why you keep falling in limerence with unavailable people who break your heart [preview]

why you keep falling in limerence with unavailable people who break your heart [preview]

In this Premium Submarine exclusive, you’ll hear a preview of my response to a voicemail from a listener who is stumped as to why she continues to fall into the repetitive pattern of falling fast for unavailable partners.


Questions answered + topics discussed in this episode:


✧ What is limerence?

✧ How to tell if your feelings for your romantic interest are infatuation or love

✧ What are the stages of limerence?

✧ How to manage limerent feelings and stop repeating self-sabotaging patterns

✧ Why some people are attracted to more avoidant partners (and why anxious and avoidant people tend to attract one another)

✧ Why do anxiously attached individuals often begin to resent or split on more avoidant partners

✧ How growing up in dysfunctional high-conflict homes can make us more attracted to high-conflict relationships (making safe/kind partners seem “boring”)


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The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.

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