132. Love Letter: When to Get New Friends + Spiraling About the Return of Skinny Culture

Opening up with a bang (see what we did there), Caroline updates Jess on the recent end to her "celibacy" (now you see), which turns into an even more important update on the age-old question, "what is DJ?" After this lesson in music theory, we shift gears and talk about headspace - specifically Jess', and why it's never right. We muse on what it means to protect our energy, and how that may differ for introverts and extroverts. Either way, it's important to both of us to spend time alone to get in touch with the things we actually enjoy, so we share some tips for listeners on getting more comfortable with solitude. Caroline has a bone to pick with a certain type of jewelry, and also a certain type of dating profile. This leads to an ill-defined conversation on our ick lists - one much more reasonable than the other. __ This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: ⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

9 Feb 20231h 5min

Jess and Caroline are at it again with an episode full of "segments" - starting with a Stranger Danger story from Jess of a recent dermatology appointment that turned into a therapy session. This conversation about unwanted and unboundaried connections with randos turns into a larger breakthrough about our shifting availability for other people as life get busier. Takeaways: This podcast is our baby, and diversified fulfillment has its downsides; namely, finding balance. Shifting gears, Caroline soft launches her new dating theory that "it doesn't have to be going well," and we insist that no singular moment is the deciding factor in most relationships. Even if it is, bring on the rejection. Especially if it has to do with judgment about music taste or museum appreciation. We're swine, we know. __ This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: ⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

2 Feb 20231h

In this new deep dive series we're calling "For You", Caroline and Jess tackle the big daddy of all topics: breakups. 'Tis the season and it's not lost on us! So here's everything we could possibly fit into a reasonable length episode, including:  How to know when to leave a relationship Our approaches to healing from a breakup Whether "no contact" is the only option Situationships and why they're sometimes harder to get over We yell, we pontificate, we read from old journals and quote Ariana Grande and actually give a lot of real tips in terms of what to do to get through this. But if all else fails, you can always DM lover/ENFJ/BDE Jess. Caroline will be too busy getting herself off on psychedelics. __ This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: ⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@abinewhouse⁠⁠⁠ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

26 Jan 20231h 16min

Jess and Caroline show up to this recording with different energies, so we turn to a listener DM and strike gold when Jess fumbles her words into a new segment called WHATADO. Whatado when you don't like your friend's partner? We don't know *what to do* but we certainly can list all the options of ~whatado~ Caroline also poses a genuine question, "what is DJ?" Jess talks about a recent #fleetingfixation that she'll be bored of next week, Caroline gives an update on "stupid ways she's growing" (hint: it has to do with her hatred of texting), and we wander through a number of other random thots before concluding that we've solved it all. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠ for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: ⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

19 Jan 20231h 6min

It's a moist one! In this episode, Jess and Caroline slid from topic to topic, opening with some listener appreciation (and a new interactive segment #searchhistoryshame), then turning it way down with a discussion about disappointing people. We explore the pros and cons of codependence and have some breakthroughs that ultimately lead us to agree: we wouldn't date our families.  Is there room for jokes during sex? How did we segue into that? Are you offended? Guess what, it's legal. Science is a fact and everything else is an opinion and ours aren't for everyone the end..  __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

12 Jan 20231h 2min

Coming back from the holiday break, Jess and Caroline are bringing the energy for our first episode of 2023. We talk about the toxicity of hustle culture, then hear an update from Caroline on her relationship (or non-relationship) with "Steve" (or "non-Steve"). This sends us into a bigger conversation on being direct in dating vs. overthinking in fear of a negative response, and guess what! Turns out safe communication is kinky. Then Jess shares her working theory that everything is a projection, and talks about breaking out of the expectations others project onto her. The body keeps the score, and other books we'll never read, amiright? A few other pivots in the episode take us to the age-old question: "why are men's Instagram stories so boring?" and a new segment idea called "Squisitely." Likelihood of returning to that one still undetermined.  __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

5 Jan 202356min

Allow us to re-introduce ourselves… or maybe introduce ourselves for the first time? Four episodes in, Caroline and Jess realize we haven’t even let the listeners in on why we’re here in the first place. So we open the curtain on our love story - how we know each other, and what brought us back together years later to start Not for Everyone. We also share the backstories of our AIM usernames from middle school, talk about our rejection of five year plans, dissect how we try to live by our values, and read from random lists we keep in our iPhone notes (because how else would Jess remember anything about herself). __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

29 Dec 202250min

Jess and Caroline are feeling much more at ease in the third installment of NFE...so it's no wonder their conversation moves from hot takes on weddings and showers, to breaking down Caroline's current dating conundrum, to Jess' fascination with stuck porn. Things devolve pretty quickly in this one, and it's exactly the vibe they've been craving these past couple of weeks.  This episode is definitely not for everyone - especially the kids in the car with you, and the haus of DeBakey, Winkler, and affiliates. Don't say we didn't warn ya. __ Share with a friend! Subscribe and rate us on your favorite podcasting app! Review us on Apple Podcasts! SUBSCRIBE on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for full episode video. And FOLLOW US on Instagram for more: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@not4everyonepod⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@thegoodsitter⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@jzdebakey⁠⁠⁠⁠ __ Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA __ DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

22 Dec 202252min