The Freeze Response, Gifted Kid Syndrome, and BPD: July Mailbag

Dr. Hanson and Forrest continue their series on “Who Am I” by exploring narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder. Specifically, how can we take in the healthy narcissistic supplies we need to become confident, effective individuals without falling prey to unhealthy narcissistic tendencies? Sign-up for Dr. Hanson's new monthly meditation program here. Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price: https://bit.ly/2NEnVU3 Timestamps: 01:22: How would you, as a clinician, describe the spectrum of narcissism? 04:03: What’s narcissism at the 1%, 5% or even 10% mark? 07:36: How is narcissism distinct from just being confident? 12:47: Where does narcissism come from? 27:48: How can we take in healthy narcissistic supplies without becoming narcissists? 31:32: Should people with 10% narcissism still take in narcissistic supplies? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

29 Apr 201940min

Dr. Hanson and Forrest answer questions from listeners that explore how we can release our attachment to different experiences, and learn to let go. If you'd like to submit a question, use the form on this page! Timestamps: 1:25: Dealing with a hoarding addiction. 15:23: The difference between chemical and natural states of mind. 24:11: Should we bring pharmaceuticals into our mindfulness practice? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

22 Apr 201931min

Author and mindfulness teacher Oren Jay Sofer shares the one thing he does each day for his own well-being. Get more Just One Things from Dr. Rick Hanson here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

18 Apr 20199min

So much of our happiness and well-being comes back to how effectively we’re able to communicate with others – particularly in our important relationships. But how often are we our best selves? Are we able to hear others and speak our mind in a clear and kind way, without either becoming defensive or being excessively punishing and prosecutorial? To help us learn how to do just that, Forrest and Dr. Hanson are joined today by Oren Jay Sofer, the author of Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. Learn more about Say What You Mean here Oren's website Timestamps: 1:38: What is Nonviolent Communication? 5:12: The true nature of Nonviolent Communication. 9:25: How this style of communication changes us. 15:08: Why should we communicate this way when other people don't? 20:26: How can we make demands of other people nonviolently? 32:13: If others don't communicate with us in good faith, should we still be nonviolent? 37:32: Lessons for your younger self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

15 Apr 201942min

During today's special mailbag episode, Dr. Hanson and Forrest answer questions from listeners related to things that can hijack our attention, specifically hysterical and violent forms of media. If you'd like to submit a question, use the form on this page! Royal Society Open Science Study Statement from the Society for Media Psychology and Technology of the American Psychological Association Consortium of Scholars Open Letter PNAS Metaanalysis Timestamps: 2:00: "I feel like our culture bombards us with hysteria. What can we do to stop it from influencing us?" 12:50: "Do violent video games, or other forms of media, cause children to become violent?" 24:45: "How much exposure to intense media would you allow your child?" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

8 Apr 201931min

In part two of their conversation with Dr. Christine Carter, Dr. Hanson and Forrest explore the "Sweet Spot," that place of effortless effectiveness where we can be both productive and relaxed. Our relationships with other people are one of the major influences that can pull us out of that sweet spot, so they are once again a major focus during this episode. Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Key Topics: 0:25: What is the "sweet spot?" 3:30: What pulls us out of the sweet spot? 6:10: How can our important relationships pull us out of the sweet spot? 8:00: How can we know when we've stuck around in a relationship too long, or, on the other hand, when we're leaving too quickly? 10:00: What are things we can influence others on? And what things are unchangeable in our relationship? 14:35: How we can stand up for ourselves. 16:40: How fulfilling our duties fits into the sweet spot. 19:30: How we can find the sweet spot. 21:30: What would you say to your younger self? 23:15: Recap Sign-up for Dr. Hanson's new monthly meditation program here. Use the code BEINGWELL for 10% off the purchase price: https://bit.ly/2NEnVU3 Sponsors: Reset and rebalance with Recess, a sparkling water infused with hemp extract and adaptogens. Take 15% off your first order by using code BEINGWELL at checkout. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

5 Apr 201926min

Christine Carter shares the most important thing she does each day for her own well-being: finding the time to meditate and accept herself as she is. Sign up for Dr. Rick Hanson's free Just One Thing Newsletter here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Apr 20194min

Parenting and forming strong intimate relationships can be challenging under the best of circumstances, and life is rarely perfect. In this episode Dr. Hanson and Forrest speak with Dr. Christine Carter, author of Raising Happiness and The Sweet Spot, about how we can form strong intimate relationships with our children, parents, and partners. This is the first part of two with Dr. Carter, the second episode in this series will be coming later this week. We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. If you'd like to start making real, positive changes to your brain and your life, but you don't have a lot of extra time, then you may want to check out Rick Hanson's new program: Just One Minute. Use the code BEINGWELL at checkout for 10% off the purchase price. Sponsors: Reset and rebalance with Recess, a sparkling water infused with hemp extract and adaptogens. Take 15% off your first order by using code BEINGWELL at checkout. Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!  Connect with the show: Visit us on the web Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1 Apr 201926min