if you start to slide off, you know where to come back. It’s a way to keep propelling yourself forward so you can continue your growth. QUESTION How are you doing with the business side of being an artist? Point #3: 30-Day Sprint Coach Ani: We now have what we call the 30-Day Sprint, and inside of that, we actually have five weeks of training. We have one week of the pre-30 days, and then the actual 30-Day Sprint. I have revamped the whole thing to where I’m requiring the entire network of 265 artists to participate in it. We realized this was so desperately needed when the artists would come into the network and not remember what do to, which kicked them into the overwhelm mode. When artists get to that place, many feel like failures. QUESTION What has been your experience of the 30-Day Sprint? Point #4: Power in Your Body Coach Val: Power is my least favorite topic because it’s the hardest one for me, and BODY is the one area that I tend to let slide because I take care of everyone else and put myself last. As I’ve gotten back into eating super healthy and working out consistently, I’ve noticed a big difference in myself. Power in your body has a trickle effect and is the foundation of everything else.  Coach Ani: Taking care of your body plays a huge role in your mentality. When I moved to California nine months ago, I stopped drinking soda and stopped eating fast food. Keeping up with your body and taking care of yourself is vital for us as artists because we’re standing and moving for twelve hours a day, as well as having to hold conversations with clients. Ours is not the easiest of jobs, and it is essential for us to take care of our bodies. QUESTION What one thing can you add to your life today to start taking better care of your body? Point #5: Tipping the Scales Coach Ani: When people hear the term profit, the very first thing that enters their mind is money. Everything’s about money to everyone. What we’ve seen inside the network, however, are artists making a shit ton of money, and inside of that, we’ve seen that although they’re making a ton of money, they have no Balance and their life is a shit show. Coach Val: I feel like you’re always tipping the scale. You’re wanting to go to work and make a profit, and as you’re doing that, your balance is going out of whack because you’re not taking time for yourself, your spouse, or your children. You have to reel yourself back in and ask yourself if its worth it. You get your balance back by putting up your boundaries and going from there. But I feel like it’s this constant tipping of the scales where rarely do you find yourself in that sweet spot. QUESTION How are you doing in the area of Balance? Quote of the Week: “What is it that you’re missing or lacking in your life? What can you do about it? I guarantee you can do something about it. Once you do, you will get different results, and once you get those, you will become addicted and want to keep moving forward, which is the point.” –Valerie Plunk “We’re around a lot of energy every day and it’s hard not to soak it all in. To help me get rid of it, journaling’s been my favorite. It helps me get my feelings out instead of burying them deeper and deeper.” –Anianne Rivera

7 Aug 201835min

Known for their stoic demeanor, the three dynamic ladies are back this week discussing the topic of vulnerability, which they agree hasn't always been their strong suit. In this episode, Danielle, Val, and Ani share personal stories about what led them to realize that vulnerability is actually a strength, not a weakness. For Big Money Stylist, we go over the following formula each month: Week #1: Power Week #2: Production Week #3: Profit Week #4: Protection In This Week's Episode.....POWER Point #1: Plastic Barbies Danielle: My husband, Garrett, is the more emotional one who likes to talk about his feelings. He would always tell me I’m like this plastic Barbie or a robot because I didn't want to share my feelings. I didn’t see that in me, and I guess I came across as unapproachable. Coach Val: When I was little, my mom would say to me, "You never cry!" I was feeling what my sister was feeling, who was a crying mess, but it just didn't come out in tears. It just doesn’t manifest in me the same way it does with everyone, but I still feel the same way. [mks_pullquote align="left" width="300" size="24" bg_color="#000000" txt_color="#ffffff"]QUESTION[/mks_pullquote] How are you like Danielle and Val? How are you different? Point #2: Sharing Stories Creates Connection Danielle: The first time I started sharing little pieces of my story inside of the small classes we were doing, it was like an outer body experience where I was them, listening to me. That’s what triggered the emotion. I was a student listening to my story. Then it hit me: I went through a lot! This was hard shit! It’s like an emotional high where you finally feel yourself letting go and sharing your story, and at the same time, you feel the love and energy in the room. It’s a really cool place to be in. Coach Val: The first time Garrett threw me on stage and told me to share my story was the first time I wasn’t crying because I was in front of people, I was crying because I was realizing "Holy shit, you went through a lot of stuff, Val." It was the first time I felt my true sense of purpose. That moment was also therapeutic for me because I realized other people open up so that they don’t feel alone, and in opening up, I felt less alone. [mks_pullquote align="left" width="300" size="24" bg_color="#000000" txt_color="#ffffff"]QUESTION[/mks_pullquote] How do you feel when you share your story? Point #3: Turning Weaknesses into Strengths Ani: When I see students talk about things I would never talk about, I feel like they’re so strong for being able to share that part of their story. But when it comes to my sadness, vulnerability, and tears, I can shut it down super fucking quick. I view it as a weakness in myself, which is so fucked up. Why is it good for someone else but not good for me to do that? The first time I was really vulnerable with the students was at the beginning of January when I ended my engagement. I'm in front of 125 artists and telling them this entire story, and the whole time I’m doing it I’m thinking, “You’ve lost your fucking mind. I can’t believe you’re sitting here sharing this deep, painful part of your life!" The outpouring of love and support I received for weeks afterward totally blew me away. It was in that moment I realized that the more I can be open and honest with my students on anything and everything, the more it can help them. [mks_pullquote align="left" width="300" size="24" bg_color="#000000" txt_color="#ffffff"]QUESTION[/mks_pullquote] How would sharing your story begin healing you and others? Point #4: It's All or Nothing Coach Ani: I went back into the network and shared more detail than I had ever shared. I was sharing nitty gritty shit, which probably made me look like shit, and like a terrible human. But it just is what it is. I’m not going to lie and make myself look better, which I think is something a lot of people do. If you’re going to tell the story, tell all of it. Danielle: People can read when others aren't being authentic; when there's a piece of the puzzle missing from their story. An important piece to growth and accountability is being able to share your story - your whole story. Not in the sense of “That’s why I’m so awesome," but more like "Hey, I was a douchebag and I learned a lot from it. My goal is to course correct and not continue to live in douchebag land." [mks_pullquote align="left" width="300" size="24" bg_color="#000000" txt_color="#ffffff"]QUESTION[/mks_pullquote] What details do you leave of your story because you're afraid of looking bad? Point #5: Keep Your Soup in the Bowl Ani: Imagine you have a porcelain bowl that has a chip in it. Take care of it when it’s just a little chip. If you don’t, it will grow into a bigger and bigger crack until eventually you literally can’t fix it. At that point, the bowl is so irreparable that you end up tossing it. The business and friendship go south, shit goes sideways, and you can’t keep your soup in the bowl anymore. Danielle: I have experienced that in my marriage. I had a massive, gaping channel through my bowl, with three to four years of shitty behavior on both sides - which took us four to five years to repair. We’d repair the little chip in the bowl, say something rude to each other, and the repairs we had made would soon become undone. People ask, "How did you fix your marriage?" We tell them we became committed to making it work by slowly filling back in the cracks and holes until it felt like the bowl was whole. [mks_pullquote align="left" width="300" size="24" bg_color="#000000" txt_color="#ffffff"]QUESTION[/mks_pullquote] What is your pattern when you notice a little crack in your relationships or in your business? Quote of the Week: "Vulnerability can be a strength but obviously, in some cases, it might need to be reeled in a little bit when you’re stuck in the story of victim mentality. I’ve been like that when I’ve said: Can’t I get a fucking break!? Then I remember, "It's you, so stop acting like a whiny little bitch and start figuring something out to make things work. Take back the reigns and change it." -- Danielle White "Ryan, my husband, gave me a cactus for Valentine’s Day with the attached message: It’s a cactus, just like you - prickly and low maintenance. I thought that was the sweetest thing ever!" --Valerie Plunk "None of us has ever had a 'woe is me' moment. Anytime we’ve ever gone through and had a moment of vulnerability about our story, or about our feelings about where we’re at in life at the time, it’s always wrapped around: What’s the positive in this? What can I do to change this?" --Anianne Rivera

31 Juli 201834min

Danielle, Val, and Ani have a conversation around the topic of Protection in this week’s episode of the Big Money Stylist podcast. For Big Money Stylist, we go over the following formula each month: Week #1: Power Week #2: Production Week #3: Profit Week #4: Protection In This Week’s Episode…..PROTECTION Point #1: Meltdown Territory Coach Val: When I hear the phrase “meltdown territory,” it means that you’re about to hit it. You’re not there yet, but you’re about to freak the fuck out and shit’s about to go sideways. Coach Ani: You’re about to hit rock fucking bottom. You’re not doing well, physically or emotionally. Danielle: Everybody has a bucket, and everybody has different levels to their bucket before they flip their lid. When I hear meltdown mode, if you have 17 levels before you hit meltdown mode, you’re at a 16.9, and you’re about ready to flip your lid. Sometimes when you flip your lid, that amount of emotion makes you reevaluate things to take the actions necessary to do what you’re supposed to be doing. QUESTION What happens to you when you enter meltdown territory? Point #2: Survival Mode Coach Ani: We’re constantly asking ourselves, “Is she in meltdown territory? Is he in meltdown territory?” Are they on the ledge? Did you talk them off the ledge? I think artists will understand it as burn out mode. They love their job so much that sometimes they grind and grind and grind, thinking it’s a good thing, when, in reality, it’s not actually serving them. Coach Val: We tend to measure success by how busy we are. And because we love doing what we do so much, it’s hard to tell people, no. In that space, you’re not producing your best work but rather just maintaining and keeping your head above water; you’re hanging on in survival mode. At that point, it’s not about doing your best work, and in this space, a lot of shit can go sideways. QUESTION What areas of your life are impacted when you find yourself in survival mode more often than not? Point #3: State of Implosion Danielle: Once you reach that state of implosion, you have to take a few steps back. It slows you down, which can be a good thing because it gets you to this place where you can finally do shit. But at the same time, you don’t want every growth point in your life to be measured based on explosions. You want to be able to recognize the signs early on, protect what you’re building, and take action before it explodes. It takes a lot of courage to do that. In my experience, that’s how I used to experience life – how both Garrett and I experienced life – through pain. Then I got to this point in life where I asked myself, “Why does every lesson in life have to be painful? I realized it was because I was choosing to take it to that painful point. As our businesses have grown, I’ve been trying to get to that place that is right before implosion. QUESTION What can you do to access growth without having to experience the pain of implosion first? Point #4: Addicted to Growth Coach Ani: What we’re training and teaching has never before been seen inside the hair industry. We’re also teaching and incorporating the Warrior’s Way of having balance across CORE4 (Body, Being, Balance, Business). Our students are super excited to go forward and learn this. They’re learning so much and they’re so fucking amped that they keep doing more and more. When they realize they don’t actually have any balance and that they might be going backward, I find myself having to get them to reel it back in. Danielle: You get addicted to the growth, and in being addicted, you keep piling it on, “I’m changing my mindset, I’m living this new way!” When in reality, they’re actually regressing. Just as life has times and seasons, so does progressing and moving forward. Coach Val: I get that because I’m addicted to the growth. We see results happen so fast that we don’t want to stop. At the same time, you look around and realize that you’re also fucking some shit up and you’ve got to reel it back in. QUESTION How do you know when you’ve reached the point where it’s time for you to slow down and reel it back in? Point #5: Letting Go Danielle: With everyone on the team, I feel we all have these seasons of craziness which is a signal to me that we have to readjust. The more we can slowly let go, the more we can grow, which I’ve experienced on so many levels. I used to think I was protecting my business by doing everything and micromanaging all of it. So many times a voice would come to me and say “you have to let it go.” My response? You can fuck right off. I’m not letting shit go.” When you’re addicted to that hustle and grind, the hardest thing is stepping back and saying I’m not the only one that is going to make this shit rise to the top. Ani: I’m just trying to protect BMS and get my head on straight. What I’ve noticed in BMS and in Warrior, is that protection is hardest for the single people because there is no “I should go home now and be with my family or my kids.” There’s none of that so grind mode is almost harder to get out of. Even when I go home, I almost feel guilty having that time off when there are things that need to get done, and if don’t do it, no one’s going to do it. QUESTION Where in your life do you know it’s time to start letting go? Quote of the Week: “Protect your words, protect yourself, protect your mindset, and respect yourself. If you lead with that approach, I think you’ll be surprised at how things are less emotional and more logical. Start off on the right foot by setting up your boundaries. If you’re a hairstylist, it’s not too late to go in and tell your boss what days and hours you’ll be working. Hold strong to it because the only person who is really going to let you down, is yourself.” — Danielle White “Boundaries can change as you evolve and change. If it’s not working for you anymore, adjust your boundaries. But remember, you have to be the one to do that, first and foremost, before anyone can show you that same respect. It starts and ends with you.” –Valerie Plunk “I’ve come to realize that I love working. I never have a problem with it. But then I’m like, shit, here I am teaching and training the Warrior’s Way to all of these women inside of BMS, yet I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t live this shit. I’ll remind myself, fucking Ani, you should probably learn to reel it in at some point. But then I swear it’s like a fishing line where all of a sudden I find myself hooked all over again.” –Anianne Rivera

24 Juli 201830min

The powerhouse trio is back in the studio this week with a conversation around the topic of Production. Danielle, Val, and Ani discuss how they've seen many artists try to skip the steps necessary for success, and instead concentrate more on their quest for celebrity status and money rather than on the craft itself. At the end of the day, there is no substitute for doing the daily work necessary to build a strong foundation and long-term success. For Big Money Stylist, we go over the following formula each month: Week #1: Power Week #2: Production Week #3: Profit Week #4: Protection In This Week's Episode.....PRODUCTION Point #1: What is Production? Danielle: If you’re not producing, what are you working for? Production is a direct reflection of where you are in business and life. If you’re working and find yourself running in circles, or if you do your numbers and you’re not profitable, what are you working for? You’ve got to know your numbers, and you’ve got to be profitable in order to make it worth your time. Coach Ani: Production is literally just doing the work.Coach Val: Take those steps and do them each correctly. Go through the process and trust the process. It may seem like you’re going at a slow pace because you’re not yet seeing the end result of what you want, but just take the steps to get there and you will have better production. QUESTION: What does "doing the work" look like for you? Point #2: It's About Steps, Not Time Danielle: I think people get confused about doing time vs putting in the work and taking all of the necessary steps. I have to remind Garrett sometimes, "I don’t care if you have someone who comes to work with you who is older than you, or says that he’s been a coach and a trainer for 20 years. You built this shit and he’s working for you.” You can’t skip steps. You can work together and get to that point, but you’re not equal and everybody plays a role. Coach Val: Skipping steps just doesn’t work. It’s actually taking each step and being successful with each one before taking the next one. It’s not about time, either. It’s not like once you’ve spent 20 years in the industry, you've arrived. Rather, it’s the number of steps you’ve taken. For example, in an assistant program, it might take someone nine months and another person two full years before they're completely ready to take on clients. QUESTION: Where in your world are you skipping necessary steps? Point #3: Do the Daily Work Coach Ani: Inside of BMS, we've created a Funnel for all of our students. Imagine a website that is an expensive and amazing marketing tool. Our tools will assist you in succeeding, but if they're not willing to do the very beginning work, like the Daily 4 where they post on social media every single day, then no one will ever see their website. Someone can have 1500 websites and funnels, but if you’re not leading anyone to them, they literally will never work. Coach Val: Although we're really honest with our students, we see some going home from our classes all excited about charging $2000 per client right out of the gate. Here's a heads up: your work is going to suck. Big time. My work sucked at the very beginning, and so will yours. Reel it back in and start out at a lower price point. There are so many steps for you to take before you’re ready to charge that high ticket amount. QUESTION: How does this conversation to relate to other areas of your life? Point #4: Do it Anyway Coach Val: I love being on this team. The fact that Danielle and Garrett will never slow down, inspires me. It motivates me to want to keep working hard and see where that gets me. There is no end game for me; I don’t know what the end looks like. I just know that every single day, I’m going to give it my all despite how I’m feeling. Danielle: Sometimes I wake up and I don’t want to do anything. I’m fucking over it. What you and I are experiencing is totally normal, and that means we’re going through emotions that everybody goes through. It’s what you choose to do with those emotions that enable you to move forward. QUESTION: How do you keep going despite how you're sometimes feeling? Point #5: Building a Kingdom Danielle: When opportunity arises as the next natural step, and you feel like the cards are aligned, be willing to take a leap - an educated leap. You have to slowly build your kingdom. If you blow things up too quickly, the kingdom crumbles. I'm going to be riding this train out for a bit; it's not just a fun ride for the next couple of years. Coach Ani: We're building a kingdom on a solid foundation, which is a true love of the craft. We’re in it for what it’s doing for everyone else, not for the money, and not for the celebrity status. We're here because we love it; we're here because we want to make a change. QUESTION: What type of foundation are you building? Quote of the Week: "I don’t want to be on the stage, I want to build the fucking stage." -- Danielle White "Keep doing the work - no matter what your mood is -  and you will always see results from that. Whether or not you want to show up that day, show up that fucking day; you will never regret that you did the work." --Valerie Plunk "You need to look inward and ask yourself, "What am I doing or not doing?" Look inward and hold yourself accountable." --Anianne Rivera

10 Juli 201839min

For Big Money Stylist, we go over the following formula each month: Week #1: Power Week #2: Production Week #3: Profit Week #4: Protection In This Week’s Episode…..POWER In today's episode of Big Money Stylist, Danielle, Val, and Ani engage in an insightful conversation surrounding the topic of power, and how to successfully navigate the fine line that exists between power and entitlement. Point #1: Fine Line Between Power and Entitlement The ladies agree with Val who believes that “power is confidence in owning your shit and owning where you’re at.” While on the road to finding their power, Val believes that people tend to become a little too confident, which leads them to feel like things are owed to them. “That’s the slippery slope and fine line. We want to empower artists to live their best life and stand up for themselves, but sometimes, once they find their power, they start becoming a little lazy and entitled.” Ani: The entire point of BMS is to empower someone to move forward to a better place – a place they love, and a place that they’re completely obsessed with; that’s literally the entire point. Unfortunately, entitlement sometimes comes along with power.  Danielle: When it’s easy, people tend to take it for granted. If, for example, you’re an assistant and somebody paves the way for you a little bit, making your path easier, that’s when entitlement happens. QUESTION How do you know when you’ve crossed the line from power to entitlement? Point #2: Staying in the Loop Danielle is constantly reminding herself to “be humble, dial it back in, and do the work. I think it’s important to have a little bit of an ego to be able to push, teach, and move forward – to be able to do what we do – and then to be able to dial it back.” “If you get stuck in entitlement, you won’t necessarily grow; you’ll loop. You’ll feel like you’re growing fast, but you’re just doing loops. I’ve experienced where I thought I was moving forward because I was working hard, but ended up going in circles. I think a lot of people confuse putting in the time with doing the actual work.” QUESTION Where in your world do you feel like you’re staying in the loop – working like crazy, yet never moving forward? Point #3: Course Correction Ani can attest to the fact that Garrett’s course corrections can be a gnarly smack in the face; they’re not delightful and dainty, but swift, direct and to the point. One of the Warrior’s describes it this way: Whether I agree or disagree with what he’s saying, I tell him, hey, thank you. That’s literally the only way I can learn and grow. I then step back and ask myself, “If this is what he said to me, then what am I doing that’s making it come across like that?” Val: I’ll be caught off guard at first, but then I step back and look at it from his perspective. What am I doing? What is my role? I can’t change how anyone else is going to behave, but what I can change is myself and how I will react. Once you take on that accountability, it’s so freeing, so many more opportunities open up, and with that, there’s more room for growth. QUESTION How do you handle course correction? Are you open to feedback? Point #4:  Living in the State of Gratitude Opens Doors Ani: Val and I are always sharing our gratitude with Garrett and Danielle, not to ass-kiss, but to express gratitude for opening doors and giving us the choice to step through them. We’ve literally run through every single door, every single time. As Garrett and I were listing the top five students, gratitude was the #1 trait they each exhibited. When I see gratitude show up in our students, I know they’re going somewhere because of it. Val: When I’m in a state of gratitude, acknowledging the smallest things I’m grateful for – when I stay in that place of gratitude, so many more opportunities open up for me. I learned early on that when I begin complaining and wondering why I’m not as successful as another person, it doesn’t benefit me, so I never allow myself to go there. If your mindset doesn’t shift from complaining and entitlement to gratitude, more opportunities won’t open up for you and you’ll continue staying in that same loop. QUESTION Describe how you feel when you’re in a state of gratitude, versus how you feel when you’re in a state of entitlement. Point #5: Paint a Clear Vision After laying out the numbers and taking a thorough look at them, Garrett and Danielle made some commission changes at the salon recently. Val: I agree with Danielle when she talks about painting a clear vision of “if you just show up and do the art, then the rest of it will be taken care of.” I love that about our salon. I get to go there and do amazing hair, and everything else is handled for me. I don’t have to worry about the backend. There’s a price tag on that and I’ll happily pay it because I hate it so much. Danielle: I literally lost sleep over this. For Garrett and I, we’re in it too deep and will fucking figure it out – no matter what it takes. We’ve gone through the loop so many times that now, when we recognize we’re in it, we realize, alright, shit’s gotta change and we’ve got to collide. I think a lot of business owners will sacrifice themselves by continuing on, believing things will turn around. Yet, when they don’t turn around and they realize they’re fucked, everybody gets fired, and they close their doors. QUESTION How do you respond to change and collision when it’s unmistakably necessary? Quote of the Week: “Always dial it back in. Always be willing to be humble. Work hard. Live your life with the energy of gratitude. You’ll be surprised how doing little things like that will push you forward in life.” — Danielle White “Entitlement won’t help you grow, so don’t be entitled. Look at yourself. Be accountable. Nothing’s going to get handed to you. If you work for something, you will grow; that’s where you’ll find your power. Where you won’t find your power is in having an entitled attitude.” –Valerie Plunk “Go to your place where you feel calm and happy, where you feel like a king or a queen; go to that spot and take a good look at yourself, look inward and ask yourself: Where in your life do you know you have power, and where in your life have you been more entitled than anything else?” –Anianne Rivera

3 Juli 201839min